Chocolate Kay

@eurofounder “than be safe in a racist white one” Where could I find such a city? Asking for a friend.

@BasilTheGreat You don't need a referendum. You just need to realize that the very first requirement for any ideology to be legally qualified as a "religion" is that it should allow its followers to freely leave said religion. If apostasy is punished in any way then it's a cult not a religion.

@BasilTheGreat Ban it!

If there was a referendum on banning Islam in the UK would you vote to ban it? Yes or No

@Cd_Julian_ If you are religious at all, think of it this way. If God can send you to Hell for not behaving as he expects you to, then surely you can do what you did. I mean, it's not exactly infinite suffering like Hell.

Hace cinco años, mi suegra necesitaba un trasplante de riñón y yo fui la única compatible en la familia. Lo hice por amor a mi esposo. El mes pasado, mi esposo me pidió el divorcio porque 'quería experimentar cosas nuevas' con una mujer más joven. Mi suegra, que ahora goza de perfecta salud gracias a mí, me dijo que 'así es la vida' y que debía abandonar la casa que yo misma ayudé a pagar, porque legalmente está a nombre de ella. No les grité. Solo contacté al hospital y a la fundación de seguros: como el trasplante se hizo bajo un acuerdo de 'apoyo familiar' que incluía mi permanencia en la póliza de salud premium de la familia, he retirado mi consentimiento para los beneficios adicionales que cubren sus medicamentos de mantenimiento post-operatorio. Ahora ellos tendrán que pagar $2,000 mensuales de su bolsillo para que ella no rechace el órgano. ¿Soy una persona malvada por dejar de financiar la salud de alguien que me echó a la calle después de que le salvé la vida?

@Cd_Julian_ Nope. I snorted when I read that bit. Consequences! You took on the consequences of just one kidney so she should also accept consequences.

@crouchie786 @clairebubblepop You underestimate what apathy does in a vacuum.

@clairebubblepop Surely….surely ‘patriots’ of this ‘Christian’ country should be more afraid of people that don’t beleive in God…

Remember guys only 6% of the British population is Muslim. So when you hear people saying we’re being taken over… they’re chatting SHIT.

@clairebubblepop And the rich elites are what percentage again? 1%? But don't worry, they're not in control either.

@ColeFusionHQ @ExegeekPrime You're the one who's asking why the NHS don't get all their stuff back. Presumably, you think it'd be fine to reuse it here but you take issue with it being good enough for other countries.

@ExegeekPrime So it is not ok for Brits to have this stuff, but it is fine for Africans? Not sure I'd be ethically comfortable in a job that does this. You should quit.

the NHS spends £15m a year replacing equipment that patients never gave back. crutches in the loft. oxygen machines in the lounge. wheelchairs in the garage. walking frames behind the sofa. what NHS equipment has your family quietly kept

@ColeFusionHQ Spot the person who's never actually needed the NHS.

@ColeFusionHQ Hospitals never use the same tools twice. They come in sealed plastic and then get thrown away. Ask them if you can keep them instead. I have pair of scissors that was going straight in the bin after they'd used them for cutting my bandage (or something, can't remember what).

@Mr_Husky1 I think you're being more than reasonable. As a new bride, I wouldn't feel comfortable having my honeymoon in anyone else's house anyway.

AITAH for refusing to let my brother-in-law and his new wife use our bedroom during their honeymoon stay? My husband (36M) and I (35F) live in a very scenic area — the kind of place people pick for their honeymoon. His brother (30M) and soon-to-be wife (28F) asked if they could stay with us after their wedding since they’re on a tight budget. We said absolutely — happy to host. We have a two-bedroom house. The guest room is also my home office, so it has an air mattress instead of a permanent bed. Not ideal, but it works fine for guests. Last week, my BIL asked my husband if they could stay in our bedroom instead because, in their words, an air mattress "doesn't feel honeymoon-appropriate." When my husband asked how I felt, I told him honestly: I’m not comfortable giving up our bedroom, especially for a honeymoon. It’s our personal space, our bed, and it just felt… too intimate. My husband agreed. Well, word got around the family, and now his sister is saying we’re being inconsiderate and that “it’s their honeymoon, they shouldn’t have to sleep on an air mattress.” My husband is now torn because he doesn’t want family tension. But I’m still a firm no. I don’t think being generous hosts means giving up the most private part of our home, especially when the request feels less about comfort and more about wanting a fully private, fully “romantic” setup — which I’m just not comfortable providing. We already offered what we reasonably can: a free place to stay in a beautiful location. I don’t think hosting someone means surrendering our bedroom. Credit - amitheassholee

@billy_wrinkles @Askrigg_lad @BBCNews @UKLabour Let's break this down. I never said it applied to a whole demographic. 2nd, you completely dismissed my knowledge as not true, that in itself is untrue. My point is about child poverty and my working experience tells me removing the cap won't change a thing.

@ChocolateKay14 @Askrigg_lad @BBCNews @UKLabour No it isn't, and 'I work in housing so I've seen it all' neither qualifies, or entitles you to collectively judge a whole demographic as neglectful drug users. It is a personal opinion based on possibly one or two examples that has prejudiced your whole view of said demographic.

There is a woman on @BBCNews this morning complaining that she is struggling to cope because she is out of work and has FIVE children. She says what a relief it is to get the extra money from @UKLabour with the removal of the two child benefit cap. My very simple question is - why have FIVE children knowing she won’t be able to afford to look after them? There is a very simple solution. It’s called Birth Control.

@CoKamaaina @Benjami26383445 @washghost1 I wouldd also add that after a verbal conversation, write the person an email summarising what was discussed and agreed. Not sure where you stand if they disagree with the contents of the email but if they don't reply in writing, they are in effect accepting what you wrote.

@ChocolateKay14 @Benjami26383445 @washghost1 YES, this is key to maintaining evidence. Ask me how I know...

I’d walk right out of that job

@Benjami26383445 @washghost1 Forward those emails to your personal email and keep them in a special folder.

@washghost1 No, you have to play the game. Slack off on your lunch break as obnoxiously as possible. Keep collecting those emails. Wait until it’s bad enough so they call you into HR for a face to face. Refuse to change. MAKE them fire you and then sue them for wrongful termination 😂

@washghost1 FO Brenda.

@billy_wrinkles @Askrigg_lad @BBCNews @UKLabour It is true. Did you not read that I work in housing so I've seen it all. Before I did, I thought the same as you but I've discovered that my mum struggling on welfare was the exception that proves the rule, sadly.

@ChocolateKay14 @Askrigg_lad @BBCNews @UKLabour You know that nearly all parents- Yes, even poorer one's receiving UC- love their children more than life itself and feed and care for them as best they can. The 'drugs and hair extensions' before their children cliche is old, tired and simply not true.

@BurrowingDan @NinaPanickssery @safetysquatczar This lady is so right. Even a tiny baby will pick up on whether it feels wanted or not. Look up attachment theory.

@NinaPanickssery @safetysquatczar I think this will start to matter a little bit by 9mo and a lot by 12mo and become extremely developmentally damaging by 16 mo. That time is going to pass very quickly, and setting up (and settling into) childcare arrangements take time. I don't think this is a premature concern.

Genuinely curious—why don’t more people use their own parents/kid’s grandparents for childcare as opposed to daycare/preschool/nannies (which seem more common)? Is it common for boomer grandparents to show disinterest in their grandchildren?

@jimpossibldp @luxemiaa More worrying is that they are both African and come from a culture that circumcises girls.

@luxemiaa Is his new wife from Africa? Any chance he got a job there, like in oil or something? This sounds like he might be planning to stay there.

@luxemiaa WARNING! Check which religion and culture dad comes from. Seven is the age they usually circumcise girls. If his new wife is also African, she could be putting pressure on him to do this.