@JeanneIves Eligible first time home buyers are probably first generation homebuyers & mostly illegals
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cmcjjpp
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STOP using my money to give to people unwilling to work hard enough and SAVE for a home. All of my adult children that are out of school own homes with no help from us. One of them owns two. Same with plenty of other families. Fund these folks yourself with your billions.
Governor JB Pritzker@GovPritzker
Illinois launched Access Home just nine weeks ago — a new program offering up to $15,000 in down payment and closing cost assistance for eligible first-time homebuyers statewide. And we’re already helping out 1,500 Illinoisans put down roots with more to come.
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@nithyavraman And where do you live? Do you live there bc your house burned down?
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Donald Trump is about to endorse Spencer.
Tonight is the fundraising deadline, and we need to raise more to prove that LA doesn't want a MAGA Republican mayor who lives in the Bel Air hotel.
Donate NOW secure.actblue.com/donate/nithya4…
Daily Mail@DailyMail
Donald Trump is considering endorsing Spencer Pratt for LA mayor, sources claim, as underdog ex-reality star steamrolls opposition trib.al/LO5q0ky
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@retarded__woman I love how ppl on one side of this issue take what their grandparents did or how their lovely MIL behaves & super impose into every new mother as if the modern woman is the problem. Maybe everyone has a different family? We should all agree, a new mother should be prioritized
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Something I haven’t seen acknowledged in the post-partum visitors discourse is it seems to be a more modern issue. My paternal grandmother was incredibly helpful to my mom for all three kids and knew it was about supporting her + the babies
Boomer & Gen X women are just n-words
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@gmk_julie Can you believe how simple it is? You ask the new mother what she wants, & then you respect it, whatever she chooses, without being a selfish entitled whiner
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Update: Just had our son and daughter-in-law over for dinner and just straight up asked them when and where they would like us to first see new grand baby who is due at the end of June. She said she would like us to come to the hospital as soon as he is born. So that is what we will happily be doing. After all the controversy on X this week I feel like we've just narrowly avoided a potential disaster.
Julie_married_to_Thomas_but_not_a_Thomist@gmk_julie
My in-laws were always first in to see our babies at the hospital, and I welcomed that. My own parents never even came. That’s cuz as soon as I was in labor they were at our house making it spic and span for baby’s homecoming. My dad watched the other kids and did yard work while my mom cleaned and grocery shopped and fixed my husband's favorite foods. She would get my bed all freshly ready with a vase of flowers next to it and clean jammies laid out and a tea tray ready to go. They were there to welcome the baby home and then my mom would stay for a week making sure I wanted for absolutely nothing. Their absence at the hospital was always the best present.
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@musings_blonde People are taking a lot of specifics from their families & projecting them onto new mothers everywhere like we should all follow the same rules. I can try to imagine your praying MIL if you can try to imagine my manipulative narcissistic personality disordered MIL
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My mom and mother-in-law stayed in the hospital waiting room all day. They prayed and prayed, and when my husband texted that our son was “finally here,” they cried and danced around the room together.
Imagine after all that telling my MIL she couldn’t see the baby.
I understand needing rest and boundaries postpartum. Truly. But some of the discourse online acts like grandparents are random intruders instead of family who have loved and prayed for that child long before they were born.
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@jkbjournalist Nobody watched him & that’s why he’s getting fired though. That’s the way the entertainment business works
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Incredibly stupid of CBS to do something like this at a time when the public is gravitating to independent media. Colbert will go independent and all those viewers (and more) will follow.
Amy Aiello Lofgren@azsweetheart013
Goodnight and FUCK @CBS
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@brittilina Yet another reason to restrict visitors. No one has said baby is “only” for mom. Just that mom is uniquely critical at that time & also requires extra care do to the fact she just pushed a human out of her body. Not a soul has advocated that their husbands bond doesn’t matter.
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@naurpillled What will make you a good MIL is how you respond to your DIL if your hope & prayer isn’t something she wants. It’s fine to want this, it’s not fine to be a selfish entitled manipulative b if you don’t get it. It’s not about what you want
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@its_Lexieroy Are women capable of being stupid? Were they asking stupid questions?
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🚨TRUMP JUST CALLED TWO FEMALE REPORTERS “STUPID”… AGAIN
In case anyone’s keeping count: Today alone, he called not one, but TWO female reporters “stupid” to their faces.
This isn’t a one-off.
He’s going to keep doing it.
He’s going to start calling them far worse.
Because nobody in that room — or in his own party — has the spine to stop him.
When does the press corps finally push back?
Do YOU think this is acceptable behavior from the President of the United States?
YES or NO?
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@cybelethebest That may be true, but it is also true that it remains unhealthy for the marriage & nuclear family (which does not include the childhood family) as defined by God’s biblical description of marriage & the family
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This is culturally contingent. In many cultures, now and historically, a son's primary loyalty remaining with his family of origin isn't enmeshment, it's virtue. Might go as far as to say that the Western model (more of a clean break) is the outlier.
Not a normative statement, just an observation.
Av Michal אביגיל מיכל@avygal
I think the discourse we really need to have on mom twitter is why so many moms of boys become enmeshed with their sons to the point of sabotaging their son’s marriage.
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@selentelechia This is the entire point. There is no should. One side is super imposing a bunch of self righteous “shoulds” on new mothers when it really should be up to them without guilt based on their individual circumstances. You can really tell who’s going to ruin their DIL’s life one day
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my opinion on the mother in law discourse is that my mother in law is an angel and was a NICU nurse so I'd be completely unbothered by her being involved in my kids' births and early postpartum days BUT my ex mother in law was a complete piece of work who made my skin crawl whenever she was around and my feelings would be quite different if she were the individual under consideration
so idk man I really think it depends 😂
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@latterdaylaura A lot of ego driven self righteous ppl on here should take their own advice
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Here’s the crux of it all.
You can’t change anyone else. At all. Only yourself.
If you have issues with lots of people, it’s you. You gotta do something. Take responsibility.
Laura Hudson 🇨🇦@latterdaylaura
This new generation of mothers needs their own Dr Laura to call them out. I'm happy to do it tbh
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@TarynA83 The way you self righteously climb up on your high horse, assume you know what anyone else should do for the health of their nuclear family is so obnoxious & taps into this ego driven culture of using anything & everything to prove moral superiority over strangers on the internet
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I feel like the notion of family has been lost. Americans no longer see a greater good in multigenerational celebrations and relationships. We, personally, have taught our children to honor and respect, and to LOVE, their family. We have lots of discussions about how we can respect ourselves and home, while still loving family members who might have undesirable personality traits or bad habits. They have seen us set clear boundaries against harmful relatives. Because, here’s the thing… someone might find you to be the hard person to love. Someone in your family might take issue with your beliefs, your personality, etc. Do you want to be left out just because you rub someone the wrong way? If family is only about the people who fit into boxes we create for ourselves, then we can’t grow as individuals. Loving someone as God has commanded us to will strengthen you and bless you more than only being surrounded by those who never challenge you to grow as a person. And our prayer is that our children seek out spouses who are raised by families teaching the same values. I hope my sons are husbands who know to put their wives first, and my daughters marry men who will cherish them above all. And I hope through this confidence in one another, we can all live in respectable boundaries with grace towards each other.
*this is not talking about extreme cases where family members are actually dangerous or consistently verbally abusive. Annoying and abusive are not the same. As stated, we have had to set boundaries, too, for toxic situations.
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@realpeteyb123 I’m pretty sure you don’t know everything they talked about. The way ppl take crumbs of public info & all of a sudden become experts on this app is outrageous
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The China summit was a disaster.
Most MAGA influencers won’t admit it because they’re terrified of upsetting the administration & losing access.
They didn’t even discuss tariffs.
Trump brought a parade of American oligarchs & corporate elites to impress Xi, and Xi looked like he couldn’t care less.
That’s the difference between a politician and a stone cold ruthless dictator running a long term state strategy.
Trump got outplayed by the stone cold energy.
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@AdelheidMonroe Tbh, with this mindset, you are likely to have very few problems with your DIL
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I have a different perspective. As someone likely closer in years to being a MIL than a postpartum DIL. What if you DO have a horrible mean DIL that doesn’t want you to come for 3 months, while her entire extended family was over there immediately afterwards. She only wants you to stay for 3 days and they were there for a week.
Do you complain to your son, do you write your DIL long messages about how this isn’t fair. Do you send your husband to talk sense to your son. NO you don’t. You adjust your expectations. Your relationship with your DIL is not good, that might be all her fault, but that’s who your son is married to, and that’s the mother of your grand children.
The BEST thing you can do is be kind and respectful of her and hope and pray that the relationship improves with time. None of the above behaviors will improve your relationship.
Taryn@TarynA83
Ladies. I am telling you this right now. Your husband’s family matters when you have a baby. You can say they aren’t allowed in for delivery. You can ask for limited time visits. You can ask for your husband to entertain and introduce the baby if you want to stay in bed. BUT- asking his parents/grandparents to wait to meet them while you let your family in is cruel and selfish. EVEN IF they might annoy you, or his mom is an attention hog, your baby is just as much your husband’s. Your recovery needs matter, but alienating them is wrong.
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@Elliesmommyy23 My own mother died when I was 2 wks postpartum w/ my 1st. She held my baby 1x. MIL complained every day to my husband that it wasn’t fair my family was seeing more of baby bc I traveled home to bury my mother who lived out of state. MIL wanted me to leave baby w/ her at 2wks old
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I think the discourse we really need to have on mom twitter is why so many moms of boys become enmeshed with their sons to the point of sabotaging their son’s marriage.
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@themom_katie Wtf is wrong w/ Brittany. New mothers can’t be prioritized w/out it being evidence we think men are trash? That’s some mental jiu jitsu
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@EmbracingTara I could not wear a bra or anything tighter than an extra large t shirt it hurt so bad when my milk came in. Thank you for giving these self righteous holier than thous what they deserve
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Laugh all you like. Skin to skin contact and breastfeeding are vital in the early weeks. This is a fact of physiological labor and birth.
Yes, in my own damn home, after birthing all my babies at home, I was in bed mainly topless snuggling my baby and breastfeeding them to give them the best start in life.
So, you can go ahead and shove that condescension directly up your ass and wait on your mother-in-law postpartum like the handmaiden pick-me bitch you are while your sister wife (your husband) is too much of a pussy to choose you and your newborn's wellbeing over his mommy.
Now, that's laughable.
Megg@MeggMacc
@Shersita1 @EmbracingTara I laughed when I read that. The idea of a new mom just chilling topless all the time...
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