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@RachelZader I see this happen so often when people without a mental health diagnosis date someone who does. They quietly expect the one with diagnosis to grovel and apologize after every conflict, no matter how much they were in the right, or be dismissed as crazy and delusional.

"this person who says I did something bad is crazy" is so cognitively lazy What it often means is "Any reaction that highlights my cruel or unfair behavior as well as calls for me to reflect on my actions can simply be dismissed as Mental Illness so that I'm therefore absolved of responsibility and suspicion" Like bro that's not even mental gymnastics, that's a 50yo man's cartwheel MAYBE

@FischerKing64 Right, my point is that when it has access to 44.4K of your posts, it can form a robust image of when you write something serious and when you're joking. I'm wondering if Grok is just as successful when a new account posts something ambiguous, as it'd lack that baseline.

@EmpathTrad It knows when I'm serious and it knows when I'm joking. I've tested it dozens of times because I'm curious about its capability.

Grok always knows when a post is satire. It can be obvious or very subtle - but it always knows. Large numbers of people do not know, no matter how obvious it is. That must tell us something about artificial intelligence - that it has just blown past a lot of us already.

@CognitiveMetric @EveKeneinan Not to mention, you can get a similarly good estimate of someone's IQ even faster: "What is your highest earned degree?"

@CognitiveMetric @EveKeneinan I appreciate that it's possible to find a proxy in the way he describes, but the error from test-specific knowledge is so obvious here that if this method were to ever become an "official" proxy the correlation would drop like a rock from people looking up pronunciations more.

Of course this test also serves as a good index of the IQ of the one presenting the test. Since they have arrived at the midwit idea that vocabulary is a sufficient proxy for IQ. It seems entirely plausible that those who do know all these words have a higher than average IQ, this is likely because those of higher IQs are more likely to be well-read, and those who are well-read will have encountered all these words. But it should be fairly obvious that one's general intelligence g, the thing that IQ measures, is not a function of whether or not one has ever encountered the words "demesne" or "sidereal."

@byronicgirl I hate that you're right and I want to somehow preserve all of your beautifully affectionate warm loving hearts so that when I'm finally strong enough to fully nurture and protect one through thick and thin I can brazenly gush over every romantic impulse for the rest of our lives

Rad fems will tell you “you should’ve known how men are”, trads will tell you “be practical and prioritize your kids,” and men will romanticize you while it is convenient but then call you “too intense” and prefer to chase the next girl. The best cultural solution for female romantics used to be lobotomies and/or convent life

Everyone loves to be like “men are the more romantic sex” but nobody is more punished (by both sexes) than a passionate female romantic. The consequences of being carried away by your emotions are much higher for women than men, and more often than not it will be your own sex that harshly judges your naïvety!

@rexthundercock @masochistmartyr I second this. I don't like opening up in general, so I've only ever done so with women that meant a lot to me. I'd hate for them to assume that I thought poorly of them, especially as I was appreciating them more than ever for being so kind to me.

@masochistmartyr I'm sorry if you've had this experience with people before, but I don't think it's indicative of male psychology from my perspective or the perspective of men I know, who aren't similar to me. I think if anything it's a sign of respect, to be vulnerable to a woman implies trust.

my goals & hers could not possibly be more different, but she’s right a man who is telling you his problems—even if you adore him and want to know everything about him and support him and love love love that he’s being open w you—is showing you that he thinks that you are trash.

@lapislagoons I've noticed this with other online spaces too. It seems that now, especially with AI, everyone has had their trust and warmth violated too often to allow for genuine softness to blossom. I used to go online to feel more understood, now I just hope to get lucky in-person again.

@RachelZader I'm sorry for how I wrote that. The excitement I felt was because of getting to connect to someone on such a raw level, not any confidence that it was all fixable that easily. Minimization is the last thing I want to do, as the full extent of it is what intrigues me most.

@EmpathTrad I hear you but this is toxic positivity and unsolicited minimization of someone's condition.

Anyone who thinks antidepressants aren't necessary should be required to be alone in a room for 24 hours with me while I'm off of them. When I'm off meds I can't look at this meme without bursting into tears and not being able to stop for 20 minutes. There is a reason we need this stuff lmao Mental health awareness... YALL ABOUT TO BE FULLY AWARE

@HHillespie @tradwifetoday (1) No, I'm saying the mother of my children is hotter by definition. (2) "The right" doesn't say this. Some attention seekers do, but the right has far more children overall and it's rare for all of those husbands to be *less* attracted to their wives afterwards.

@EmpathTrad @tradwifetoday (1) So you admit that they're not hot. (2) I'm just going by what the right says.

Absolutely. Also, husbands are not dates. After you have a family you are not going back in the dating pool with your postpartum body to compete with childless 21 year-old bikini models. Your husband will remember and appreciate your body before and after bearing him children, because those are *his* children—and no other man’s opinion will matter.

@HHillespie @tradwifetoday It's a shame unsuccessful men have convinced so many that what they appreciate in women, which is limited to animalistic lust, is a universal trait among all men. I'll always prefer the woman who carried our child for 9 months before nurturing them together over random hot girls.

@tradwifetoday Oh, you *don't* think that men are hardwired to want young, hot women? And you came to this conclusion just as *you* hit the wall?

@datingbyblaine Until such data can be quantified accurately, all AI dating will exist for one reason: Face validity to attract customers and have them pay a premium.

@datingbyblaine AI is only as good as the data fed into it. No one has ever successfully quantified dating preferences and "market value" because not only are there massive individual differences, people usually can't even express themselves or their ideals accurately.

My worry for the AI matchmaker thesis is that singles don't want realistic, good-on-paper matches. Customers hire me for matchmaking precisely because I deliver unrealistic matches they can’t get elsewhere. AI pairing sounds nice, but actually think about the UX. Would you pay for Hinge if all the aspirational hotties disappeared, and you could only see 1-2 profiles a computer has deemed “realistic” for you every month? Why do you think Raya has been so successful? No shade implied for the teams working on AI matchmakers. Everyone I’ve interacted with in that world seems smart, and I genuinely wish them success. I’m just skeptical that AI pairing meshes with how people actually date.

@jaderants It's bizarre how so many modern adaptations of older source material bend towards this. Next we'll get an Alien remake where the alien is just a poor frightened soul trying to survive the cruel humans determined to kill it.

i really hope it’s good because i lovee cinderella adaptions but let’s stop teaching kids that all villains are just misunderstood. disney already did this with anastasia and it worked because drisella and her mother remained senselessly evil. what are you trying to accomplish when you teach kids that no evil exists at all ? again, i hope that’s not the plot because the character designs are really cute

so the white girl that they relentlessly abused for a majority of her life is the villain ? ok.

@jaylyn600 @chicfryrice Your generation's problem is that you collectively lived above your means for decades by blindly giving away your country's leverage while misattributing this to your own hard work. A generation so entitled you maintain this delusion even as your children suffer.

Your generation's problem us that you're not willing to start at the bottom and work your way up, sacrificing every penny and working your ass off. You expect all the new toys wrapped in pretty bows for you as soon as you step out of your parents' basement. You're absolutely the most entitled generation ever.

Every BOOMER with this take should look up the job they had in their 20s. Find the median pay for that job NOW. If you went to college make sure to include the cost of student loan repayments NOW. Include the cost of insurance NOW. Then look up the EXACT SAME first house you bought and let me know if you can buy it NOW. OTHERWISE STFU ABOUT THE DISCUSSION

@lapislagoons Just wanted to say I relate completely, both the parts of helping others find love as well as preferring to remain anonymous. There's plenty you could post that isn't a selfie that can resonate. After all, you don't need mass appeal, you only need your husband.

@teddyarlington Initial eye contact, flirting and building tension is so fun I'd feel cheated if someone skipped all of that to just talk.

@NekoWitchMary @Devon_Eriksen_ If there is a lack of Japanese (kittens), replacing them with immigrants (other animals) will change Japan (the animal shelter) into something else altogether

@Devon_Eriksen_ I am too cat brained to understand the parallel here. Please explain, sir. But I assume it mocks the screenshot. Good.

"Welcome to Midland Animal Rescue, what brings you here today?" "I'm looking to adopt a pair of kittens." "Certainly sir, step right this way, I'll show you what we have available. How about this cute little guy right here?" "That is a toad." "No, sir, it's a cat. A special water cat. Very rare." "It's a toad. You've glued fake whiskers on it." "Okay, sir, I see water cats are not to your taste, how about this handsome fellow?" "That's a rat." "Nonsense, sir. He's just a very small kitten." "It's four inches long and it has rodent teeth and a hairless tail. Do you have any actual kittens?" "How about —" "That is a pit bull." "No, sir, it's... well, okay, yes, but he's almost like a cat. He can purr! Look, he's doing it now!" "That is called growling." "It's almost the same thing." "No, it's not. Look, do you have any actual cats?" "We have a few, sir. They're a bit hard to come by at the moment." "Can I see them?" "Yes, sir, certainly. Right over here." "That's the toad again." "Oh, you want to see the cats!" "Yes, I said that." "What, right now?" "Yes. You said you do have a few cats." "Yes, sir. Certainly, sir." "How many?" "What?" "How. many. cats. do. you. have?" "Uh... oh, look, it's noon, we're closed for lunch. Come back later please, sir." "Nevermind that, how many cats do you have?" "Ah... zero, sir. They're a bit hard to come by right now. Can I interest you in a parrot?" "No." "Are sure, sir? It's a Norwegian Blue. Lovely bird. Beautiful plumage." "I don't care about the plumage! Do you mean to tell you have no cats at all?" "None, sir." "It's not much of an animal shelter, is it?" "Finest in the district, sir." "Explain, pray, the logic underlying this particular conclusion." "Well, it's so clean, sir." "It is certainly uncontaminated by cats."

@OluwaSoLove @seashell_luvr (As an aside, checking your profile, I love how discerning you are when it comes to men and how much you think things through, appreciating both rationality and intuition. Now I'm even happier you've found your own voice as well as the confidence to keep and express it)

@OluwaSoLove @seashell_luvr I agree with you on the reality of the undertone, which is why I respond with empathy rather than anger. In almost every case it's said, it's from a place of pain, so I don't take it personally. It just doesn't inspire love to be told someone hates the group I'm a part of.

Then you’ll either find a doormat or an even worse man (one who doesn’t take you at your word). The kind of man who dismisses women’s statements, who insists that women don’t really mean what they say, and undermines their opinions. The kind who doesn’t care about his woman’s political views not because he’s so open minded but because he automatically dismisses anything that comes out of a woman’s mouth. Anyways if you’re really a manhater why pay attention to what “real men” care about? Do you really hate men or are you just testing them?