Nameless

Dear Denis, My name is Joan. I got married to my husband when I was 24, and together we have four children. We’ve been living a normal life, and everything was fine until last week when something happened. I had never caught my husband cheating or even flirting with another woman. We both had access to each other’s phones and passwords, and we had always been faithful. That’s why what I’m about to share has completely broken my heart, and I feel so worthless right now. A few weeks ago, my husband unexpectedly changed his phone password. When I asked why, he said he wanted a new one because someone at work might have learned the old password, so he didn’t feel safe. Because I trusted him, I believed his story, but it was all a lie 😭. Denis, I started noticing some changes. My husband began coming home late several times, and when I asked, he said he’d had a stressful day at work and needed some time out. His job can be demanding, and I understood what he might be going through, so I didn’t question it much. Then one particular day, he didn’t return home. When I asked, he said he had gone out with friends, drank too much, and passed out, so he slept at a friend’s place. By this time, I had started sensing that something wasn’t right. To cut a long story short, all this time my husband had been secretly organizing a wedding with a woman who had introduced me to him 😭😭😭😭. A close friend later told me they had actually been dating since the day she introduced him to me 💔💔. At first, she didn’t want him because he was poor, so she connected him to me. I was young and didn’t mind his financial situation, so I fell in love. He’s very handsome, I couldn’t resist. He’s caring, loving, and responsible. He worked very hard to build the life we have now, and he’s now wealthy, I can’t deny that. When this friend saw that he was doing well, she came back for him with full force. On the day he came home late, they had gone for kukyala, and on the day he didn’t return home, they had a kwanjula 💔💔💔😭😭😭😭. Last weekend was their wedding 💔💔💔😭😭. I feel betrayed. I feel terrible. I gave this man my life, only for him to treat me this way. He hasn’t returned home since last week. He knows that I know. He doesn’t pick up my calls. My children miss him so much. He had such a strong bond with them, and now they’re asking questions I don’t have answers to 😭😭😭😭😭😭. Denis, I feel played.

This woman is the major reason why most men want nothing to do with women who have had kids before. "I dated many men " means you even brought them to your house ,introduced them to your kids ,yet they kept leaving you . Whenever I tell single mothers to stay away from relationships,you people say that I'm bitter. As a single mother or a divorcee ,stay away from relationships . Your being desperate to get another father for your kids will only cause you and them further havoc. Now ,she's saying that she finally went back to the father of her kids. That means that you guys are always very willing to get back with the men with whom you had those kids ,that's why other men would rather sleep with you and end it at that . And you as the father of her kids,why would you really get back with such a person who has only come back to you because she has failed to find the right idiot? Brother , you can take care of those kids without wanting anything from that woman! Im very sure Emeka was laughing at him deep down ,cause eh.....