Saw this movie at a theater in Utah and they replaced all the sex scenes with psychedelic foot rubbing scenes
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so there’s this yorgos lanthimos movie starring rachel weisz emma stone and olivia colman
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@Irisligr
Girls kept telling me how pretty my hair was so much I just turned into a girl. • Trans woman (she/her)
Denver, CO Katılım Kasım 2012
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@Irisligr I don’t agree with OP at all but…unsafe??? Where is the safety issue
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yeah, that’s called being bad at socializing — socializing is predicated on pretending you think something is meaningful because it might be very meaningful to the person you’re talking to
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Autistic people aren’t bad at socializing. They’re bad at pretending a conversation is meaningful when it isn’t
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Jim Caviezel’s secret burner account got mad I said he wasn’t other-worldly handsome
Sorry Mr. Caviezel, love you in Person of Interest 🫡
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@Irisligr That’s cause it’s true. Chicks all over the world love him. Fans who’ve met him in real life say he’s even handsomer in person. Jonah Nolan and Greg Plageman both said he’s incredibly good looking.
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But sometimes this wraps back around to being hilarious, like how everybody on Person of Interest kept insisting Jim Caviezel was one of the handsomest men they’d ever seen
ROBIN 🌻 the boys s5 spoilers@SUNNYCXMB
when a male character’s sexiness is manufactured and disingenuous I get grossed out and hate him
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@Tronicai @gatewink @floatovertrees @bo_austin_ A lot of it comes from my dad having these same issues not only undiagnosed but with stubborn denial that he could ever be wrong. My frustrations with his issues made me accidentally develop lots of healthy autism and OCD coping mechanisms very young through the power of spite 💪
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@Tronicai @gatewink @floatovertrees @bo_austin_ The pain of being so aggressively misunderstood made
understanding other people my primary life-long hyper-fixation starting in Kindergarten. I’ve had enough practice at this point to be good at it. Helping people that haven’t gained that skill makes me feel more fulfilled 🩶🩷
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@Irisligr @gatewink @floatovertrees @bo_austin_ this has been the eureka moment in my autism - realising that NTs are primarily emotional & what is true/logical, will always be a distant second to how they 𝒻𝑒𝑒𝓁
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@floatovertrees @p1huycke @batboysagogo @campaignist1 @bo_austin_ I’ve actually come around on this. If you truly feel this way, then dont converse. You’re bad for other people. If you cannot fathom why you would talk to someone about anything other than your interests, then forming any relationship with anyone is making that persons life worse
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@floatovertrees @p1huycke @batboysagogo @campaignist1 @bo_austin_ It makes people feel like you see them more as Wikipedia pages than as living breathing and feeling human beings
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@floatovertrees @p1huycke @batboysagogo @campaignist1 @bo_austin_ Because otherwise it makes people feel like conversations are transactions and they want to feel like they’re forming actual human relationships. Relationships, in the broadest sense of the term, require this, as unpleasant and counterintuitive as it may seem to some people
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@floatovertrees @HochuKushats @bo_austin_ They hope that the other person fees the same. And when it’s made clear that that person doesn’t feel the same, it feels painful
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@floatovertrees @HochuKushats @bo_austin_ Most people aren’t seeing it that way. They don’t feel that pain you’re feeling here. They know that it feels painful when someone ignores them and makes them feel like they don’t care to listen, and so listening to other people when they need it feels kind, it feels warm
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@floatovertrees @p1huycke @NewTypo_ @bo_austin_ The hard reality here is, though you’re completely within rights to behave like this, the cause and effect will be that people don’t like you. If you’re fine with that then everything’s okay. If you’re not, then you’re singular only option is to get over it
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@p1huycke @NewTypo_ @Irisligr @bo_austin_ we can talk about the rest 20%, it's more than enough, i'm not a perfectionist
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@gatewink @floatovertrees @bo_austin_ A lot of people do want you to feign interest though! Go back to the beginning of the thread and it’s about “being good at socializing”, being good at socializing includes understanding that you can’t ignore what people actually feel in favor of what makes more sense
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@Irisligr @floatovertrees @bo_austin_ Why would you force yourself to be around people who bore you? Would you want people to feign interest if you were boring them? IMO that’s fake and alienating. I would want to be told to get to the point lol
It seems like youre equating a lack of interest with a personal attack?
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@Icez790 @floatovertrees @bo_austin_ Yeah I guess it just seems to me that so many of the issues get fixed by being open to being wrong and listening to other people, which seems like such a basic necessity of being an adult. But I’m good at these things so it’s hard to understand how it feels when you’re not
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@Irisligr @floatovertrees @bo_austin_ While I respect your graft I think there's an irony in like trying to get someone who's autistic to understand conventional neuro typical stuff, like idk... feels like the fact they don't get it is the point xD?
Understand you are too but it's a spectrum with tons of variation
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@floatovertrees @bo_austin_ You’ll likely never have a meaningful relationship be it platonic romantic or anything you could define as a relationship with this mindset. If you’re okay being that lonely your entire life, then you’re fine. If you want anyone at all to ever meaningfully like you, change.
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@Irisligr @bo_austin_ if i don't want to listen to what you have to say, then yes, you shouldn't socialize with me. if you don't want to listen to what i have to say, then i shouldn't socialize with you. we don't have to! it doesn't make us enemies. we just don't have to talk to each other, that's it.
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@floatovertrees @bo_austin_ You realize the “someone” people feel on constant edge around in this scenario is you, right? Your accidentally arguing for people to avoid you and not socialize with you
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@Irisligr @bo_austin_ if you feel on constant edge around someone, then why do you want to be around them? we're talking about 'socializing'! it's your choice to socialize with them. YOU are choosing people for your 'socializing'. make good choices. don't try to please people who don't care about you.
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@floatovertrees @bo_austin_ Think of listening to something boring and trying to occasionally engage as like a contract that makes people feel safe. Breaking that contract makes them feel on constant edge around you, like walking on eggshells
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@floatovertrees @bo_austin_ Thinking conversation that’s not meaningful is inherently a waste of someone’s time is the mistake here. Your framing will make people feel like you’re calling them and their lives ‘frivolous’ if your interests don’t align
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@floatovertrees @harmonycobelvig @mythicalmarxism @bo_austin_ People like talking. If you think all conversation needs to be meaningful at all times people will feel hurt, it’s unavoidable. If you try to only ever talk exclusively about your interests and shut down anything else people will find you selfish and rude, and they’ll be right
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@harmonycobelvig @mythicalmarxism @bo_austin_ it's not a one-way street. if that person cares about you, they should think about your interests. they don't want to make you listen to something they know you're not interested in. they probably have multiple acquaintances and can discuss different topics with different people.
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