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@JosephPerrin37

Helping Christian fathers become the spiritual and strategic leader of their home | Father of 3

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Joseph
Joseph@JosephPerrin37·
@beherleader A step beyond is to build in at least a “formal” weekly check in for these types of questions. Forget about the optics and have a marriage board meeting. Do a SWOT analysis on your marriage and be intentional about strengthening the relationship.
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Will Knowland
Will Knowland@beherleader·
Husbands often confuse stress relief with connection. You do chores. You provide. You fix. You handle logistics. Good. Necessary. But that doesn’t automatically create closeness. Wives don’t say "I feel disconnected" because you didn’t do enough tasks. They say it because they miss the bond. Ask her, "When in the past did you feel most emotionally connected to me? What were we doing then?" Then do that thing more often.
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Joseph
Joseph@JosephPerrin37·
@kevinxu Probably doesn’t have systems in place to manage a household. It’s not easy and our culture doesn’t pass along that knowledge the way it use to be done.
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Kevin Xu@kevinxu·
friend of mine finally got a house, wife, and kids never seen him more stressed in his life
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Joseph@JosephPerrin37·
What does it take to be a transcendent father? You need to clarify your vision of what that means. Clarify your vision of what your family could be. Identify the ideal of what it looks like for your family to operate at its highest potential. That won’t be the same for every family because each individual is different but there are some common components. After you have the vision, identify the steps and intermediate goals it would take to get there. Install a system of accountability so that you can execute on those steps without wavering. Protect your energy. Be intentional what gets your attention. Execute. Review your vision and steps daily and weekly. The steps might change season to season but the vision should not. If you need clarity on the vision, help with the steps or accountability in the execution I’m here to help.
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Joseph@JosephPerrin37·
A lot of what it means to be intentional comes down to planning ahead. Planning out goals. Planning the steps to get there. Planning how to handle obstacles. Spending time planning gets a bad rep because people get stuck there and never execute. But that’s mostly online. In real life people are constantly doing things. Just not the right things for what they want because they haven’t actually planned enough.
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Joseph@JosephPerrin37·
How you do anything is how you do everything. However you approach the small & seemingly insignificant tasks in your day is a mirror to how you will handle the large & high-leverage tasks in your life. Some people imagine they can relax, cut corners and do the minimum here and there but when "the time comes" they will "turn it on" and be able to operate at a high level. That's a fantasy. A poorly imagined fallacy. Building a house on sand. Your character is your character. Small, large, alone or with others. Who you are is who you are and your circumstances will always reveal it. This is why you must do the work of interior mastery if you intend to lead a family. Without that work, those habits of selfishness, laziness, anger, criticism, or whatever passion is hidden in your heart, will come out in how you influence your family. If you want to lead your family into peace, joy & order instead of wandering around in anxiety, discontentment and chaos then you must transcend those thoughts & habits which internally are opposed to the character you want to form. This is the essence of what it means to be a transcendent father.
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Joseph@JosephPerrin37·
@boldlyemilyv Yes! Creation for creation sake isn’t a bad thing but having a plan of how that creation gets distributed pulls you out of the starving artist category
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Emily Vermillion
Emily Vermillion@boldlyemilyv·
I gave my best thinking away for years. Freely. Generously. Consistently. And I waited for it to turn into something. It didn't. Not because the content wasn't good. Because I had no structure to catch what I was building. The problem wasn't my effort. It wasn't my gifting. It wasn't even my heart. It was my strategy. Have you ever felt like you're creating into a void?
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Joseph
Joseph@JosephPerrin37·
@Kinso04 Having a wife who, while we were dating, said she didn’t want a TV in the house. It forced me to reevaluate what I think about time, relationships and recreation and was the foundational shift contributing to my operating system today.
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Kings
Kings@Kinso04·
What event changed your perspective towards life?
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Joseph
Joseph@JosephPerrin37·
Your external environment is a reflection and extension of your internal state. Not only that but your environment will amplify the energy that resonates with it. So if you’re internally feeling chaotic and unsettled and you walk into a room that is messy and disorganized, that will amplify your interior experience of chaos. On the flip side, organizing your external state can positively influence your interior such that it’s easier to find internal peace in a peaceful environment. If you’re feeling unsettled or destabilized internally one simple action to help is to organize your environment. All that to say, make your bed, do the dishes and straighten up your living space. Try it and see.
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𝕮𝖔𝖚𝖗𝖆𝖌𝖊𝖔𝖚𝖘 𝕮𝖍𝖗𝖎𝖘 ✝️ 🇺🇸
Science hasn’t been about truth for a long time. If it was, then explanations like Intelligent Design/creation science would be allowed as public competing lenses with evolutionary theory by which to interpret data. But they were forced out via court cases like the Scopes Trial. Now, we know why. Since 1951, the whole scientific enterprise was perverted to focus on money, rapid production, power, and popular consensus, not truth. 👇
Elliot Overton@EO_Nutrition

This man singlehandedly destroyed science as an institution His name was Robert Maxwell, and he was the father of Ghislaine Maxwell He turned scientific knowledge into a commodity, locked it behind a paywall, a created the system which breeds authoritarian, conformist scientists who are terrified to challenge established dogma His system weaponized science for elite control British jew, media tycoon, and Mossad agent He was the first to turn scientific publishing into a ruthless commercial business, locked behind steep paywalls. In 1951 he founded Pergamon Press, which launched hundreds of niche scientific journals - each a tiny monopoly in its field, demanding expensive subscriptions Overnight, freely available public-domain scientific knowledge became gated behind high costs, accessible only to an “intellectually elite” class… the new “intelligentsia” He called this setup “a perpetual financing machine.” and it became the template for the entire industry today. This commercial monopoly on science extracts free labor from scientists, who work tirelessly to write papers, review work and edit manuscripts to further their career prospects - all at no cost, The profit margins for scientific journals far exceed almost every other industry. The top publisher’s margins are higher than Google and Apple. Elsevier, for example, brought in ~ $1.4 billion profit in 2024 alone. This is a huge business which artificially inflates the cost of knowledge dissemination - that is ironically funded in large part by the taxpayer. Unfortunately the entire business model incentivises VOLUME over QUALITY: Careers, grants, and promotions tie to publication count in "prestigious" (high-fee) journals. This means that researchers are penalized for publishing less, and are instead rewarded for pumping out high quantity with little inherent value. In other words, there are tangible benefits to publishing junk science, manipulated data and fabrication. This model disincentivizes and actively punishes genuine scientific curiosity, independent thinking, long-term/risky work, and controversial opinions or lines of research which challenge established dogma. It breeds authoritarian, conformist, self-censoring scientists who are averse to risk. Furthermore, it laid the foundation for a gated elite class of “intelligentsia”. Only those in the “club” at wealthy scientific institutions, who tow the party line, are granted access to scientific knowledge. Those who stray too far from the norm are shunned and expelled. The ultimate result? A bloated, generic mess of low-rigor, irreproducible papers This model, which still dominates to this day, facilitated the corporatization and weaponization of of science What began as a relentless pursuit for truth was coopted and sacrificed for endless greed & elite control of knowledge itself

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Joseph
Joseph@JosephPerrin37·
@SkySwall I find that when I do the first one the other ones fall in line more easily. But when I sleep in and let the responsibilities of my world wake me up instead of taking them head on, I'm running behind all day.
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Sky Swall
Sky Swall@SkySwall·
Get up at 6am, read the Bible, don't doom scroll, go for walks, work hard, lift weights, practice a martial art, eat healthy, reject vice, read more, pray. Become what you are.
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Joseph
Joseph@JosephPerrin37·
@GreentreesGym St Augustine said "Take care of your body as if you were going to live forever; and take care of your soul as if you were dying tomorrow". People focus in on the second part and forget about the first
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Josh Greentree | Path to Powerhouse
Soft body = Soft leadership. Your kids are watching how you carry yourself before they can read. Your wife knows if you've quit on yourself before you say a word. Your team feels your physical authority before you open your mouth. The gym isn't where you get abs. It's where you build the man people don't argue with. Most men train for summers that never come. Building season men train for moments that never leave. The boardroom. The hard conversation. The day your son needs to see what a real man looks like under pressure. Your body is your most public leadership statement. It's speaking right now. What is it saying?
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Joseph
Joseph@JosephPerrin37·
The problem with being low energy is that you choose the path of least resistance and it’s almost never the choice that’s in your best interest. Having predetermined routines that aid in recovery and resetting is non-negotiable if you want to operate at your full potential. Protecting a continual base line of energy is part of the foundation of the transcendent father.
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Joseph@JosephPerrin37·
I been there, working eight hours at a stressful job, come home to a chaotic mob with everyone's nervous systems unmanaged and disregulated... You're already depleted so the demands they place on you feel overwhelming And so you withdraw and do the minimum, sending them signals about your energy deficiency but they rely on you, your attention is what they need Your presence should stabilize them but you're weak and no one sees the issue is that you have no system No consistent rhythms to protect your energy, and to protect your family from the entropy constantly closing in You need a way to turn the tide, not simply to relax You need transformation, not scrolling or whatevermaxx Wake up
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Emily Vermillion
Emily Vermillion@boldlyemilyv·
Hot take: You’re not burned out because you care too much. You’re burned out because you’re trying to emotionally carry things God never assigned you. The news. The culture. Everyone’s expectations. Meanwhile the things He did place in your hands are sitting there waiting. The question isn’t: “Do I care?” The question is: “What am I actually responsible for stewarding today?” I wrote about this in today’s article.
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Joseph
Joseph@JosephPerrin37·
@tyromper You influence your family, your family influences their friends, those friends influence their friends. By stabilizing yourself and transcending selfishness & greed you can literally change the world.
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Tyler Todt
Tyler Todt@tyromper·
Ways people try to change the world: •Complain about it nonstop. •Blame the other political side. •Make money & gain influence. Ways I try to change the world. •Love my wife & kids & lead my home. •Kindness, generosity & empathy. •Live with integrity & courage. •Share JESUS!
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Joseph@JosephPerrin37·
@boldlyemilyv Blessed are the peace *makers* - making peace is not a passive activity but an active one.
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Emily Vermillion
Emily Vermillion@boldlyemilyv·
Peace without holiness isn’t biblical peace. It’s avoidance. Sometimes the most peace-producing thing you can do is have the hard conversation, set the standard, or repent. Comfort isn’t the fruit of the Spirit. Self-control is.
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Joseph
Joseph@JosephPerrin37·
@boldlyemilyv Exactly - when we live as trusting recipients instead of grasping and taking then we're freed from a lot of the anxiety, stress & pressure we put on ourselves
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Emily Vermillion
Emily Vermillion@boldlyemilyv·
@JosephPerrin37 Great distinction. And when I think about Hod being the ultimate provider, who am I to complain? I must steward well what he has already provided 🙌
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Joseph
Joseph@JosephPerrin37·
There’s this idea that the essential duty of the father is to provide. This isn’t the pattern we see from the beginning. The first human father was given two tasks: protect and steward. God is the provider. He gives the resources. Fathers wisely distribute those resources for the growth of his family, community and the needy. Fathers protect from the physical, spiritual and emotional influences that would harm your family. Protect and steward.
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Joseph@JosephPerrin37·
@JamesDueck Both Protestants and Catholics would become Orthodox if we really sat down and talked about it.
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James Dueck🇻🇦
James Dueck🇻🇦@JamesDueck·
I’m convinced that if we simply have a worldwide conversation about Catholicism and Protestantism on social media, the Protestants will become Catholic. In 500 years, this has never been possible.
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Joseph@JosephPerrin37·
It gets hot in the kitchen, and everything may not work properly but you still gotta cook. And guess what? People gonna be coming with plates out and they gotta be fed. Then you wanna go sit down and eat a plate yourself and you realize nobody cooked for you. You the chef dog. Keep cooking
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