Miguel Mayher

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Miguel Mayher

Miguel Mayher

@MiguelMayher

⌛️ Exploring Work & Life Beyond Clock Time: https://t.co/K0d1JZhmKr Founder, https://t.co/ZU2u46JveQ Formerly @Google @INSEAD @UAL

Tokyo, JAPAN Katılım Mart 2009
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Miguel Mayher
Miguel Mayher@MiguelMayher·
You disappear from social media for half a decade. Why come back? In these five years: → I moved to Japan → Got married → Started a business → Became a father → Grew the business → Quit my job → Lost myself in the world... → And found alignment again. Now, with calm clarity, I face this second act of life differently: - Not "doing what you want", but doing what wants to be done through you. -Not "living on your terms", but allowing Life to set the compass. -Not trying to "realize your potential", but surrendering. A word found me: Timelessness. Not just a concept, but a path. A "forever vehicle" for living and working beyond time-based goals. And I want to explore it with you. Three areas are calling me forward: CONTEMPLATION How do we live our most sacred values in the modern world? → Tool: Meditation → State: Stillness CREATION How do we bring forth our most inspired craft - daily? → Tool: Writing → State: Flow CONTRIBUTION How do we make work so meaningful we’d never want to retire? → Tool: Listening → State: Bonding These aren’t answers. These are questions I intend to live into, like my life depends on it. Because it does. If this resonates, I’ve started writing a Letter. Link to sign up is in the first comment. It’s where I’ll share reflections, tools, and invitations... Such as an epic retreat coming up in exactly 365 days: ⟶ A castle. A private island. Summer 2026. I’ve been blessed to host retreats for friends and family before. This time, we’re looking for "the others." If you know someone who may resonatee, could you kindly tag them below? If you aspire to live an active life of deep beauty, presence, and alignment - we might just be walking the same path. Grateful you read this far. Press play - but first, a question: do you dare to bring forth what is within you? If so, sound on :) One with Life, - Miguel
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Miguel Mayher
Miguel Mayher@MiguelMayher·
@p_millerd May I recommend lighting candels and incense. Kids love it.
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Miguel Mayher
Miguel Mayher@MiguelMayher·
@lkr @p_millerd Ah I'm told only new apartments have it. Airbnb for good or bad has a long way to go in Japan vs other countries.
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Paul Millerd
Paul Millerd@p_millerd·
Once Asia solves pollution and dishwashers and dryers it will be the best place to live
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Miguel Mayher
Miguel Mayher@MiguelMayher·
@p_millerd Yes they do. Though I've never been a user myself, always felt like double work to rinse and then place in dishwater... I either do it all - or nothing.
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Miguel Mayher
Miguel Mayher@MiguelMayher·
@RichardKoch8020 Opportunity cost of not buying and reading it is too high... congratulations Richard!
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Richard Koch
Richard Koch@RichardKoch8020·
I'm delighted to say that my long-awaited new book, 80/20 BELIEFS, is being published in the UK today. We are all driven by our beliefs. If we change just a few beliefs that are harming us - perhaps just one - we can become much happier! 80/20 BELIEFS tells you how!
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Vacha
Vacha@TVachaW·
I just started a Substack! If you enjoy my writing, please consider subscribing here (for free!): tvachaw.substack.com/subscribe Or help me get if off the ground by QTing / RTing + liking this post to help me counteract the deboosting these sorts of articles get on here. The first post is a longform article about the Amazonian tree I've often discussed here that is said to have achieved enlightenment. After you subscribe, you'll see it as the first article on my Substack home page. Enjoy!
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Vacha@TVachaW

Flew out to the Amazon today to interview some indigenous shaman about a local tree that they say has attained enlightenment. Hearing some fascinating stories and being shown some mind blowing things. The world is a magical place.

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Vacha
Vacha@TVachaW·
If you want to increase your agency, a good place to start is by expanding your imagination. This is because lack of agency is often a failure of imagination more so than a failure of will. A low agency person is often someone who simply can’t imagine as wide a range of positive futures for themselves. Or they can imagine these futures but can’t imagine a wide range of actions that would lead to them becoming real. High agency people are usually able to imagine many positive possible future and many actions that would lead towards them. So finding the will to simply choose one of these futures and one of these routes to it becomes relatively trivial. A practical way to develop the type of imagination that leads to high agency is to simply assume that every circumstance you could possibly encounter will always have a vast range of hidden possibilities embedded in it. With this assumption in place, your question in any given situation shouldn’t be “is there a way this situation can lead to a positive outcome?” but rather “what are all the hidden possibilities in this situation that will lead to a positive outcome?” Taking care to be maximally flexible about what a positive outcome might look like. Committing to these assumptions and curiosities harnesses the power of predictive processing - our brain’s inherent desire for the world to conform to its predictions. You will find that setting the expectation of limitless possibilities in any given situation will stimulate your imagination into over drive to make it so. When we assume the world is full of limitless possibilities, our imagination will make it so. From there, the will to realise them can be one relatively effortless.
Vacha@TVachaW

One of the best ways to increase your agency is learning how to see life in higher resolution. To understand why, we have to understand what it is that gets in the way of agency. The opposite of agency is compulsion - actions we perform reactively, seemingly against our will. Compulsions largely fall into two categories: resistance and grasping. In general, automatic resistances and graspings fall downstream of low resolution perceptual processing. That is, the mind labels what is actually quite a complex and constantly changing set of sensations with a simple, unchanging tag such as "good" or "bad" or "pleasant" or "unpleasant". It is only once a certain group of dynamic, granular sensations have been reduced to a simple "good" / "bad" that the compulsive reactivity takes place. It works something like this: Complex dynamic sensations > labelled "bad" > automatic resistance Or Complex dynamic sensations > labelled "good" > automatic grasping The best way to break this chain is to start processing our sensations and perceptions in higher resolution. What this means is staying in contact with the actual moment by moment changes of the sensations / perceptions *prior to* them being labelled into simple binaries like "good" / "bad" / "pleasant" / "unpleasant" etc.. If we can stay in contact with reality at a high frequency rate, we will always notice constant changes and fluctuations to any given sensation or perception. This makes it harder for the mind to arbitrarily group any set of evolving sensations into a simple label. Not just "good" or "bad" but even labels like "hot" / "cold", "comfortable" / "uncomfortable" and so on tend to break down upon high resolution analysis. eg a "hot" sensation when we tune into it at a high frequency reveals a fluctuating experience of temperature that usually even has discernable split-second gaps between each moment of temperature-sensation. It may sound like a very abstract skill but it turns out that when we are paying close moment-by-moment attention - and when we increase how many moments we notice in a given timeframe - it is a lot harder for the mind to collapse into the low resolution labels that are the breeding ground for reactivity and involuntary action. Not only does this lead to greater agency and freedom, but it also gives us greater sensory clarity which allows us to perceive more beauty and vibrancy in our day to day lives.

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Miguel Mayher
Miguel Mayher@MiguelMayher·
@p_millerd You can always win if you have a longer time horizon. Adult schedules are the source of those failed negotiations. Most adults apply the other two levers of the negotiation triad: information, and above all, power.
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Paul Millerd
Paul Millerd@p_millerd·
MBA classes should abandon all negotiation classes and just force people to successfully win three negotiations with a 3-year old in order to pass the class
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Sofia
Sofia@yearning_slav·
Want to spend a week this summer doing nothing but write? Join @chiaragerosa & me, plus mentors @nosilverv & @octopusyarn, for an inkhaven-inspired writing residency at @Casa_Tilo from Aug 29th – Sep 5th. Applications close June 19th, link below!
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Lawrence Yeo
Lawrence Yeo@moretothat·
Wow. Honored to be quoted in @morganhousel's new book. Morgan’s one of my favorite writers, so this was very meaningful to see.
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Miguel Mayher
Miguel Mayher@MiguelMayher·
we called it "guess game" ipad pro with ipen + inotes taking turns drawing something and guessing what it is - make it thematic (animals, food, etc) ideal for train rides, never gets old - yes you can use pen&paper but not the same due to palette, brushes, convenience etc bonus: you end up with repository of your child's drawings that will melt you later on
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Paul Millerd
Paul Millerd@p_millerd·
what are good educational games for three year olds on ipads?
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Miguel Mayher@MiguelMayher·
@p_millerd Autotelic: an activity having a purpose within itself, rather than working toward external goals or rewards. Derived from Greek auto (self) and telos (goal), it means intrinsic motivation, such as playing music for joy rather than fame. Making "work" autotelic is the crux.
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Paul Millerd
Paul Millerd@p_millerd·
a simple principle can steer you toward your good work: don't do things FOR other things. Do the thing itself that you actually want to be doing. Don't sell shit for money to then quit to write. Just write. Skip the middle as fast as you can and by any means possible.
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Miguel Mayher
Miguel Mayher@MiguelMayher·
@itscoachgoodman DMing you some parks they will love to be loud in and will be encouraged to be a bit wild in (incidentally I find blow-ups in general much less likely in nature open door spaces)
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Jonathan Goodman 🇨🇦
Jonathan Goodman 🇨🇦@itscoachgoodman·
This was after a blow-up on the train. There was another blow-up this morning. We were late for school today. Japan has proven to be a challenging place for our young family. We are told no, to be quiet, and that we cannot be here multiple times every day. It sucks to constantly feel so unwelcome—that our sheer presence is such a burden on others just because we have young children with us. This experience will make our family stronger. Knowing that helps even in the most difficult moments. There's been a lot of them.
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Miguel Mayher
Miguel Mayher@MiguelMayher·
We've gone full cyborg, it's just not yet under our skin.
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Miguel Mayher
Miguel Mayher@MiguelMayher·
@TVachaW I remember how experiencing my first vipassana retreat stroke me as a hidden manual to sanctity. Christians: behave this way (the WHAT). Buddhists: here is HOW you can behave this way in minute detail.
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Vacha
Vacha@TVachaW·
I’m a Buddhist who also believes in God. For a certain type of Buddhist, this is very confusing, even triggering. But for me, I don’t see a contradiction. Perhaps it is partly due to how I conceive of God. I don’t experience God as a man in the sky or a humanoid personality (although I believe it can be symbolically accessed that way). I also don’t experience God as an atta / atman with a fixed substantial nature. For me, to believe in God is simply to believe that there is a loving intelligence / wisdom that permeates the universe and all things in it. And that one can live in a way that is either more or less aligned with it. For me, the eightfold path provides perfect instruction on how to harmonize one’s life with the flow of that loving intelligence. The Buddha I find offers the most clear instructions on the “what” - what actions do to, with what attitude and what intent. But the concept (and for me, experience of God) fleshes out the “why?” in ways I sometimes find more inspiring. That is - why one should adopt these actions, attitudes and intents. Not just to relinquish suffering but to align with and realise what is most good, true and beautiful. The Buddhist instructions appeal to my head and the pragmatist in me. But the God frame appeals to me heart, my lived experience and the romantic in me. I can see why, as an arch-pragmatist, the Buddha didn’t find utility in a God-frame. But I am not the Buddha and I would rather engage with the frames that are most nourishing to my own heart, path and lived experiences than try to blindly replicate the Buddha’s journey by pure imitation. Ultimately, I do believe that all of these frames are empty, and whenever I’ve touched the ultimate it’s not something that fits neatly into any words or clean framework. But I’ve seen and experienced enough to know that Buddhist practices and frames work well for me. And I’ve also experienced enough of God to have a faith I can’t shake. Furthermore, I find my Buddhist practices bring me always closer to what I experience as God. And in my own heart at least, I find no contradiction in any of this, especially not at the level of experience.
Vacha@TVachaW

There’s a certain type of argument against God that I often hear from Buddhists, which I find unconvincing. The argument essentially seems to be that because there is no stable sensation / perception / field of consciousness etc findable in our minds that corresponds to God, God cannot exist. But - even assuming that is the case - why should God be assumed to be something that’s represented substantially in our minds? Why couldn’t God be a function rather than a substance? In Mahayana Buddhism, they teach that under conditions of maximal awareness, the default functioning of the universe is pure compassionate love and wisdom. What could be more divine than that? What higher intelligence than compassionate love could we hope for the universe’s default operating principle to be? And it certainly accords with my experience of the contemplative path. That when I am able to release craving, aversion and ignorance, compassionate love spontaneously emerges as the default functioning without any need to create or design it. People might object something like “OK, but that’s not a *personal* God.” But then, according to Buddhist theory - what is a person? A person is not a substance but a function. A person is essentially just the way a certain set of phenomena unfold. So, what makes the default loving compassionate functioning of reality any less of a person than the karmically driven functioning of a human person. “OK, but it’s not a God that punishes and rewards,” could be the next objection. But again, according to Mahayana theory - and according to my own experience - the degree to which we suffer is essentially determined by the degree to which we either divert from this compassionate wisdom function or conform to it. When we release craving, aversion and ignorance, we default to the compassionate-wisdom function and we don’t suffer. When we hold onto craving, aversion and ignorance, we limit the scope of that function and we suffer. On a practical level, this isn’t meaningfully all that different to reward/punishment on the basis of adherence to or denial of this divine function. Really, all the things that feel truly important about God are all features of the universe. A loving intelligence is the default functioning of the universe and the degree to which we conform to it determines the degree to which we suffer in the world. It’s a pretty similar story to the God story. It’s why I think the Tibetans were able to design a complete path to enlightenment that revolves around building a relationship to a divine humanoid figure that represents wise compassionate default functioning of the universe. It’s also why, as a Buddhist, I often find more common ground spiritually with Christians who earnestly have live their life on the basis of a faith in a force of universal love, than I do with the type of Buddhist who envisage themselves to be living in a universe of dead matter that operates on blind and arbitrary principles.

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Miguel Mayher
Miguel Mayher@MiguelMayher·
@p_millerd "detached from the world" sounds like a reasonable definition of heaven :)
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Miguel Mayher@MiguelMayher·
if people could have tropical weather + uncrowded private beach + in perfectly safe environment... without leaving their home country... many wouldn't go to those countries :) and if you've visited all those other countries for decades, you also don't feel like you are missing out on "culture" a good resort just allows you to go within - externalities taken care of - which can be the best place on earth
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Laura Roeder
Laura Roeder@lkr·
@p_millerd yeah it's so odd to me to go to another country to stay in these resorts, what's the point? however I can guarantee you won't "accidentally" start going because you have more money! ;)
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Paul Millerd
Paul Millerd@p_millerd·
"you need a publisher to get into bookstores" Angies book in the top bookstores in Taiwan a day before launch Another W for Pathless Publishing Congrats @angiewangcreate
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