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In this field many men have shared how they feel completely crushed when their wives pull away from physical intimacy for long periods. The pain of feeling rejected goes so deep that the urge to just end the marriage can feel both urgent and totally justified. However, I have seen time and again that what looks like a total loss of attraction is actually much more layered when we take the time to look closely. Desire in a long-term relationship doesn't work like an on-off switch. It flows back and forth depending on the emotional climate between two people, the heavy lift of daily responsibilities, and the personal stuff each person is walking through. Sometimes, a season of low desire is just a sign that there are unspoken disappointments piling up or that the routine of life has made it hard to see each other as more than just roommates or co-parents. Rather than jumping straight to divorce, there is something incredibly healing about hitting the pause button to investigate what actually changed. By staying curious not furious and talking openly, many couples find a way back to each other that actually makes their bond stronger than it was before. The choice to walk away should really only happen after a real effort has been made to understand the root of the disconnect. Most of the time, there is much more life left in a relationship than we can see when we are in the middle of a crisis. So many times there have been relationships become rejuvenated or heal that maybe have had no sex for two years and they worked back through it or cases of infidelity or whatever it may be that has surprised even the more skeptic of us.

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