ShawryforMoneyMoves

You’re not struggling because you’re lazy but because nobody told you money has 3 types. 👇🏾 💸 Survival : just keeping it together 🔒 Security : future you ✨ Significance : present you Most of us are stuck in 1, funding all 3. Listen to episode 3 now;youtu.be/7GvNgq1_e20

born to be a lover girl, forced to master detachment

No revenge or grudge on my end. I just pray you heal from whatever taught you it’s okay to treat people like that.

I no longer see people leaving my life as my loss. I’ve come to trust that God is intentional about every person He allows into my life. Some are meant to stay, while others are only meant to walk with me for a season. When that season ends, I don’t have to force what God is no longer sustaining. I’m grateful for every lesson, every memory, and every person. I trust God’s timing in both who He brings into my life and who He allows to leave.

HOW TO HAVE A DIFFICULT CONVERSATION WITH SOMEONE CLOSE TO YOU • "hey (honey, etc for romantic partner; bro, etc for a friend)"; the term of endearment signals they are still on your side • "is this a good time/do you feel open right now to talk about something" (if not, respect it; ask when is) • name your intent for the conversation. "I want this to go well"; "I want to troubleshoot something that's been happening lately"; "I'm hoping this can (solve an issue, bring us closer, etc)" • name your intent to do it well. "I'm really going to try my best to have this go well" • speak to what's objectively true ("when this happened..." "when you did this"..."i've been noticing this thing...") you're just naming things that you should both be able to agree on, with no conjecture or projection at all) • or if you're revealing something that's internal and likely not to be easy, share the news, the feeling, the realization, etc • how did/does it leave you feeling? name the emotion, name a somatic sensation • name the impact it's had on the connection • name why you don't WANT it to have that impact on connection. again, you're reiterating: this connection matters, you're coming from a place of care • avoid psychoanalzying them, judging them, telling them about the kind of person this reveals them to be • be curious about what's going on for them, genuinely curious, not performatively. And be open to their real response, and explore that with them, find out their own relationship to the phenomenon • if they get defensive, they're triggered. if they deflect, they're triggered. if they point it back at you, they're triggered. These all signal someone who struggles to metabolize shame, even when you've taken all the correct steps. You can hold space for these to a certain extent--gently re-orient, offer reassurance, ask if they want to return to this later, or just be firm in your unwillingness to go in those other directions--but a connection that can't even sustain a difficult conversation, even when executed perfectly, is going to be challenging to anyone reading this • check in at the end: "how did I do just now?" "are we cool?"

I aspire to be a woman who wakes up & loves what she does for a living everyday, travels often, spiritually secured & financially stable

My last relationship taught me that the more chances you give someone, the less they value you. They’re not afraid to lose you because they know no matter what, you won’t walk away. Never let someone get too comfortable with disrespecting you. Love yourself first.

You need Partnerships! you need Connections! you need Relationships! You need people! You need People!! Don’t let anybody tell you otherwise!!

I urge you to start pouring into yourself again. You got a little lost trying to carry everyone else, fix everything, and be everything for everybody. You’re choosing you again. You’re protecting your peace, taking care of your mind, your body, and your relationship with God. You’re falling back in love with YOU!! You lost your way for a minute… but you found yourself again. And this time, you’re not abandoning yourself for anyone.

Somewhere in your 30s, life may give you the chance to start again. To break free from old cycles, heal neglected parts of yourself, reconnect with your discipline, and rediscover who you are. It's very important that you go on that journey.

two cardinal rules for being in my life: never act out of malice towards me and do not make a habit of being inconsistent.

She’s soo spot on!😮‍💨 Turn your insecurities into your super power🙌🏽

A man who lies can’t lead. A man who cheats can’t lead. A man who never takes accountability can’t lead. A man who lets pride, anger, and ego control his decisions can’t lead either. Leadership starts with character. If a man can’t be honest, disciplined, responsible, and respectful, he has no business expecting anyone to trust him with a household.

Yo guys, seeing so many people on my timeline getting employed is so beautiful. 🥹❤️ Praying that everyone who’s currently unemployed is blessed with the opportunity to work. Your breakthrough is coming. 🙏🏽✨

I don’t know who needs to hear this but, if people wanted to, they would. If someone wants to fix their relationship with you, they put in the effort to have uncomfortable conversations. If someone wants to love you, they put in the effort to get to know your love language. If someone wants to be part of your life, they put in the effort to be present. It’s really that simple. It’s just hard for you to accept because that means admitting to yourself that some people don’t care about you the way you care for them. For that, my heart goes out to you. That hurts to know. But remember, rejection is part of life and necessary for growth. And the sooner you accept that, the sooner you can move on to starting over—not from scratch but from experience this time.

This ERA is called; Because of your faith, it will happen. - Matthew 9:29 🤍

I read somewhere that "When you choose a life partner you're choosing your eating companion for about 20,000 meals, your travel companion for about 70 vacations, your retirement friend, career therapist, & someone whose day you'll hear about 18,000 times" and I really can't stress this enough.

...but actually, there's no going back. there's no "return to normal." clarity is inconvenient like that. once it arrives, pretending becomes more exhausting than changing what needs to be changed.

Someone who treats you like they’ve waited their whole life to find you >>>>>

what a privilege it is to be exhausted by an ambition of your own choosing