tuff nerd

@megacycreations @justxhenry @soulaaniny Tangentially, you are correct. The distinction for me - straight men beat up women when they’re confronted about cheating with the opposite sex - so that’s why I can’t really wrap the orientation in to it. Now we have a violent liar. I don’t see why bring up orientation.

@NerdTuff @justxhenry @soulaaniny That’s why I don’t think it’s possible to separate their cheating from their orientation. The dl nature of their cheating exacerbates their response to being found out, therefore their orientation has to be a part of the convo.

The DL Whisperer has perpetuated Black women to be in dangerous situations thinking it’s smart to publicly out men. Listening to Naquan Palmer is gonna some of yall killed. Please do not do this. DL niggas are crazy.

@megacycreations @justxhenry @soulaaniny Basically. Or if you catch them slipping w/o them noticing.

@NerdTuff @justxhenry @soulaaniny Thanks for your sympathy. It’s been a lot to process but that why I’m trying to understand more. So there’s a distinction between closeted and dl. You don’t know someone is dl until you’re left with bruises all over your body.

@megacycreations @justxhenry @soulaaniny I DEF was not referring to you, that’s why I said that. You’ve been nothing but reasonable so far so no need for me to come at you or anything.

@NerdTuff @justxhenry @soulaaniny No the disease portion is because that’s what I was personally put at risk for.

@sirferrell2 When EVERYBODY loves bbc, I don’t see how this is an issue

Yall value white features too much. Not me though good luck

This narrative has to die. Homophobia is as ancient as homosexuality

@megacycreations @justxhenry @soulaaniny I wanna add something here. I’m not saying you’re doing this, but I suspect the “disease” portion of the convo is motivated by insecurity (and/or homophobia), and rightfully so. It’s fair to feel less than if your partner is after a sex organ you don’t have. It’s more than fair

@NerdTuff @justxhenry @soulaaniny There are reasons why hepatitis a, b and c are highly common amongst closeted/gay/dl whoever. Yes I agree homophobia is the main umbrella and root cause. But we don’t have the luxury to separate the cheating, lies, lack of protection from their orientation bc it’s all connected

@megacycreations @justxhenry @soulaaniny The reason is unprotected sex. If your partner is cheating and having unprotected sex, the sex and orientation doesn’t matter, you just increased your risk of passing infection.

@megacycreations @justxhenry @soulaaniny I largely agree.

@NerdTuff @justxhenry @soulaaniny I think it’s all connected and a part of the same convo. Their cheating and lying is directly linked to the parts of their identity that they’re hiding.

@megacycreations @justxhenry @soulaaniny experienced that attack, which I’m sorry you had to endure. I highlight the DL nature because they really are different from just a closeted gay man and they are MUCH more dangerous to encounter and deal with.

@NerdTuff @justxhenry @soulaaniny Bc now the lies are doubled and tripled, now they’re hiding parts of their identity. I think that if I didn’t address discovering my ex liked trans women, or questioned his actions at MJQ in atl, things wouldn’t have gotten so violent that I had to file a restraining order.

@megacycreations @justxhenry @soulaaniny Eh…cheating itself is arguably hiding parts of yourself, but I agree it is egregious, just not in a way significantly different in kind. Red lie, blue lie, yellow lie - they’re all colorful lies if you get the analogy. I think DL men react dangerously and that’s why you

@megacycreations @justxhenry @soulaaniny But I don’t want to run from one of the points you’re pointing out which it’s important- “hiding parts of yourself” - make no mistake, this is an issue and a serious one for a relationship. Although I think it’s separate from the cheating conversation, it is important nonetheless

@NerdTuff @justxhenry @soulaaniny Now you’re cheating and lying and hiding parts of yourself and manipulating and putting women’s sexual and physical health at risk. DL men are also doing for the sake of booty like everyone else in the community.

@megacycreations @justxhenry @soulaaniny We do. Let’s unpack. What makes this layer uniquely nefarious compared to the lies already told?

@NerdTuff @justxhenry @soulaaniny The core issues is cheating and lying. Most people will agree that’s bad. But the sexual orientation adds another layer that for some reason complicates everything. We gotta discus it to unpack it.

@megacycreations @justxhenry @soulaaniny 2nd, if you want to eliminate DL men, eliminate the cause - HOMOPHOBIA. You can’t ask the “community” to confront and address - people who reject being part of the community, conditions that are created outside of the community and are als detrimental TO the “community”

@NerdTuff @justxhenry @soulaaniny You’re making sense to me. But I do think it matters about who it is, when the cheater is confronted about their preference and chooses to get violent. That’s a pattern amongst dl and closeted men that needs to be confronted and addressed within community

@soulaaniny @megacycreations @justxhenry That’s the social repercussion. You’re basically stained as “gay” if you’re bi, and usually biphobia is rooted in homophobia. Whoever you’re discussing may indeed be gay and not dl, I just find DL men are usually bi as gay men often won’t get hard for women, even when closeted

@NerdTuff @megacycreations @justxhenry I don't know if he is bi or gay however In my opinion on bi ,I don't think it's the social repercussions that they ultimately fear the most it would be losing sexual access to the women that desire a heterosexual man. That can't be compromised on.

@dammy4trueluv A good man can leave a woman though

Avoid Dating a Divorce man, no woman leaves a good man. Trust me

@senfumahans @KashaJacqueline @SteveKabuye5 @frankmugisha @k_ophelia @fiercepatricks “Africa” is a an exonym giving to the continent when Rome conquered a piece of it. As a black gay man, I’m THRILLED to see the push to de-homophobe Africa. LOVE IT! We ain’t gotta lie though. Homosexuality is an orientation, not a cultural staple of a nationality,

Homosexuality has always been African🏳️‍🌈

@hell_line0 Why is she going on dates that dont excite her? She talk like she getting dressed for work or something

I just saw a woman explain why she doesnt do 50/50 on dates and her reasoning gagged me. She said : if i go alone id be paying for my meal, and if go on a date and pay 50/50 id still be paying for my meal so why would i want to get dressed up, spend energy on emotional labor, holding conversations, entertaining my date, if im just gonna pay for my own food anyway? Id rather wear my yoga set and scroll uninterrupted. And couldnt have said that any better!!!

@Apollop207 If you wanna one word it, “patriarchy”. What happens to the feminine in a patriarchy? There’s your answer.

When people hear the word gay, they imagine you being feminine Most of the homophobia is rooted in hate for fem boys. People are more accepting if you are masculine and strong headed. it’s why the same hating boys fuck with Frank 0cean even if he is BI