Nick Taber

There are people I follow and respect deeply, and also disagree with at times. When this happens, I try not to drop in on their comment section and start calling them ableists, neurotypicals, or fascists. I try not to call them clueless, or naive, or ignorant, or “out to harm,” or selfish or narcissistic. I try to consider their point, consider my points, and keep scrolling. Wait for the next post they publish, and consider that one too. Maybe drop a joke here and there if I’ve got a wild hair. Keep respecting them for the things they do that are admirable, or kind, or meant to provoke thought. My point: Keep conversations going. Agree, disagree, whatever, but TALK. Stop treating people like all their differing opinions make them worthless. Stop turning discussion into personal attack. Stop name-calling. It doesn’t *actually* make you feel better in the long run, and it motivates people to avoid interacting with you or sharing an honest thought with you. It hurts you, and the discussion as a whole, more than it hurts anyone else.

The most medicated people in the mental health system are often the most perceptive. That is not a coincidence. 🚨Part 1 is free - link in comments

I’ve personally seen more people have their lives destroyed by therapists than helped by them. Added to therapists only hearing the clients perspective, there’s a perverse financial incentive to listen and validate clients to keep them paying, just like there is with AI. It’s no coincidence that 90% of women in the west now talk about their ex as a “narcissist”, ghost after first dates at the smallest sign of a “red flag” and repeat the mantra “I deserve more”. Incompetence is also rife. You can become many types of therapist rapidly, despite limited work on yourself and relatively little training. All this put together ensures there’s an above 75% chance that someone picks a bad therapist, and ruins their life through engagement with them Great therapists exist. But the chance a normal person will have the wisdom to identify one is close to zero. And the chance of sticking with someone who is totally honest with you is even smaller still