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@Queen_DT96
Thinker of thoughts
Johannesburg, South Africa Katılım Kasım 2013
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serious question, why don't we screen all kids for dyslexia, adhd, and autism when they start primary school?
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@901Meg @addict_reality @AdelheidMonroe Do you even know what apartheid was to be using as a drag? This is the equivalent of trying to blame a Black American for slavery?
anywho to let you feel better about yourself... the west isn't depraved - y'all just don't know anything about family values. Individualistic
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@Queen_DT96 @addict_reality @AdelheidMonroe It’s wild that you’re a back woman in a country who had apartheid within your lifetime and you’re calling other countries depraved.
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I have a different perspective. As someone likely closer in years to being a MIL than a postpartum DIL. What if you DO have a horrible mean DIL that doesn’t want you to come for 3 months, while her entire extended family was over there immediately afterwards. She only wants you to stay for 3 days and they were there for a week.
Do you complain to your son, do you write your DIL long messages about how this isn’t fair. Do you send your husband to talk sense to your son. NO you don’t. You adjust your expectations. Your relationship with your DIL is not good, that might be all her fault, but that’s who your son is married to, and that’s the mother of your grand children.
The BEST thing you can do is be kind and respectful of her and hope and pray that the relationship improves with time. None of the above behaviors will improve your relationship.
Taryn@TarynA83
Ladies. I am telling you this right now. Your husband’s family matters when you have a baby. You can say they aren’t allowed in for delivery. You can ask for limited time visits. You can ask for your husband to entertain and introduce the baby if you want to stay in bed. BUT- asking his parents/grandparents to wait to meet them while you let your family in is cruel and selfish. EVEN IF they might annoy you, or his mom is an attention hog, your baby is just as much your husband’s. Your recovery needs matter, but alienating them is wrong.
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@901Meg @addict_reality @AdelheidMonroe Why would i a black woman, have a problem with the fact that my parents fought and dismantled an evil, racist system? Why would I be ashamed of a country that rose from those ashes and built a multicultural democratic society?
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@901Meg @addict_reality @AdelheidMonroe Yes, proudly South African... Please tell me all about the misinformation you have heard about my country.
Because your opinion matters, meg
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@Queen_DT96 @addict_reality @AdelheidMonroe You’re from South Africa and you want to talk about depravity??
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@901Meg @addict_reality @AdelheidMonroe I don't have any children lol, I was just brought up in a home with good family values where women support each other and don't start petty fights with their in-laws.
Alas, not like the depravity of the West
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@Queen_DT96 @addict_reality @AdelheidMonroe Hey weirdo when your son is married he’s not in your nest. Boy moms are so strange.
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@artishamrealtor Poor people don't know what the cost of life is, which is why they keep quoting ridiculous numbers. If you don't know how to make 125k a year work, that's a skill issue, not a financial issue.
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I said your man making $125k is not enough to stay at home for years if you have multiple kids and they eating me up on tiktok 😭😭
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@addict_reality @AdelheidMonroe The DIL will eventually experience the same with her own children. I have seen this happen. Women who destroy other ladies' nests never build happy nests of their own. This is true for adultery and causing disharmony in families.
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@Queen_DT96 @AdelheidMonroe If you “punish” her you’re just more likely to get completely cut out of your son and grandchildren’s lives when they punish you back. These are adults, you do not get to control them.
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did you guys know people are removing their organ donor status because they genuinely truly believe doctors are, like, maliciously harvesting organs from people who would otherwise pull through and putting them on the black market?
PassiveAggressiveIncome@indexnforgetit
The day I learned you can’t harvest organs from a dead person is the day I changed my license from organ donor
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@ewahlwriting I think some people don't understand that through marriage, you gain an additional set of parents. You gain new brothers, sisters, cousins, aunts, and uncles. It's not just about your maiden family. This is what is meant by FAMILY
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One time I told a friend how much I look forward to being a MIL, and how I hope to support my DILs when they have babies, & her reaction was to reprimand me scornfully & say “How do you know she even wants you there? She has her own mom for that.”
This is what I am talking about
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@LizzieMarbach I am starting to think that some women have an agenda to alienate their children from the father's side of the family, and this discourse is proving it. The amount of excuses, inventions of trauma, and accusations of evil MIL is starting to look less true and more propaganda.
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The entire discourse around this post is very strange.
No one should be purposely alienated. But a woman wanting to see her parents immediately after birth while simultaneously wanting to wait to see anyone else is not “alienating” anyone. That is just basic recovery from one of the hardest experiences of a woman’s life.
Post birth is a VERY vulnerable time, emotionally and physically, for the majority of women. VERY.
I’m sorry, but the needs & feelings of the mother & baby DO trump anyone else’s immediately after birth.
The husband’s parents should understand that their daughter-in-law needs her mom at that time AND she needs some time before seeing anyone else without taking it personally or feeling jaded.
Taryn@TarynA83
Ladies. I am telling you this right now. Your husband’s family matters when you have a baby. You can say they aren’t allowed in for delivery. You can ask for limited time visits. You can ask for your husband to entertain and introduce the baby if you want to stay in bed. BUT- asking his parents/grandparents to wait to meet them while you let your family in is cruel and selfish. EVEN IF they might annoy you, or his mom is an attention hog, your baby is just as much your husband’s. Your recovery needs matter, but alienating them is wrong.
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@MuloiwaThendo I'm gonna build a wall and make Mexico pay for it, doesn't sound so crazy now, does it?
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I don't know but if an illegal foreigner is getting deported, the deportation costs should go to country they are from.
SABC News@SABCNews
The Department of Home Affairs says it costs over R60 million each year to deport foreign nationals by road through neighboring countries. tinyurl.com/mveev2p3
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@GovernorAnne I think many women are looking at this wrong. My aunt was very open to getting every female relative to fall in love with my cousin so she could later ask for babysitting help. And boy oh boy did it work. New mothers should hunt and be ruthless in recruiting help.
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I don’t have kids or a husband so I’ve got no skin in this game but the prospect of giving birth and being immediately postpartum and being expected to deal with my in-laws because my MIL is having big feelings makes me want to throw up in my mouth
Taryn@TarynA83
Ladies. I am telling you this right now. Your husband’s family matters when you have a baby. You can say they aren’t allowed in for delivery. You can ask for limited time visits. You can ask for your husband to entertain and introduce the baby if you want to stay in bed. BUT- asking his parents/grandparents to wait to meet them while you let your family in is cruel and selfish. EVEN IF they might annoy you, or his mom is an attention hog, your baby is just as much your husband’s. Your recovery needs matter, but alienating them is wrong.
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If it gets taken away people will say we are xenophobic but on a serious note are our government institutions easily deceived or what?
Khutšo (Amani)@Khutso_A
Watching Cutting Edge. This lady from Eswatini says their children use NSFAS for universities in South Africa. Lol
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She came to celebrate love… only to realize she was the love he quietly erased 😩💔
No closure, no explanation just three months of silence and then seeing him as the groom at her friend’s wedding.
That kind of pain doesn’t scream… it just sits there and breaks you slowly. 🎬
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Let's add some sparkle to the timeline!!
bruno🎤@taylorando_
sinto q tem algm precisando ver esse vídeo
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@queerBengali The biggest reason why I don't like it when people equate humans to animals in a faux 'I care for all beings' narrative is that they are unconsciously angling for animals to be treated better than the humans they don't like. There must be species loyalty, beyond care for animals
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Ok but a cow is categorically not a human so it’s not the same issue.
100 years from today they will not discover that a cow is a human.
accostay@acco_stay
@queerBengali slave owners didn't think their slaves were human
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nobody ever applies this argument to any other academic field of study besides humanities and social sciences. why should all theory have to be written for complete novices, and why should novices not be expected to broaden their vocabulary?
Coren ✒🎨@CorenLaVolpe
Truly intelligent people can describe complex ideas in a way that a layman can understand. Being verbose is intentional obfuscation to maintain their little "elite" circle.
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