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A sister in my DM crying. Rees:after 5 years of marriage, my husband lost his job. I’ve been the one paying rent and feeding the family for 8 months now. He stays home all day playing games and gets angry when I ask him to help with house chores. He says it’s women’s work. Men, your provision role doesn’t end because of setback. Get up and hustle Women, support your man in tough times but don’t become his mother. This dynamic destroys respect. What would you do in this situation

@OsazuwaPri9jgb it also important to ask what ‘effort’ looks like when someone is emotionally broken from job loss Because support can easily turn into pressure if we ignore mental state, pride, and identity struggles that come with unemployment

Job loss is painful, but responsibility doesn’t disappear. If one partner is paying bills, the other should help in other ways. Refusing chores, staying inactive, and getting angry will only build resentment. Support your partner, yes. But support shouldn’t become parenting. The issue isn’t unemployment. It’s effort.

A sister in my DM crying. Rees:after 5 years of marriage, my husband lost his job. I’ve been the one paying rent and feeding the family for 8 months now. He stays home all day playing games and gets angry when I ask him to help with house chores. He says it’s women’s work. Men, your provision role doesn’t end because of setback. Get up and hustle Women, support your man in tough times but don’t become his mother. This dynamic destroys respect. What would you do in this situation

Let me drop this for the boys: If your wife starts comparing you with her friend’s husband who just bought land in Lekki, don’t shout. Just work on yourself quietly But if she starts weaponizing it every week, have sense Comparison is the thief of peace in marriage. A woman who values what you are doing will never kill you with my friend’s husband.

I have N10M Should I start a business In Nigeria or JAPA?

There’s one guy that always calls me Chairman anytime he sees me. Most times, I just give him small money or buy food for him. Last week, I went to the market to buy a bag of rice. Rain was about to fall heavily, everywhere was getting dark, and I couldn’t find any keke or bike to carry the rice home. Out of nowhere, this same guy appeared and asked: “Chairman, wetin happen?” I told him I couldn’t find transport. This guy disappeared into the market, borrowed someone’s wheelbarrow, and pushed the bag of rice all the way to my house in the rain. I was shocked because the distance was far. When he wanted to leave, I gave him some money. The way this guy jumped up thanking me weak me. Then he said: “Chairman, I no know how I for see money chop today.” Some people are really struggling silently. If you can help somebody, please do.

If your £x described your flaws to your current partner with absolute honesty, would your partner defend you?

I'm asking for a favour today.. just tag 2 of your active mutual under this post I want to meet new people.. I fit see my husband join!! Don't deprive me of my man... Let's have it..

@kedAb01 @SgtShow01 @OgbujiPrecious5 Nothing wrong in getting married to your wife's sister after her demise but what is wrong here is the way they started it. Some people don't have a problem with it at all. But if the guilt is disturbing, then they should slow down.

A wife sent me this: Rees” my husband wants sex every night even when I’m exhausted from market and children. When I refuse, he says I’m not submissive. But he doesn’t help with anything at home. Some men think marriage is only about opening legs. Help your wife rest small, assist with chores, then see how she will run to you. Intimacy is not a duty you demand like tax.

Because even if something is ‘not wrong’ in theory, the way it starts and how people process grief can completely change how it feels in practice. So maybe the real question isn’t just ‘is it wrong or right but ‘is everyone actually emotionally healed enough for that kind of transition to be healthy for all sides involved

Because even if something is ‘not wrong’ in theory, the way it starts and how people process grief can completely change how it feels in practice So maybe the real question isn’t just ‘is it wrong or right but ‘is everyone actually emotionally healed enough for that kind of transition to be healthy for all sides involved

I just checked my anonymous link now and I saw this 👇 So sorry about your loss, and I understand how uneasy it can be to lose someone special. Your wife's sister did really well by staying by you to care for you and the child. However, you both developed feelings for each..

@CharlieOchim the harder part not being ‘findable,’ but being consistently useful enough that people actually come back Because visibility gets you attention, but usefulness is what keeps the money flowing.

You can make money online without being famous. You just need to be findable, credible, and helpful.

@captainfam_ a father can be in the house every day and still be absent in the moments that actually shape a child’s confidence and identity.

Fathers, don't come home and hand your children back to their mother after a long day. Sit with them. Hear about their day. Correct them when they're wrong. Be present in your home. Your children need a father who shows up fully not just financially. Fathers don't exasperate your children – Eph. 6:4

That sounds like extreme confidence but isn’t there a thin line between trust and denial Because real trust isn’t about imagining impossible scenarios it’s about knowing you and your partner have built a level of honesty that doesn’t rely on fantasies or assumptions. At some point, blind certainty stops being trust and starts becoming a refusal to engage with reality

That sounds like extreme confidence but isn’t there a thin line between trust and denial Because real trust isn’t about imagining impossible scenarios it’s about knowing you and your partner have built a level of honesty that doesn’t rely on fantasies or assumptions. At some point, blind certainty stops being trust and starts becoming a refusal to engage with reality

I'm just listening to inspiration FM, the topic being discussed is DNA test in marriage. A man called and said he trusts his wife & doesn't need a DNA. He doubled down by saying that even if he sees a man untop of his wife, he'll assume that the man accidentally fell on his wife. He tripled down by saying even a stadium is filled with naked men, and his wife is there, she'll not cheat on him. I immediately lost appetite. End.

@captainfam_ Not the job loss itself, but the emotional response to it avoidance frustration, and turning support into conflict instead of teamwork

@REES2343 The job loss I understand. Eight months of games and anger at his wife for asking for help. Haba, that one I can't explain away.

I get the point, but isn’t that a bit of a false separation Because science and technology may build systems, but art and social sciences shape how those systems are understood, accepted, and even governed

@Israelgharee @itzQmax I get the point, but isn’t that a bit of a false separation Because science and technology may build systems, but art and social sciences shape how those systems are understood, accepted, and even governed

Do y’all agree that the world can function without art and social science, but everyday life heavily depends on science and technology?

Interesting perspective, but isn’t the real issue often not ‘in-laws vs spouse but lack of clear boundaries between partners Because when a husband stays silent and a wife feels unheard, any third party in the home automatically gains influence

Family meeting vibes in my DM today. My mother-in-law lives with us and controls everything from food to how I touch my husband. She tells him I’m not submissive enough. My husband keeps quiet and says respect your mother I’m tired. Many of you men allow third parties to scatter your home. Your wife’s place is with you, not under your mother’s control forever. Set boundaries early or enjoy silent divorce in your own house. In-laws are visitors, not co-owners. REES

@captainfam_ So maybe the real balance is not just showing them options but also allowing them space to not pick what you showed first

@REES2343 I get you. But I said show them, not force them. Exposure is how they discover what they're capable of.

True but isn’t the real challenge not just exposing them to tech fields, but making sure we’re not replacing guidance with pressure Because showing a child options is greatbbut forcing them to ‘carry both’ without understanding their strengths can quietly turn opportunity into confusion.

@itzQmax True, but isn’t the real issue that people often treat job loss as the problem, when it’s actually how both partners respond to it that defines the outcome Because hardship doesn’t destroy respect on its own avoidance, excuses, and silence do

@REES2343 A job loss can be temporary, refusing responsibility is what damages respect. Both sides need honest boundaries and real effort for the situation to improve!