Resmire
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I deleted my earlier, more forceful take, but maybe I’ll just reframe it this way: what else in public life has the same characteristics as seat reclining where the benefit to you for reclining is very small but the downside to the person behind you is very large? Can you think of anything else that has this property and for which we wouldn’t describe engaging in the behavior as antisocial?
There's a subreddit where women post a picture of their dinner and air out their frustrations going on in their lives. >Woman, 26 Asian >Married a guy she hates >Moved across the continent to be with him >Hates his personality(fishes, beer, etc) >Boring Midwesterner >Peaked in high school >Has to "be his mom" >Plans on getting another job and leaving him This guy probably has no idea she hates him and is going to get financially ruined
@RealDianeYap If I came across a guy who needed kindness and support I'd want to give it to them, no reciprocity needed. The problem is that most men don't believe I platonically care and interpret my compassion as interest in a relationship and/or sex, which I don't want. So I hold back.
My personal rules for a functional household: •if you've benefitted from it, contribute to it. Additionally, an eye for an eye leaves the whole world blind, so: • if it's dirty, wash it • if it's misplaced, put it away • if it's broken, fix it When everyone just pitches in and handles those things they notice need to be done that they are capable of doing, it inspires the other members to do the same and there's rarely a need for "that's your job." Once you've entered the "that's your job" realm, the functionality of the system is already broken.
If "men are worse partners" were the reason heterosexual marriages fail, same-sex data should show that pattern. It doesn't. The data points to something the cultural conversation refuses to examine.
Women are far more neurotic and difficult to please than men (just as men are more aggressive, etc). This is a psychological fact reported in 200+ papers, not "hating," and is at the root of the huge majority of online conversations about "mental load," "emotional labor," divorce filing rates, etc. Ideally, women would learn how to discipline this behavior just as the boys learn not to fight duels - not be reinforced in it by constant Yass Queen-ing.
On August 24, 2014, James Beach, a six-foot-one businessman from Denver, was returning from Moscow when he deployed the Knee Defender—“a $22 gadget,” the Associated Press reported, “that attaches to a passenger’s tray table and prevents the person in front from reclining.” The woman in front of him, unable to lean back, flagged a flight attendant. From there, events spiralled. Beach removed the Knee Defender, but then became upset when the woman reclined forcefully, risking damage to his computer. He confronted her, pushed her seat forward, and tried to reinstall his device, at which point, he said, she turned around and threw her soda at him. The plane was diverted to Chicago, where it was met by police, and news coverage of the event led to conversations about reclining one’s airplane seat. “The bottom line is that reclining is a social act in an environment of social stress. It involves deciding whether to inflict your will on someone else, and enduring or resisting the effects of someone else’s decision,” Joshua Rothman writes. Read more about the ethics of reclining your seat: newyorkermag.visitlink.me/9zPAOe
@RealDianeYap Women need to stop being naïve about male friends. No, we don't want to spend time with you because we think you have something more interesting to say about any of our other interests than guys. We are much more likely to share the interests and sensibilities of other guys.
If you do not understand why it is emotionally painful for a guy to continue spending time with you after his feelings towards you weren't reciprocated, you never really cared about him. You just enjoyed the fact that you could control him. Imagine if a guy took offense that a girl he was banging for many months finally cut him off because he didn't think of her like a girlfriend and wouldn't commit. Psychopathic.
My friend ended a 6-year relationship about 3 months ago. His ex is already posting vacations with a new guy, smiling all over Instagram like nothing happened. Meanwhile my buddy refuses to even download a dating app. He’s just lifting 6x/week, going to work, and trying to survive the day. It genuinely made me wonder… Why does it seem like women move on from breakups so much faster than men?
Men aren’t lonely enough They can be lonelier ladies Please intensify the 4B
