Meg is Probably Not Rated for Lava

@RadCentrism Lol

Only by watching the *full 53 minutes* can you really see that being pro-murderous-Putin and anti-democracy is the subtle but sensible option.

@suchnerve Enter trauma therapy

@MRibnek Men behaving badly is a feature not a bug in their worldview

As the prolife movement declares Trump today “the most prolife president in our history”, yet another serial abuser of women gains power bc of them. As I’ve written before, this movement sees women as collateral, promoting our most notorious abusers to power. In this administration, raping and abusing women is considered a resume qualification.

@PicturesFoIder I read grownups as grownpups. And we are.

Grownups playing in snow just the cutest thing

Man says society is wrong for not limiting women's roles and influence in response to discussion about Catholic female altar servers. How am I still surprised

@godandchocolate @rightscholar A little secret I learned: when it's always your fault because you belong to a certain category that's how you know you're encountering discrimination

I guess it does make sense, from a certain point of view. There is a constant vocations crisis and an unbreakable ceiling for women when it comes to involvement. And so it goes...

@bluewmist A thought: or they can predict the authority figure's response or have partly internalized that response so both what they could decide and what they want to decide both become non-options because any choice equals a betrayal of values

a trauma book I was reading had an interesting claim that indecision is often because the person looks for the approval of an internalized authority figure but is unable to predict what action they would approve of.

@ChristisKingWV @ASobocki @rightscholar @davidgmac9 In my career I can aspire toward any role; in the church I cannot. That discrepancy is disorienting and needs addressed. Is society wrong for not limiting my roles and influence?

@FrKyleDoustou What does the adjective "faithful" in "large faithful families" mean to you. In good faith I'm trying to understand

I was informed this evening that a healthy, curious, rambunctious child from one of our large faithful families knocked over one of our statues in our entryway this morning. His parents are mortified and embarrassed. I get it. But I'm smiling from ear to ear. Why? Because our parish is alive! I love that we have children running around! More and more I'm competing with loud, fussy kiddos at Mass, and I love it! I don't rejoice in broken statues, of course, but if I'm going to have iconoclasts I'd rather them be children! And homes with kids have broken things. Friends, our churches are *not* school houses or lecture halls. They are homes and hospitals. Sometimes they are quiet and prayerful, other times they are messy and loud. People clog our toilets, children break our statues, and others cry or cough so loud no one can hear the priest. I *don't* care. These walls and roofs exist for you to encounter your Eucharistic Lord, and for Him to encounter you...not so that we can all have a pristine Sunday experience. Bring me your tired, your poor, your marginalized, your prayerful, your rambunctious. Bring them, without hestitation. The church is theirs, not mine!

@FrPBehm @FrMatthewLC I've been to a non fssp priest, standard Dominican, who told me in the confessional it was good the confessional line was long for my particular sin. I'm going to default to not doubting a victim's report. Doubting reports of abuse does harm

The requirement for a valid confession is that you intend never to commit a mortal sin again. Humans are weak, so even with good intentions, people can fall into the same mortal sin again. Jesus is there to forgive each person if that happens. Implying confession will not be available if someone commits the same sin again is bad pastoral practice.

@godandchocolate Original thread dripping of survivor bias

@Pontifex Something the institutional church could try

If we always place ourselves and our ideas before anything else, and if we presume to have something to boast of before God, we will never fully encounter Him. But if we lower ourselves, we will rediscover the wonder of worshipping Jesus.

@_nomadic_soul Survivor bias

Then why are our bodies left with literal wounds? Why do I have two permanent scars in two separate places? Why was my mind also wounded? But it wasn’t trauma.

@SNeurotypicals That I was doing something wrong. I was just wrong and missing something that other people had. In short: it was my fault and only I could "fix it".

@wnderlustingem Not me wearing an accessible jean jacket because it doesn't touch my armpits and still itching to take it off when I get out of public. Deciding to go home early because my outfit was a mistake because the sleeves aren't loose enough

Me during my autism assessment: I don’t have sensory issues. Dr: So, why do you walk on your toes? Me: I don’t like the way the floor feels when you place the whole weight of your foot on it. But because I avoid doing it by walking on my toes, it’s not an issue.

Does anyone not

@MegHunterKilmer "you're actually have a really good personality when you are yourself." Lol, I thought I was always myself

I will never understand why people think it's a compliment to say "I used to think you were judgmental/abrasive/obnoxious/fake, but now I love you!" Not even the ones who are being passive-aggressive—people say this to me when they're clearly trying to say something lovely. Why??

@Jeangreyrising Me. 18 years into marriage. 16 years into parenthood

@libby4000 I had the same experience on Aug 21 at age 38. A month later and I'm still not sure what I think and feel even though I pursued the assessment

✨I was diagnosed autistic today✨ I had an autism assessment last Tuesday with a lovely lady from the nhs, and today she rang me to confirm that she is diagnosing me. I don’t really know how to feel if I am completely honest. I feel relief and sadness and a bit numb.