Sammie E!🔰 retweetledi
This is why "deliberate commitment" is one of the 3 pillars of marriage.
It's also why I keep saying that women don't love men and they shouldn't.
It's why I keep telling men that love is fickle and financial strength, good and kind leadership surpass love, because love alone cannot sustain marriage.
It's why I keep telling women that any woman that says she wants to love a man is bound to make stupid and regrettable mistakes.
Men must go into marriage with "I can do it alone" mindset when it comes to finances.
Women must go into marriage with the mindset of "I am going to follow this man's lead & be his support system and not and enabler".
Everyone must know and play their roles and responsibilities.
They must do it with kindness, selflessnes and deliberate commitment.
Roles can be flexed, but they're never interchangeable.
Moreso, in Africa where we are predominantly punished by bad leaders and leadership, one must learn how to cut his her coat according to size, & minimize their risks.
It's not yet uhuru.
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Sunny Elem@ElemSunny
Marriage today is not just “I love you” and vibes. Life is louder now. Bills are heavier. Expectations are higher. Child care is heavier. Love alone can’t carry all that weight. You need understanding… so you don’t misread each other. You need patience… so small issues don’t become big fights. You need real effort… daily, not occasionally. Because these days… Marriage is not sustained by feelings alone. It’s built by what you keep doing even when feelings are tired, and the load is heaviest. Will you still say “I love you” when the weight is too much? Think about that!
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