Kendra

Hi @IDPH, During audits there needs to be somebody who goes around and talks to the residents and asks them if they feel they are being abused, while also making sure they are aware that abuse isn't always physical. They need to be told that it’s confidential and that it’s just to ensure the safety of all residents. Ask for specific staff member names, ask if they feel they are being feed enough, ask if they feel like they are actually being helped. Ask if the staff are being mean to them. Why? Audits aren't just about codes and regulations. You are in the business of PEOPLE. So, ask the PEOPLE if what you are being shown and told during an audit is what is actually happening on the daily:

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Hi @IDPH, During audits there needs to be somebody who goes around and talks to the residents and asks them if they feel they are being abused, while also making sure they are aware that abuse isn't always physical. They need to be told that it’s confidential and that it’s just to ensure the safety of all residents. Ask for specific staff member names, ask if they feel they are being feed enough, ask if they feel like they are actually being helped. Ask if the staff are being mean to them. Why? Audits aren't just about codes and regulations. You are in the business of PEOPLE. So, ask the PEOPLE if what you are being shown and told during an audit is what is actually happening on the daily:

@CathHurt “I choose YOU, lifetime of existential trauma!”

@SurvivingCFS Collect them all to get the complete set! 🤣🤣🤣

32: Disabled, autistic, homeless, black, woman. Me: “Geewiz! Surely there isn’t any other margin I will find myself being lum-🏳️‍🌈.” … ….. Ahhhh. I see.

@IDPH YOU have a responsibility to protect your citizens from institutional abuse and from what I am seeing, yall have let it get so comically out of control that I’m surprised yall do audits to begin with. This is not some cute little job. You have peoples LIVES in your hands. For every abuse you turn a blind eye to there is a preventable death that has occurred at a facility. @IDPH I call for YOU to take responsibility for the DISMAL state in which you have let your facilities thrive in and to improve upon it. Not just the rich deserve a quality of life. So…take it…more…fucking….seriously. Yeah?

You've got vulnerable people who are stripped of their autonomy and who DEPEND on the facility for a place to stay. This is not a population of people who are going to be ready and willing to admit they are being abused because they don’t want to be displaced. The facility admin know this, and they weaponize it. I have seen sexual assaults, overdoses, elder abuse, forced starvation. You name it. Will you see that during your audits? No. What you see is just the tip of the iceberg. Notice how when you talk to staff during these audits you can never get a straight answer? There is a nervousness there? A sense of wrongdoing? It feels like something isn't right, something is being hidden or someone is lying? Trust that instinct because often times they ARE lying and falsifying. No staff member is ever the perpetrator in their own eyes, only the victim.

@AArbaal82183 Loathed, to be exact

@SurvivingCFS I prefer hated.

Is it better to be feared or loved, if you cannot be both?

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@Mae_DayJ And surprisingly most of the relationships lasted at least a year or longer with the longest being five years because I will try and see if it’s working and if it’s not it’s like okay we tried. Next!

@SurvivingCFS People used to say I was a serial monogamist and I was like, sorry I acknowledge red flags and bounce instead of wasting years of life on the wrong person 🤷🏽‍♀️

This has been my philosophy a long time and it's probably why I've had a lot of dating and relationship experiences I just dive in

@Left_Indy Yes and ever since being with a woman and living it, I feel like a weight had been lifted from my soul that I didn't even know I was carrying. It feels like taking a deep breath and letting it out slowly

@SurvivingCFS Believe it or not, coming out of the closet even knowing all the 🐂💩 that'll be dumped on you is not only brave but a form of trauma therapy b/c once you stop lying to yourself & accept who you are it becomes much easier to be at peace w/ yourself. It means no longer hiding.

“And here comes in the question whether it is better to be loved rather than feared, or feared rather than loved. It might perhaps be answered that we should wish to be both; but since love and fear can hardly exist together, if we must choose between them, it is far safer to be feared than loved.” - Niccolò Machiavelli, The Prince

In the past I would have said loved. After the amount of trauma I faced while homeless? My answer has to be feared.

Chronic illness love advice: dive into the relationship headfirst then just breakup if it don't work out cuz like…. You could die tomorrow. Do you really wanna die alone? Alright. *rubs hands together fiercely* That'll be $100 for your private consultation.

@stuffhedoes What great pain

8 months, 1 day, 6 hours and 20 minutes you've been dead. You've left a hole so deep, it swallowed me, and now I only know this pain. You left me so utterly alone, and all I have now are 13 years in 3 countries. Memories no one else remembers.

Giving a stupid person way too much power is dangerous

Okay it's been covered!

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@SurvivingCFS I still talk to them and they know exactly what I’m saying 😬

If you grew up trying to communicate with animals like Eliza Thornberry, how is being on the spectrum going for you so far? 😭😭😭