Todd Kashdan

Should have hired him as my publicist. Gift a copy to a high school or college graduate who could use strategies to deal with unnecessary friction in jobs and organizations: toddkashdan.substack.com/about

The research is in: Banned books don't harm kids—they create better citizens. This is how, by @toddkashdan psychologytoday.com/us/blog/curiou…

@golflifemetals @RealDonKeith 😂 This is sooooo good. Yes more of this !

@RealDonKeith This made me think of HS with @toddkashdan He would have made this😂

More of this, please.😂

With the conversations related to Minnesota, it might be worthwhile to reread some of these principles. Full article here: insidehighered.com/views/2022/03/… @insidehighered

Come on by in one week. Hang out and enjoy some fun stories and science from our research lab. Hope to see you there! guilfordhall.com/event-details/…

Neediness facilitates most social systems - independence quietly disrupts them

“Across three studies, the researchers found that Americans vastly underestimate how open-minded and intellectually humble their political in-group actually is. Participants believed that people in their own party were less willing to consider diverse views than they truly were.”

My @PsychToday article featuring @toddkashdan’s curiosity research was picked up by @RCPolitics ☺️ realclearpolitics.com/2025/12/18/how…

A reminder that real progress requires voices, not silence Todd Kashdan - @toddkashdan - Professor of Psychology and Director of the Well-Being Lab at George Mason University From episode 333 of The Armen Show

NEW EPISODE!🚨 In this episode, the psychologist and bestselling author of The Upside of Your Dark Side and The Art of Insubordination, @toddkashdan walks us through how embracing discomfort, adversity, and negative emotions can supercharge resilience, creativity, and confidence. Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 01:06 – Growing up as a minority and the value of adversity 03:05 – Why “negative emotions” are essential for resilience 04:04 – The good side of narcissism 06:02 – How insecurity shapes the shell we build 07:50 – Body dysmorphia in men and boys 09:02 – Physical attractiveness bias and income 11:01 – Reinventing identity and social confidence 13:15 – The psychology behind self-improvement outcomes 14:30 – Self-love vs. self-growth: which comes first? 16:10 – The myth of loving yourself before taking action 16:30 – Michael Jordan and the power of negative motivation 18:17 – Learning to observe your thoughts 19:52 – Cognitive defusion: you are not your thoughts 21:10 – A tool for reframing self-defeating beliefs 22:33 – How mentors and friends help rewire self-appraisal 24:22 – Emotional roots of limiting beliefs 26:23 – Building psychological flexibility 27:03 – “I hate Jake” and how to create mental distance 29:02 – The role of wise counsel in personal growth 30:40 – Who belongs in your inner circle? 32:47 – Giving radical feedback and how to receive it 33:51 – How to speak truth without destroying trust 35:32 – Filtering for people with the right values and intellect 37:37 – Are we choosing friends that reflect who we want to be? 39:49 – Raising strong kids: independence vs. protection 42:04 – The hidden upside of twins (and chaos) 44:14 – Parenting with an older mindset and resources 46:10 – How becoming a parent expands your capacity for love 48:52 – Giving children agency and real-world skills 52:23 – Handling kids’ mistakes without losing trust 55:12 – The difference between safety and resilience 56:40 – Why discomfort is the antidote to anxiety 59:02 – How to create independent, emotionally strong adults 1:02:15 – The hidden role of discomfort in creativity 1:05:22 – The cognitive trap: why we think we are our thoughts 1:09:04 – Parenting, psychedelics, and the future of psychological freedom 1:14:35 – Final thoughts on living with purpose, curiosity, and courage

@listlesslabs So sorry. It can be unnecessary and overwhelming. Hope some of the strategies help

@toddkashdan unnecessary friction at work is exactly what i'm struggling with these days

Should have hired him as my publicist. Gift a copy to a high school or college graduate who could use strategies to deal with unnecessary friction in jobs and organizations: toddkashdan.substack.com/about

@PsyDocCindy @learningandtheb You Cindy are a cool car. Only wish we had a chance to talk longer. Damn big tables filled with peeps

Pinch me. IYKYK @learningandtheb

We love physically attractive people. This is the bias people should be focusing on, especially when it is completely irrelevant to the task. The attractiveness bias is real. Sometimes. Read on for some wacky studies you haven't heard of: toddkashdan.substack.com/p/why-are-we-a…

@systemofadown @RickRubin toddkashdan.substack.com/p/creativity-l… Love this band. Love this brilliant mind.

Curiosity doesn't vanish with age—it simply changes form. Here's how to make the most of it to deepen your relationships and expand your life, writes @toddkashdan psychologytoday.com/us/blog/curiou…

@SwipeWright So glad I deleted the app

I checked in on BlueSky to see how people there are reacting to the release of the Israeli hostages, and it’s the eeriest thing. It’s not trending. There’s no mention of it on the “Explore” tab. I started scrolling the feed and went through hundreds of posts without seeing a single one that mentioned it. Instead, it’s all posts about Mamdani, John Oliver’s new episode criticizing Bari Weiss and Jamie Reed, the “No Kings” protest apparently happening this weekend, Taylor Swift, the Epstein Files, complaints about anti-vaxxers, and snarky takes insisting that Antifa doesn’t exist. That's it. It’s honestly blowing my mind how ideologically airtight that bubble is. If someone primarily gets their news by scrolling BlueSky, there’s a good chance they don’t even know that Trump negotiated a deal for the hostages and that they were released today. And what’s even more mind blowing is that this echo chamber is entirely self-imposed. They weren’t banned from X. They left voluntarily, specifically to avoid encountering news or perspectives that might challenge their narrative.

Building a Wise Counsel Professor @toddkashdan on episode 333

@TheDissenterYT Loved hanging.

In episode 658, I talk with Dr. Todd Kashdan (@toddkashdan) about his book, The Art of Insubordination: How to Dissent and Defy Effectively. #psychology #Science youtu.be/GadlKjkoRjU

@mattiasiello @zoecabina Thanks brother.

@zoecabina @toddkashdan

Throw this bitch a 🦴 Suggest some guests for the Quillette Cetera podcast: 🥁

If you’re interested in curiosity distress tolerance meaning and purpose in life and practical ways to enhance these qualities come to this conference. Always a blast. Love the interactions from Q&A to hallway conversations.