TrinaTR

Seek to understand, not to be understood. But not on Twitter, because that's not how it works here. 🤔🤔🙄

Do not, do not, do not come at yourself w/ "why can't you just do it?" Self blame & shame isn't going to realistically shift this pattern, not sustainably. Instead use the Recovery Supporting Question (RSQ), "what's the first tiny step?" As a rule, think smaller & try softer.

@ompsychiatrist Morons keep mistaking feeling sad for clinical depression. Exercise helps when you’re simply in a bad mood. It does not treat actual depression, which is an actual medical condition.

@pigeonxphoenix I hope you have moments feeling like this today!

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@pigeonxphoenix I understand. But fake it until you make it!! You'd encourage people you love to take care of themselves -- be someone you love! (It was so so so hard to learn! But as my therapist said to me "if you don't value yourself, how do you expect others to value you?" OUCH.)

@TrinaTrisk This is so so so so so true.

I would do anything to be able to simply sit with my book and be left to read in peace!

@pigeonxphoenix Everyone would survive you being in the hospital -- they'll survive a 24-hour respite for you!

@TrinaTrisk I never took it as judging. But you’re right, I will be more intentional about finding a way to make this happen! 💜💜💜

@pigeonxphoenix What would happen if you were suddenly hospitalized for 30 hours? People would make do/figure it out, ask for help (or not), some stuff would be delayed/abandoned.... and all of that is ok! Take the time, if you at all can!! (Please, i mean this to be encouraging, not judging!)

@TrinaTrisk I get pockets of time where I get to do it but not 24 hours. BUT possibly there’s a trip happening soon where I will be on my own A LOT 👀 and possibly my kindle will be coming with me……

@MsWOCReader Lucky! I struggle to find new authors who really captivate me. Enjoy vacation!!

@TrinaTrisk I have a TBR to read down so I'm good on recs but thanks anyway

Deciding what books to take on my vacation with me

@GhostWall404 @RealPostFolder Respecting what? Or whom? How do kids learn to parent opposite gender children? What if the children are all one gender? If hetero-parents have 4 boys, should the male parent do all the bathing/diaper changing? Starting at what age? I understand you saying "if possible" -- how?

@RealPostFolder Actually, if possible, I don't think males should bathe girl children.... I did say if possible. That includes the father. I'm not talking about changing, though even that is preferable not to be done either, but bathing. It's not because of pedo, but respect etc

When I was 16, I used to change my 2yo sister's diapers and gave her baths. This shouldn't be a big deal

@redstateboomer And these are the things I appreciate about Aldi! I go in, get veggies, eggs, milk, bread, some meat. No 57 options for black beans -- I just grab black beans. Eggs? Grab 2, they're cheap. No dodging sample tasting, loss leader bait'n'switch. No frills. Hunt and gather, done!!

If I wanted an enemy to lose their will, I'd send 'em to Aldi's. Tiny gloomy store, concrete floors, no music, bizarre vibes, carts out in the south 40 instead of the entryway, need a quarter to get a cart, no baskets, no cart corrals, timed cashiers, small staff. No thanks.

The hardest part of ADHD isn’t starting a habit. It’s doing it perfectly for 10 days, missing one day and your brain immediately acting like you never did any of it.

@someswaggt Honestly, my favorite are the crispy m&ms, but these were pretty good!

@TrinaTrisk Omg!?

Anybody else remember the white chocolate m&ms i used to fuck those up LMAO

@pigeonxphoenix Sad that anyone questions that right, or has to learn to internalize that message. Thanks for the affirmation!

@TrinaTrisk You have the right to be here.

I have the right to be here. *I* have the right to be here. I *have* the right to be here. I have *the right* to be here. I have the right *to be* here. I have the right to be *here*. I have the right to be here. Rallying call to myself; warning to those who disagree. Truth

@Eagleensnajkka @cmclymer There is a difference between supporting someone to get help and to learning coping skills, and enabling the disease to take over. I say this as a person with multiple mental health issues.

@cmclymer You forgot struggling due to mental health issues—anxiety, and depression. Those are also medical issues.

At the risk of sounding like a bitch, I think more parents should let their college-aged kids fall on their face. Let them fail. Let them experience consequences. If you find yourself reaching out to your grown kid's college professor for any reason that isn't related in good faith to a complicating medical issue, you're doing something wrong. If you find yourself having to push your grown kid to get a job because they're not making an effort, you're doing something wrong. If you find yourself doing run-of-the-mill errands all the time for your grown kid, you're doing something wrong. I hear these stories of parents doing basic adulting stuff for their kids who are in their 20s, and I'm genuinely shocked by it. Makes absolutely no sense to me. Let them be an adult. Let them understand personal responsibility. Let them get stronger from that. Let them fail.

@girdley .... did you just refer to Pride goods as "alternative lifestyle" and then segue into Satanic themes and trangender-friendly clothing? Wow. Um......

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@pigeonxphoenix Hugs!! Grief is a long and complicated process... grieving what actually happened AND grieving the loss of what should have happened/never happened are, for me, 2 different processes. Then there's grieving for the little girl who should have been believed... layers upon layers.

The last two days, the word resentment has been floating about. I thought, and this was silly of me to do so, that I felt none. Especially towards those who claim to love me most. Yet I realised earlier. I do. I have a lot of resentment within me. And this resentment is actually what's preventing me from accepting who they are. Their lack of accountability, want to change, or even simply a willingness to hear me properly and understand me. My life, in my view at least, could be far simpler if I accepted who they are. But I cannot. Because of this resentment. I resent that they seem to be going through their own lives without any thought of the events that have happened between us. I sit here and seethe and fester, neither even remotely helpful, and I watch them live their lives as if none of it happened. This resentment is what's intruding on my ability to accept. Some would assume that with acceptance comes the ability to let go. I would push back a little there because I don't see it as letting go. I accept that I was sexually abused. I accept that I had parents who were ill-equipped to handle this fact once they were informed when I was seventeen. I will never not be a survivor. I will never not have experienced what I did with them when I was in my late teens. Accepting who they are and letting go of the resentment means that I stop hoping for better. I stop hoping for more. I stop wishing for things that I will never receive. That, I think, is what will happen if I find a way to stop being resentful and simply accept. I say I think because clearly, this hasn't happened yet. And these are simply the thoughts of a person who is tired.