Patrick O’Sullivan

1975. The theme: After-dark sophistication, couple dynamics, infinite black backdrop.

@sethlfowler Exactly. Well said

@_osullivan love this. taking responsibility for what's happening and realizing avoidance has crafted an unwanted reality.

We think of problems that we are personally "stuck" with as being not within our control. But what if a part of you is incentivized to maintain the problem because it delivers what the survival mechanism within us wants: familiarity/ safety/ predictability. Our identity seeks to protects itself by perpetuating patterns that don't deliver real satisfaction. We're left with the feeling that something's missing. This is very hard to see. And harder to accept that we'd sabotage ourselves.

Hard to see... but enormous power in it if you can.

I put this Q&A together around one question that keeps coming up: Why would I actually want certain problems? This is hard to see. Hard to accept. Here’s the piece: open.substack.com/pub/osullivanp…

April, 1977 70s ads often told a story. Or left a space for you to insert your own interpretation. There's a dynamic composition between positions of the players, but also a social dynamic: "Hey René, aren't you going to introduce us to your new lady friend?" Is the girl in the back a serendipitous passerby? Also, of course, beautiful suits. Long lines, strong contours.

@remnantsofpast Beautiful

Courtyard of Meiji Shrine, Tokyo, 1951 Photo by Werner Bischof

DAVE: My wife starts fights out of nowhere. I walk in the door wanting to decompress and she starts up. Spoiler: At a deeper level, Dave wants the fights. osullivanpatrick.substack.com/p/break-the-st…

The dialogue sketches I've been writing on my Substack have been a kind of cognitive working through process for me to test-drive this material of the automaticity which we are. Not easy stuff.

Our identity’s objective differs from our own. Identity seeks confirmation of who its self-definition... based on the past. So it's strongly biased towards towards risk aversion, inertia, justification and being right. When we act as our identity, we get stuck.

My latest article explores why we're addicted to the thing we insist we don't want. In this case, marital fights. Our identity's running game to reinforce its own self-image. The result is getting stuck. How do we break the cycle? osullivanpatrick.substack.com/p/break-the-st…

Creating an elegant leg line. Pants ad, Esquire, September 1972

Cerruti ad Esquire, November 1975

How do you get access to what you don’t know that you don’t know?

Do you think your thoughts? Or do your thoughts think you? A powerful distinction. My latest piece: osullivanpatrick.substack.com/p/you-dont-thi…

My latest piece. A dialogue sketch that explores what the "I don't do introspection" take could be hiding. Wealth and power don’t exempt the player from the game of personas. In fact, wealth and power may create larger blindspots due to arrogance. osullivanpatrick.substack.com/p/billionaire-…

"If you change the rules on what controls you, you will change the rules on what you can control."

When "more" is more, we want more "more." When "less" is more, we want more "less."

Whatever your position on style, it's always about yourself. Probably your identity. Myself included: x.com/_osullivan/sta…