Asexual ACES

Being alloromantic & allosexual means feeling romantic & sexual attraction to 1 or more genders. Allo is not the same as polyamory. Polyamory is a choice. Being allo isn't. Allos can still abstain from dating/sex (attraction ≠ action). Allos can still love family & friends.

Honestly one of the best clapbacks I have ever seen:

When aces use "cishet ace", they mean the PB&A sandwich that consists of: - 2 slices of cis bread - some heteroromantic peanut butter - some ace paste (flavorless, odorless, colorless, textureless, invisible, inaudible) instead of heterosexual jelly It's a different sandwich.

Being similar to or having 2 out of 3 things in common with PB&J sandwiches ≠ being a PB&J sandwich. If you added heterosexual jelly to grilled cheese, it wouldn't be basically a PB&J sandwich, despite having 2 out of 3 things in common. You're either a PB&J sandwich or not.

Analogy The "cishet" ace PB&J sandwich It consists of: - 2 slices of cis bread - some heteroromantic peanut butter - no heterosexual jelly Some people insist that for all intents & purposes, it's a PB&J sandwich. No same-gender attraction cheese/trans bread? PB&J sandwich!

Die "Du wirst schon die*r Eine*n für Dich finden!"-Narrative im Aromantik- und Asexualität-Diskurs hat im Kern einen Allo Superiority Complex, welcher Aspecs "heilen" und vor sich sich selbst schützen will, indem ein*e allo Partner*in das Gegenüber von aspec Identität "befreit"🧵

@AsexualGoddess The common term is "allo cishet".

How should we label straight straight people (cis het straight ppl) so people don’t think we’re talking about straight aces/aros? Cause the terms I use feel repetitive

Excited to see this project I've been pushing for and working on get off the ground! I'm so pleased that @lgbtcooperators is taking this step to reach out to, work with and support asexual people in the @CoopParty and movement. Get in touch to find out more!💜

@AphobeHottakes Love is love! I think lesbian, gay & bi are normal. I totally respect them (as long as they're trans &/or ace). 1. Being gay means you're a man. Men aren't oppressed. 2. Lesbian is a popular porn category. So obviously no one hates on them. 3. Bi Felica. Need I say more? /s

"Trans people have psychological problems and nobody is oppressing you for not wanting sex" KW: "aphobic and proud" "queerphobic and proud" "not lgbt"

@aragon1500 @ButterscotchwM @alexatheok Yes & no. Asexuality is/has a spectrum. That spectrum indicates sexual attraction: None, some, rare, weak, conditional, etc. Other things aren't part of that spectrum, because they can be applied to others. Blue squares exist, but 'blue' isn't part of the 'rectangle spectrum'.

@asexualACES @ButterscotchwM @alexatheok Right its a state of beingthat has a spectrum within it like how autism is a neurological condition but is considered a spectrum disorder cause they have things in common but aren't identical a square is a rectangle but a rectangle is not a square

Random person: "How can asexuals have/like sex? I thought the point of being asexual was not having/liking sex?" Common response: "Asexuality is a spectrum. [...]" No. Asexuality being a spectrum is irrelevant in this context. It's an orientation, not what we (don't) do/like.

"Back in my day, people weren't offended by everything. We could take a joke." Elgoog detected the following language: Bullshit Translation: "We used to bully people & get away with it. Now, they don't let us do that anymore. They don't bully us, but it feels like that to us."

@aragon1500 @ButterscotchwM @alexatheok Yes! Definitely! 'Some' is a very important keyword. It's generally understood for most groups that people within that group are individuals, but when it comes to lesser known groups like aces, people often struggle to see what's 'this makes you [group]' & 'this makes you you'.

@asexualACES @ButterscotchwM @alexatheok Tbh some should be our leading word with aces and aros in general some aces like sex others don't some only wanna do it with someone they have a bff type relationship with all aces are valid

"Stop shoving your lifestyle in my face!" Fine, we'll try to contain our lifestyle face-shoving. No more engagement photo shoots, wedding photo shoots, pregnancy announcement photoshoots, baby belly growth photos, "gender" reveals, birth announcements, newborn photoshoots, ...

@Glaceix Well, you know, white is a spectrum. 😜 No, it isn't. Color is a spectrum & something's either white or it isn't. If it isn't, I don't need it in my life. & I certainly don't need a dozen different shades of faux-white. But some people do. Or they need 1 of them or whatever. 🤷🏻‍♀️

@asexualACES I mean I AM making fun of wedding dresses being called "chapagne/eggshell/offwhite/nacre" but that's mainly cause I can't see them. And in my head "white" is per definition reflecting all wavelengths, and as soon as there is a sliight yellowish hue, it's no longer white to me.

I just ✌️🏻love✌️🏻 when people who've just come across a label (& think new to them = new) decide it's unnecessary, because - it has the same meaning as this other already existing label (it doesn't) - it's too specific (not for those who use it) - no one cares (except, they do)

@scretladyspider They always think they're so fucking clever. Step 1: Don't understand what it means Step 2: Base opinion on how you misunderstood what it means Step 3: Be vocal about your opinion Step 4: Insist that you understand what it means Step 5: Make sure to mock it for being silly

someone did not do the homework

“Everyone is demisexual” then why do I keep having to explain to you what demisexual actually means

@Glaceix I mean 'eggshell' is a color. So is 'offwhite'. I need neither of those labels, but I'm not gonna go to posts about boring colors & say how unnecessary they are. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Yes! FWB! I love bringing that up when people go "A (romantic) relationship without sex is "just" a friendship!"

@asexualACES Yeah, I mean you're just telling that a demisexual/(likely) demiromantic who's trying to get into QPRs (as in trying to grasp what they exactly are) ^^ And hell, even fi that was the case - FWB exists and has it's own label, why shouldn't QPR get one too?

@ButterscotchwM @alexatheok Some. Some aces can enjoy sex for the (alleged 😉) physical pleasure. *someaces can enjoy sex. Not all do.s can enjoy sex. Not all do.

@alexatheok @asexualACES No ace ppl can still enjoy sex for the physical pleasure of it, even if they're not sexually attracted to the person. A common phrase some ace ppl resonate with is "the plumbing is all there it's just not pointed at anything."