BowTiedCranes | Heal Your Trauma, Change Your Life

"Do I have a trauma?" That's one of the most powerful and important questions you can ask yourself. Trauma is all around us, and it influences how we think, feel, deal with problems, and who we form (or fail to form) relationships with. But how can you tell? Here's how:

Women aren’t the problem. Men aren’t the problem. Attachment is the problem. Marry a spouse with healthy attachment, cultivate healthy attachment in yourself, and build a healthy attached marriage, and your divorce risk drops to nearly 0%.

Lifelong readers aren’t born, they’re made. Such is the case with this little one, who finds the most exciting discovery at the grocery store: books. Check out his reaction. The excitement. And the way he plops down on the floor, right then and there, to dig in. It probably won’t surprise you to learn that reading holds a special place of honor in this household (sambolivat on IG). There’s more to learning to read than being read to, of course. But the desire and inclination to read… the association between books and pleasure…those are all things you can begin developing from Day One by making daily reading a part of your child’s life. Look at all the literacy knowledge this little guy has already developed. Just marvelous. Read, read, read with your baby.

Days like today are the greatest reminder that there is no sin quite as bad as DESPAIR Many people thought it was over in 2020. The moment evil pressed forward they stopped believing in God's providence. They gave up But you can never do this. No matter what you are facing, you have to keep pushing forward. You have to face adversity with a smile, and with faith that in the end truth and justice will prevail Evil feeds on your weakness and your fear. If you persist with hope - if you don't let yourself be demoralized by the persecution, and keep standing in integrity - it will lose. And not just a little. It will lose completely and utterly. What looked like an insurmountable empire of lies is now crumbling before our very eyes And it is all because Trump and people like him never gave up. It's been a long, hard road. But after four years of darkness, it's finally dawn.

@Bowtied_Owl Wait and see...you may be surprised...

@bowtiedcranes There won’t be openings for those people to get involved

It’s going to get worse. The skilled people are seeing the threats of losing their jobs and will leave to find new ones. The people who haven’t been doing anything / no skills will hunker down because they have no other option. End result = less people, even more incompetence

Young men: If you choose the wrong woman you are sacrificing your goals for a life spent managing her problems that she refuses to fix. The right woman will augment your life goals. She'll be a jet engine strapped to your back that pushes you ahead even faster. Choose wisely.

@BowtiedCuda That last tip is the best one. If you get used to talking to everyone, it won't be a big deal or feel weird to talk to an attractive woman, and she'll feel that.

Accurate, not something that can really be achieved consciously Just live your life and if you see a cute girl out and about talk to her In fact, just get in the habit of talking to literally everyone you meet

@BowTiedHeifer Yuka app is pretty helpful; usually scented stuff is heavy on toxins, too. Scan the item and show them what's really in it.

QUICK: How do I convince everyone I love to throw away all their scented products (lotions, candles, cleaners, etc.) without sounding crazy coded

If you're a conservative young man, and you want to find a conservative, non-woke wife, then you need to find religion. I've met too many agnostic and apathetic men who don't practice any faith, and then wonder where all the good women are. They're at church and Bible study.

You’ve heard it before: “You need emotional intimacy in your marriage.” But what does that actually mean? And how do you build it when your wife feels distant or cold? Let’s break it down—and I’ll give you practical steps to start today. 🧵👇

@BowtiedCuda Also for men who have been in toxic, abusive relationships. It can be a helpful wake up call, but not where you stay. You should quickly outgrow it.

RP is for fags that didn’t have good male role models growing up

COMMIT To living a fuller life To making an attempt every day To owning your role in the whole thing

Unearned ease is far more debilitating psychologically than periods of hardship There is a malaise that sets in that deprives you of enjoyment Struggle in contrast, is medicine for the soul If your suffering from lack of meaning, you probably need some to heal

@Bowtied_Owl Great point. Helpful to look at it 2 ways: 1) If you catch yourself arms crossed, ask why. You may be able to relieve some tension simply by proactively relaxing a bit. 2) If you're talking to someone doing this, give them space and think if you're making them uncomfortable.

Crossing arms but with hands tucked under armpits suggests a person is feeling extremely closed off or defensive in the moment.

Yes, that means they won't sleep with you in 1-3 dates. That's the tradeoff. They have values + know their worth. If you're in notch mode, this will never work & you'll piss off a bunch of Christian girls. But if you want something more, consider if fast sex is what matters.

Have the emotionally difficult conversations as they need to be had. It is surprising the number of people that find it easier to have an affair, or go straight to divorce rather than have a difficult conversation with their spouse. The irony is they don’t avoid a difficult conversation in the end, it just ends up involving counselors or lawyers when it finally happens. -R

If mid women aren't interested in mid men, civilization is in trouble. You can call it whatever you want: "survival of the fittest," someone said to me this morning. "Raising our standards." Sure, whatever you wanna call it. But nothing you say about it changes the fact that if a high enough percentage of men don't have options, they won't keep the game going. And by "the game," I don't mean "having Christmastime with your cute children," I mean "the sum total of human activities that provide you with homes and grocery stores and stuff." You know, civilization. You don't want large numbers of men dropping out. You don't want that. And large numbers of men dropping out is what you get when you tell men "you're not needed," and "your needs don't matter." I don't think there are very many people left at all who care about anything beyond their own personal needs. Pretty much every message I put out is structured as "here is how things are changing in massive and dangerous ways" and the most common response I get back is "but I want I want I want." It is very rare that I ever hear someone in the replies say "I should," never mind "we should," and when I do, it's usually one of those unvalued men. We should care about where the good things in life come from. They're not free. They're made with hard labor and focused ingenuity. It's not good that the sources of those things are dropping out. It's especially not good that the internet is full of brain-rotted girls who outspokenly want them to die. You know you're talking about the guys who made the phone you're using, right? And the food you ate this morning? Did you eat breakfast today? Anyway, my apartment has a really nice view. That should help keep my blood pressure and cortisol down in between staring at the ugliest forms of human cognition all day.

@BasedHypnotist Fortunately, religious practices can help you resist them and remove them. ...or you can go down the road of IFS, where they call them "Unattached Burdens" (basically demons) or "Legacy Burdens" (basically family inherited demons), and have a whole process of removing them.

@BasedHypnotist Instead, many demons and bad spirits sneak in over time, one trick or compromise at a time. And the deals are exactly like the movies with the deal with the devil; they'll do something for you now, but there's always a price you didn't expect later.

Whether angels and demons exist or not, the universe sure acts like they do.