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@code_mom_

Retired traditionally trained Direct Entry Midwife. Now a tech mom, Compiling Motherhood with too many open threads.

Katılım Kasım 2024
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@kristatee @JoeRaIf Fat free milk in the US is defined as having “all or nearly all” the fat removed and must contain less than 0.5% but it’s usually about .1-.3%
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Krista🪩 🍁@kristatee·
@JoeRaIf Homo is basically whole milk. Homo milk was the right thing to say. Skin was a typo for skim. I think skim milk is usually 0.1% in Canada. At least it is in Ontario. I was somewhere in the U.S. a number of years ago, and the lowest percentage I could find was 0.5%.
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Krista🪩 🍁@kristatee·
I texted my husband to get 1 litre of homo and a bag of skin. Skim, not skin 🤦🏻‍♀️ If you’re in Canada, you know what a bag of skim is or what a homo is in this context. 🤣
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turtle@code_mom_·
If you think you can tell what something tastes like from a photo you judge harshly, then I just assume you’ve never cooked before and as such have no useful opinion on food.
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@shesbonky I don’t have sperm. But I’m gonna have to put specific instructions in my advanced directive that if I ever donate sperm, I do not want any embryos that result from that sperm, to be used in my mom
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bonky@shesbonky·
we listen and we don't judge but seriously girl WUT
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@wil_da_beast630 “Male gaze” is not simply, literally, looking. If that is your comprehension of the idea then you have deeply missed the point.
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Wilfred Reilly@wil_da_beast630·
It really is fascinating that, because humans are a high-IQ predator species, we seem simply unable to accept the absence of problems. A top-5 complaint for modern women is reasonably attractive, of-age, potential sex partners looking at them. They want formal consent for this. The correct response is: "Shut up, you stupid neurotics." Same for any male equivalents. But, to handle the real underlying issue, we need to create challenges - non-optional varsity sport, war training - for the kids again.
PmAmTraveller@pmamtraveller

Yuko Shimizu - Fighting back the male gaze

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@CartoonsHateHer @SaraLFowler NGL if your husband sucks as a partner and parent, getting rid of him for a few hours, several times a week, might lighten your load. 🤦‍♀️
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@nvpkp @michelleakin I do not mean this sarcastically. This is my honest answer for what to ask yourself. What is the worst that could happen if you believed in yourself?
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nvpkp@nvpkp·
@michelleakin how do you believe in yourself for someone just getting into believing in themselves
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michelle☆@michelleakin·
back when I was a yappy, annoying 22-year-old, my boss and mentor walked over to my desk, plopped down a giant cd case full of self help books, and said “get to listenin.” i can still hear the heavy thump of the case, and feel the way the fabric of it strained under the sheer mass of volumes inside. my boss was this ethereal irish man with kind eyes and a sharp wit, the kind of dude who can get away with saying anything because he’s just such a cherub of a human being you can’t get too mad at him…. and I was absolutely irritating the sht out of him at the time, i’m sure, with all my whining about the dating scene in new york and blah blah blah. it was just me and him working there at the time, he was a freelancer who needed assistance, and there i was fresh out of college, raring to go… and in the throes of my first dating season as a single woman. annoying as i probably was, i was quite good at what he’d hired me to do (video editing), and he genuinely took me under his wing. he taught me how to, at the very least, appear professional (lol) and in the process, helped shape me into a more grounded woman. he was the first professional father figure in my life. i took all of the cds and ripped them onto my computer in the background while i did other work, and then loaded them up onto my ipod touch. i walked around new york on my lunch breaks listening to caroline myss and deepak chopra and thich nhat hanh. i learned why you shouldn’t sweat the small stuff (it’s all small stuff) and the power of NOW. i suppose you could say i was one-shotted by a cd case. i had never in my life encountered this kind of material, except perhaps in bits and pieces on daytime tv like oprah. but it was truly my first foray into any sort of introspection. at the same time, i was being trained as a professional, and trusted to take on high end clients (eventually) and film important events for him. the first time i shot a wedding with him i was supposed to just be there as an assitant, but his second camera guy called out sick, and so he handed me the camera and said “don’t tell anyone how old you are or that this is your first time, just fly under the radar, get the shots, you got this.” this is all in retrospect of course, but i think the combination of being introduced to that kind of personal work paired with being trusted at a very high level to help run a business fundamentally changed me. i certainly came in with raw talent and ambition (i mean, i interviewed with him on a thursday, graduated friday, and started working on monday, i was not fcking around, nor had i merely coasted through college, but that’s another story) but he was the perfect person to hone me into a sharper instrument. when he handed me those cds i took it as “he thinks i’m annoying,” and again, perhaps he did… but more than that, he believed in me before i fully believed in myself. i am forever grateful for his presence in my life, and i have spent the nearly 20 years since trying to pay it forward however i can.
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@AmiEverAfter Is it the DoN/Pharm because I think it’s Medicare/medicaid and any pressure from higher up’s is coming from Medicare and Medicaid.
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Amitryptyling@AmiEverAfter·
Let me translate—a person who spent hundreds of thousands of dollars on their education and years of their life in training risked their license to give the diagnosis they knew was not accurate, but the director of nursing or consulting pharmacist said had to be in the patient’s chart or the medicine they felt was most appropriate to keep said patient safe and comfortable would not be administered. Off label prescribing is perfectly reasonable. Physicians/NPs/PAs are pressured to check a box (give the wrong diagnosis) to appease administration and keep facilities out of hot water with regulatory bodies. What a fucking day on this app.
The Washington Post@washingtonpost

U.S. nursing homes are fabricating schizophrenia diagnoses to hide their use of dangerous antipsychotic drugs to subdue dementia patients, a government watchdog report found. The drugs increase risk of falls, strokes and death. wapo.st/4tfSUsr

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@ferald_gord I think her age is irrelevant. She wasn’t driving this way due to age. She’s always driven this way. She just hadn’t yet killed an entire family. It shouldn’t be used in sentencing ,or a primary talking point except that she was beyond an age where she should have known better
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kicole nidman@ferald_gord·
This story is genuinely outrageous. An 80 year old woman, driving three times the speed limit, struck and killed a family of four. The judge in the case doesn't even want her to lose her license.
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@Anteater1900 @Garnet_2203 Not wanting to be resuscitated in a theoretical future situation and no longer wanting to suffer *at all* in an actual situation that is currently happening are entirely different things. Even so, we shouldn’t be forcing people to wait when they want it. That would solve that.
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Anteater@Anteater1900·
My relative had a written directive that he wanted no resuscitation but later changed his mind when he was sick in hospital care. Providing advance consent to death is tricky and sick people are vulnerable. Maybe there’s a reasonable way to deal with it but it can’t be a free for all in my opinion
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Bev 🇨🇦@Garnet_2203·
I agree with you wholeheartedly. My mother died of lung cancer. Almost a full year of constant pain and suffering. We couldn’t use MAID not because she didn’t deserve that choice, but because she also had dementia and wasn’t legally allowed to consent. We had the conversation before she got sick she was clear. If she ever faced a terminal illness, she would choose MAID. But dementia took that choice away from her. Our only option was palliative care. And because it was during COVID, we were told we wouldn’t be able to be with her in her final moments if she stayed in hospital. So I brought her home and cared for with the support of the palliative care nursing team. There were ambulance calls when her blood sugar spiralled out of control. Pain medication didn’t work. Prednisone made things worse. In the end it was pure suffering. So she suffered. Bedsores. Pain. The slow, cruel reality of a terminal illness. People who haven’t lived this don’t understand what they’re taking away. These aren’t people choosing death over life they’re choosing peace over prolonged suffering. MAID is compassion.
Kristin Raworth 🇨🇦@KristinRaworth

My step mother used MAiD. I don’t know if she would have died within a year but I know she would have lost capacity to consent, advanced consent being also removed by this bill, I do know she was in pain every single moment of her life. I know her disease was going to kill her slowly and brutally. I know MAiD was what she wanted and the most peaceful way to go. This bill is not reflecting the reality of those who are dying from debilitating illness.

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Somers@jake__somers·
@0xKofi I still use an IDE in tandem with an AI. There are still two things I find AI very bad at... 1. Where to write the code 2. Writing it in a simply way
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@charliemktplace @0xKofi Assuming a human wrote the tests. Agents will write tests and also hard code them to pass lol
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charlie marketplace@charliemktplace·
@0xKofi software engineers don't have to (upfront verifiability & tests). Data scientists have to (methodology is easy to get barely wrong and numbers can always "look" good).
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@0xKofi Where are they getting agents to directly edit their code outside an IDE?
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Today I left home wearing a jacket. When I exited the building it was 95°
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carwyn@rockatanskj·
@sam_eagan Wake up, time for the daily "Lesbian telling everyone she's not attracted to men" tweet
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@ThrillaRilla369 If I tried everything and kindly asked (after my mom finished eating) it would have gone over fine. Or I could have made myself something after everyone finished. I didn’t always like dinner, but it was always a reasonable meal and I knew I had no reason to complain
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Thrilla the Gorilla@ThrillaRilla369·
Be honest because I’m proving a point When you were a child if you didn’t want to eat what your mother made for dinner What happened?
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Krystal 🌊 Waters@KrystalWaterfor·
@ThrillaRilla369 I never had to eat anything I didn't want. Mom always made me something different and protected me from ugly food. That's what happened.
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