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@toyin_abraham1 @TheRealMasud You lack self-esteem. This has nothing to do with “omoluabi” my sister.

As a true Omoluabi, I will always uphold our values and culture. Happy weekend To my lovely TOYINTITANS❤️❤️❤️

Let’s talk about the 7-7-7 rule of parenting. I know that some of you might have heard of it before. But what I want to share with you are rare tips that you cannot find in your regular blogs. Why the 7-7-7 Rule in the first place? We are all exhausted. I see it in my DMs every day. We are fighting battles in our homes that we should not even be in because we try to use the same heavy hand for every age. The truth is, you cannot use the same logic for a toddler that you use for a teenager. When you use the wrong tool at the wrong time, you do not just fail to teach the child. You break the relationship between you and the child. The 7-7-7 rule is the solution to this constant friction. This rule was first echoed by Ali ibn Abi Talib (May The Almighty be pleased with him). He said: Play with them for seven years, Discipline them for seven years, and then Befriend them for seven years. It sounds easy, but most of us do it in the wrong order. We are too serious with the toddlers and then we try to be the boss when they are already teenagers. (1) The 0 to 7 Years Stage. This is the stage to build the love tank. Imam Al-Ghazali said in Ihya, that a child's heart is a precious jewel that is blank and ready for any carving. In these years, you should play more than you lecture. One rare tip that you can adopt going forward is Overhead Praise. Direct praise is good, but overhead praise is gold. Instead of telling them they are good, tell your spouse or a friend about their good deed while the child is in the room. When they hear you brag about their kindness when they think you aren't looking, it builds a deep confidence. Action Tip: Find one small thing they did well today and mention it to someone else while they are nearby. Make sure they can hear you. Be intentional and consistent about it. (2) The 7 to 14 Years Stage. This is the time for character and boundaries. The scholar Ibn al-Jawzi in Sayd al-Khatir, warned us about forcing a narrow vessel to hold too much. Remember I talked about Taghaful (Strategic Ignorance) yesterday. This is the right age to use it. It means you see the mistake, but you choose to look away. If you correct every single thing they do wrong, they will develop a hearing block against your voice by age ten. You have to save your corrections for the things that matter. Action Tip: Start today by adopting the 70/30 rule. Ignore 70% of the small irritations, maybe it is a messy desk or a slow response. Save your energy for the 30% that actually involves character or safety. Only speak up for the big boundaries. You are building authority by not wasting it on small irritations. Pay attention to their demeanor and be consistent. (3) The 14 to 21 Years Stage. In this stage, the "boss" version of you must die so the "consultant" version can be born. The scholar Ibn Miskawayh in Tahdhib al-Akhlaq, wrote about the refinement of the soul as a process that requires respect. If you keep using force, they will just learn to hide their life from you. Action Tip: Your job now is to protect their Sirr (Sacred Secrecy). If they tell you something heavy, misdeed or embarrassing, keep it between you. Do not share it with the extended family. To keep them close, you must be a safe vault. This week, try to listen to them for twenty minutes without giving a single piece of advice. Just listen so they know you are a friend they can trust with their future. In all, the 7-7-7 rule is about realizing that you are a gardener. You don't make the plant grow. You just provide the right environment for it to reach its own opening (Fath). As a parent, which stage are you currently navigating? Let’s discuss in the comments👏🏿👏🏿

@dimmakilishi Especially those ones with blue gels.

Omoh eh, I just realized something and it’s been bothering me 😳 I started noticing my period suddenly reduced from 5 days to 3 days anytime I use a particular pad brand. At first, I thought maybe it was my hormones or my body just changing. I didn’t even think much about it because I felt it was normal. But anytime I switch to another brand, my period goes back to my normal full 5 days. It didn’t click until I saw someone made a post about the exact same thing yesterday and so many women were confirming it too 😭 Now I’m like… wait, what exactly is inside some of these pads we’re using?? What even annoys me is that I buy in bulk, but at this point, I’d rather discard them than risk anything with my body. Have you experienced something like this with any pad brand?

@One__Neo__Eon I checked her profile and I was like, this is you 😅

Miss Onion, if this is actually you, then it is hilarious to think/ say you were targeted because you don’t look Yoruba. Firstly, no sane person will see you and instantly think you must have a mixed parent, you are an average lady at best, there’s nothing extra about your face. Millions of Yoruba ladies look like you and millions of them look better than you. Secondly, you already have an inbuilt sentiment, and anything that happens to you in a negative way is usually twisted by you to validate your bias.

@abbietayo @Nerdess1 Wait first, how do you not look like the Yoruba they know? 😅 You are making the allegations stick better with this response.

@YusufAsunmogejo Do you write books? I think you should write for adults and children. My kid asks so many questions about Islam, and my responses are usually too basic, but he loves to read.

Oladélé, this is the logical next step from the conversation we had yesterday. If you still remember, I argued about how we subconsciously shrink God to fit our finite human clock. Today, your question shows how we shrink God to fit human utility. The question of "what is their purpose" assumes that the universe is centered around human beings. We subconsciously think that if humans cannot live on a planet, build houses on it, or use its resources, then it is a waste of space. However, the universe was not created to be a human terrarium. It is theocentric. That is, it is centered around the Creator, not us as humans. To make it even clearer, think about it like this. A great king does not build a big palace because he intends to sleep in every single room. He builds it to reflect the scale of his power, his majesty, his wealth, and his sovereignty. If we apply this analogy to an infinite Creator, what does that tells you? It means that if God only created one tiny rock called Earth suspended in an empty void, it would not reflect infinite majesty. The terrifying vastness of space, the billions of galaxies, the brightness of stars, and the countless planets are there to force the human mind to look up and realize how incredibly small we are, and how immensely powerful He is. As a Muslim, I am forced to reflect how the Almighty God in the Quran addresses our human arrogance directly. In Surah Ghafir 40:57, Allah states that the creation of the heavens and the earth is far greater than the creation of mankind, but most people do not know. If we reflect on this, we would see that we are just a fraction of the story. The rest of the cosmos is fulfilling its own purpose and glorifying Him in ways we do not comprehend. Having said that, even on a purely physical and mechanical level, those other planets in our solar system serve a direct purpose for our survival. Take Jupiter and Saturn for specifics. Those huge gas giants act as cosmic shields. Their immense gravity pulls in comets and rogue asteroids that would have otherwise struck Earth and wiped out life long ago. They are standing guard in the dark so you can live down here. God did not create anything as a meaningless accessory. Every single rock floating in the dark has a purpose. We are just too focused on ourselves to see the broader architecture. Allah knows best.

@Timmysofine @stanlee0nX There is also a context window. The GPT does not read all the previous messages. It uses saved context only. I know this cos I work with NLP, and I pay for a context window instead of paying for repeated instructions.

@stanlee0nX That's why

Did you start a chat afresh or did you prompt in an ongoing chat?

@El_Demmi @AIDIB_9JA @omaakatugba I agree with you. My best friend is Chinese, and the way she eats scares me at times, yet skinny 😅

@AIDIB_9JA @omaakatugba It is more of their genetics make up. If they eat it like we do they still won't get fatty like we do.

@AIDIB_9JA @omaakatugba That is not true. They eat a lot of rice 😅

@omaakatugba cause they eat it in tiny quantity surrounded by veggies n they walk alot n work alot so they work it out. unlike Nigerian. a huge plate of food with plantain n sleep right after

@SomaKazima2 Oh, the bathroom, it took me a while to get used to calling it a restroom 😂 I still say Wa-ta. I don’t care

@SomaKazima2 I went horseback riding with my friend. And I said, “Oh, it's a short queue,” and everyone turned and looked at me. I immediately felt uncomfortable, wondering what I had said incorrectly. Then an old lady asked if I wasn't from here, and I said yes. She said they call it “Line”

I love when innits switch it up in the states 😭😭😭

@MishaTeplitskiy Me too. The first time I would watch an hour-long video on X 👏🏽

Damn, this was actually very good. Ended up watching the whole hour.

Un profesor del MIT dio la misma conferencia cada enero durante 40 años, y cada una de las veces no cabía ni un alma en el aula. La vi a las 2 de la mañana y cambió por completo mi forma de entender la comunicación. Su nombre era Patrick Winston. La conferencia se titula "Cómo hablar" (How to Speak). Su frase de apertura te golpea como un camión: "Tu éxito en la vida vendrá determinado en gran medida por tu capacidad para hablar, tu capacidad para escribir y la calidad de tus ideas, en ese orden". Ni tu nota media, ni tus títulos, ni tu coeficiente intelectual. Cómo hablas es lo que separa a las personas que son escuchadas de las que son ignoradas. Este es el esquema que inculcó a los estudiantes del MIT durante cuatro décadas: 1) Nunca empieces con un chiste: Empieza diciendo a la gente exactamente qué es lo que va a aprender. "Prepara la bomba antes de verter nada". Él lo llamaba la "promesa de empoderamiento": dales una razón para no levantarse del asiento en los primeros 60 segundos. 2) La regla de las 5S: Para que una idea se quede grabada debe ser: Símbolo, Slogan, Sorpresa, Saliente (relevante) e Historia (Story). Cualquier idea que valga la pena recordar cumple al menos tres de estas. 3) La técnica del "casi acierto" (Near Miss): Esta parte me dejó alucinado. No te limites a mostrar lo que está bien; muestra lo que parece estar bien pero no lo está. Ese contraste es lo que hace que el cerebro registre algo de forma permanente. 4) Su regla final: Termina con una contribución, no con un resumen. No recapitules lo que ya dijiste. Dile a la gente qué les has dado que no tenían antes de entrar por la puerta. He usado este esquema en ventas, entrevistas y presentaciones desde que lo vi, y los resultados no son sutiles. Patrick Winston falleció en 2019, pero esta clase sigue siendo gratuita en el OpenCourseWare del MIT. Una hora, vista por millones de personas, y no cuesta absolutamente nada. Video: "How to Speak", Patrick Winston, MIT OpenCourseWare, RES.TLL-005, January IAP 2018. Fuente: MIT OpenCourseWare. Licencia: CC BY-NC-SA. Términos: ocw. mit. edu/ terms

@REINA_FOODS @larmmy A broken blood vessel along the birth canal can also cause it.

@larmmy What causes it?

Postpartum hemorrhage. I actually almost died.

@Oludeewon It is not scam. I attended their career day recruitment exercise just.

I hope you all know why a lot of people join the US Navy?

one reason why the wife and i spent so much time preparing a birth plan is that after she got pregnant, we wanted to avoid the first trimester nausea, so we started researching and reading the literature turns out first trimester nausea is driven by hormones the placenta produces (mainly GDF15 and hCG), but what makes it worse for most women is blood sugar instability. pregnancy lowers maternal fasting glucose, so if the stomach gets empty overnight or in the morning, nausea gets significantly worse which means eating crackers or cookies in the morning doesn’t help, you’re spiking and crashing blood sugar when you need stability what the research shows is that protein reduce nausea better than carbs. what worked for us was a protein and fat rich meal before bed (to sustain blood sugar overnight), then good carbs and fats as soon as she wakes up before the crash hits it may have been luck, but it helped a lot and the wife almost never suffered from first trimester nausea when we went to the gynecologist and asked about nausea prevention, she said “it’s normal, you just have to deal with it”, and that’s how we realized we had to do most on our own

@starboy_abefe I have seen several written in Chinese on GitHub before. 😁

Honest question. People who English is not their first language… how do they code?? Do Germans code in German? Do Arabs code in Arabic??

I haven't been on twitter today - but someone brought a few of my old tweets to my attention and I can't not address it. 14 years ago, I was 23, so I was definitely not a child. I'm not here to make excuses because I don't have anything to make excuses for. What I can't let anyone do is twist my story to fit false narratives. In 2012, I lived and helped out at my mom's daycare while I was hustling my music. I tweeted everything that happened in my life, as we all did at the time. Kids can be mischievous. If a child did something I found funny, I tweeted about it. Kids are cute and lovable. I want to hug, kiss and cuddle them. I tweet about it. Nothing I tweeted was from perversion. I was not famous, so maybe if I was, I would have understood that anything is open to whatever interpretation including being used falsely by a faceless mob. I've never been depraved in my life. You can retweet all the tweets in the world about me loudly crushing on people I admire/d. Or being a cheeky young woman. I wasn't trying to hide it, because I don't have anything to hide. My team has been deleting some of my tweets because of how sensitive it is for my family. To be honest, I did not want to. I have always spoken against rape and sexual assault even before you knew I existed. It's not a costume I'm wearing, it's who I am. I've never claimed to be perfect. I've never claimed to know everything. I said stop raping women. I stand by it.

@yincah @fadekeojora Adult siblings are an exception. You can give Zakat to them if they are in need, because they are no longer your immediate responsibility.

@fadekeojora Yes you can give to your extended relatives provided that they are in “need” The general rule is that you can’t give Zakat to immediate family members (Parents, siblings) because you’re already obligated to take care of them.

Can we give our Zakat to extended relatives who are struggling financially or send directly to your local mosque’s account?

@7signxx Thank you

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