harpreet
510 posts
People judge to reinforce their own sense of belonging. Others then feel they cannot fit in as is and must contort their being to do so. Under this tension, they judge others to reinforce their own sense of belonging…
A vicious, absurd, sad proliferation of a judgement virus that nets a distressed configuration of inauthentic connection.
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@teachrobotslove Pretend to cry and rage as if you are an actor playing yourself grieving and angry. Keep doing it until you surface whatever you forgot you are hurting over or told yourself you weren’t hurt about. And then let yourself be sad and angry for however many months you feel it.
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I've tried nearly every therapy and medication available to me, but nothing has lessened my borderline personality symptoms more than telling the truth. This year I commited to this, and explicit, deep honesty with myself has made it more difficult to fragment and disassociate from my actions. This might genuinely be the cure. Maybe The Answer for every kind of psychic damage. I am becoming a coherent self.
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@biiordache If you sit down, close your eyes, take a deep breath, relax yourself, attune to your body…
And whisper this question to your gut:
If you weren’t allowed to figure anything out, what would you have to feel?
What does it say?
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being back in spain as an adult who’s still figuring things out and wants more out of their own life is quite depressing. i got a youtube ad of a guy selling an ai course with the promise to make… hold on to your seats… 50k euros a year. the whole pitch was built around the idea that this is this huge, life-changing amount of money. that’s the dream they’re selling here.
my (very spanish) therapist referred to musk as elon (pronounced like melon) mark the other day. said something about how he’s a genius and i should never even aspire to be someone like him.
this is what i’m working with here
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why hasn't somatics become mainstream science?
my guess
1) main pioneers were para-academic (eg feldenkrais could have been a physics prof, but not a somatics prof)
2) scientists/intellectuals in general do not have the subtle bodily awareness to realize these practices are real
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“You’re not your job, bank account, career, etc.”
Everyone wants to believe this, but almost no one does.
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@theJayAlto Yeah, no.
depression is caused by repressing anger and fixed by expressing your anger
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@cantbetaimd I’ve gotten told the same stories like 6 times over and over by you lot. Now I only allow it up until the 3rd repeat then just say stop I know this one. Behold my grace I remember the goddam story after the first tell LOL
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@scottdomes I’m confused on how to process anger.
So is the implication that anger is unique in the sense that it’s not just something that gets felt all the way through and then it evaporates, it needs to be consciously channelled into some activity?
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"untransformed rage can become a constant mantra about how oppressed, hurt, and tortured we were"
from what I've seen the biggest potential lever for many people in their emotional work = their relationship to anger
and it's not about "releasing" the anger, but integrating it
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I like to revisit parts of Women Who Run With The Wolves every so often. Recently, I've been thinking about the chapter on anger, rage, and forgiveness. Really important lesson on the limitations of using chronic rage to fuel one's creativity: "Allowing oneself to be taught by one’s rage, thereby transforming it, disperses it. One’s energy returns to use in other areas, especially the area of creativity. Although some people claim they can create out of their chronic rage, the problem is that rage confines access to the collective unconscious—that infinite reservoir of imaginal images and thoughts—so that a person creating out of rage tends to create the same thing over and over again, with nothing new coming through. Untransformed rage can become a constant mantra about how oppressed, hurt, and tortured we were."
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ML algorithms are cool because they try to integrate data points and make predictions about things, like we do.
LLMs are cool because they talk, like we do.
RL algorithms are cool because they’re goal oriented and try to optimize choices, like we do.
Robotics is cool because you’re making things that move, like we do.
Artificial life is cool bexause it’s an attempt to make something alive, like we are.
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The loverboy will out yearn the d1 competitive sportsman mindset, they just need to bring themself to act.
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There is no greater yearner than the loverboy, and therefore no greater high performance mindset than that.
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@scottdomes You are one of the only people I’ve seen that knows what they’re talking about with this shit.
How did you learn all this?
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the disciplined pursuit of what wants to emerge through you
that’s the balance. not just navel gazing at your emotions, but learning from your felt experience. taking action that feels aligned, while also encountering your fear. letting what emerges in your unconscious lead you, with ownership & follow through
every great artist does this. every great creative finds a way to collaborate between unconscious & conscious. it’s not “just discipline” or “just feeling”. it’s both, working together
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@TheShayanRabbi Makes me think of something a famous director said, can’t remember who: “there are no more original stories. the way to be creative is just tell a new metaphor” (something like that)
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@TheShayanRabbi I was trying to think why there’s such refutance of the generality of experience and my answer was that people actually lack deep enough insight into their own experience to understand as much. Then I realized that’s a corollary of “know yourself to know others”
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When we attempt to suggest personal experiences can be abstracted broadly, it is said that can't be.
Yet, when we share generalities of circumstances, we often suggest we can see our own anecdotal experience within it.
Humans, although different experience the same things.
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Yes!! Every one on the internet has an example of this!!! No one believes "the internet" ever changes their mind, but every one on the internet has changed their mind!!!!! They just don't believe it about any one else!!!
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If you know me, you know I don’t like to upsell myself but man, no one is as passionate as me or derives as much fulfillment as I do from helping people realize that they can understand and do so much more than what they thought was possible. Not simply because of obligations to do good things but because you’ll be so much happier if you take a bet on yourself. If you feel this way about yourself, I want to talk to you. Please reach out
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