Back when I was an unmarried 35 year old, my dad pointed out that our waitress was cute and that I could date her. I pointed out that she was 18 and there was too much age difference, AKA her dad would kill me.
I left to take care of an errand for my dad, and the waitress indirectly said I was correct. She said I was wrong, because she was actually 19. That she doesn't understand the reason why the age difference would be a problem would be a problem.
When I was 15 or 16, my parents encouraged me to date a 23-year-old man. I was desperate to get away from my abusive dad, so I did. What girl wouldn't choose Macaroni Grill or Cinemax over getting beat up again? When I asked my parents why they were OK with their minor daughter dating a man 7-8 years older than her, they said he was "safe" because he was "gay." Don't try to make it make sense, it doesn't. Today, he has a criminal record.
This wasn't an isolated incident.
When I was still a minor, they encouraged me to date another guy who was 6 or 7 years older than me. I was afraid of him because he had a twitchy temper. My dad pressured me not to but I broke up with him. He didn't take it well. Today he has a criminal record for Impersonating a Public Servant, Burglary, Resisting Arrest, Assault, Burglary, Burglary, Burglary, Burglary, and Criminal Mischief, among other things. He still stalks me online sometimes. It's been 20+ years.
Y'all, you have no idea how blessed and insanely lucky I am that I met Jason when was 18 and we got married. So many horrible things could have happened. Apart from a miracle, I should not be who I am today. I shouldn't really even be alive.
@75opinionated@JennMGreenberg Other students in class asked to hold an intervention. They told her a real man wouldn’t want to date a 13-yr old, that he was a pervert who wanted in to her pants. They told her they’d talk to her parents; she could sleep over at one of their houses if necessary. 2/2
@75opinionated@JennMGreenberg Similar thing happened with a former student. She was 13; he was 22 and the youth minister at their church. Her parents were happy he was a “Christian” who wouldn’t take advantage of her. 1/2
@JenniferJo74351@JennMGreenberg According to law as it is now, you weren’t old enough to make those kinds of decisions. You were a victim because your ability to reason hadn’t really kicked in yet.
@JennMGreenberg When I was 14 I (dated) a 27 year old man. I wouldn't say my parents encouraged it as much as they didn't stop it. I brought him home even if it was against my will, (my mom didn't know that ) I for the most part chose that , so I take responsibility for the role I played.
@booth4481@JennMGreenberg If an age gap of less than 10 years bores you, then how many women in their 40s have you dated? The age gap issue should work in both directions if you’re being honest.
@notabrokenthing I didn't have to be pro-choice/pro-life. I grew up in a time when you did you and it was no one's business what you did. Now I'm pro-choice because I still believe it's no one's business what you choose.
@ask_aubry "If respecting women (and men having self-respect) is conditional upon women putting on more clothes, then what is being respected isn't women, it's the clothes."
@thecindynoir We have had students who "date" in the restrooms (complete with oral sex)--Children in question were in 6th grade. We had one entrepreneurial 6th grader who sold blow jobs ($5 a pop). Oddly enough, their parents get upset because we *don't* monitor kids enough in the restroom.
Call me lenient, but I can’t get down with telling kids they can’t use the restroom during class. I’d rather risk a child take advantage of me, than telling a kid no who actually needs to use the restroom.
@MoistenedTart@ABQLD When I was 18 and flying home for Thanksgiving from college, an older man sat next to me and we started chatting. Eventually he asked me out because I looked like his granddaughter. I've always wondered about the granddaughter. Is she safe?
I'm discovering I'm much more against book bans than most of my peers.
Maybe it's because they don't think they're banning books when they limit book access.