Logan Ury

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“Many hours of a marriage are spent on the everyday, rarely posted minutiae of life: Changing dirty diapers, doing laundry, and washing dishes. Love happens in these moments, not in spite of them.” — Logan Ury (@loganury)

I think the best dating book I read this year was "How Not to Die Alone" by @loganury If you are single and dating a lot but haven’t found The One, you should read this book These are 10 of my top take-aways plus 9 good quotes 1. The Three C's for a successful relationship are: Chemistry, Compatibility, and Communication 2. Dating apps are tools, not destiny They're just one method among many for meeting potential partners. You have to get out of your house, apartment, and workplace every single day. Go to group fitness classes, new coffee shops, grocery stores, say yes to every single invite you get, etc. fwiw I met the woman I'm dating now at Barton Springs Pool in Austin thanks to a random invite from my friend Katelyn to go hang out 3. The myth of the spark Initial attraction isn't always a predictor of long-term compatibility!! 4. Your type might be your problem Expanding your dating criteria can lead to unexpected but fulfilling relationships. This means age range, political leanings, body type, or anything - but I promise you there is happiness outside of your arbitrary limits that might not be serving you today 5. Dating is a skill, not just a stroke of luck Finding love involves learning and practicing certain behaviors. Stop doing the same stuff you've been doing; it hasn't worked This is such a small thing for me but I stopped wearing my trademark neon-colored stuff when I wanted to get more serious about dating. First impressions matter. A LOT. 6. I like Logan's idea of the 3-2-1 approach: Spend 3 hours a week on dating, go on 2 dates per week, and bring 1 new person into your life each week. 7. There are 3 dating mindsets: The Romanticizer, The Maximizer, and The Hesitator I REALLY liked this and I identified myself as a Maximizer. Just learning about these mindsets made the whole book worth it for me 8. Ghosting is the coward's way out Also sorry if I previously ghosted anyone reading this now 9. The soulmate myth can be harmful Believing in a perfect soulmate can prevent us from working on real, imperfect relationships. 10. The importance of pre-commitment rituals Actions you take before deciding on a partner, like discussing values and credit scores, to ensure a good match Just kidding she didn't say credit scores in the book. I was seeing if anyone is reading my notes. But I do think that, like, if you want kids- or don't want kids- or if you'd never move to California or something, you should talk about these things early And now here are 9 of my favorite highlights and quotes from the book: 1. "We think we know what we want when it comes to a partner, but our intuition about what will lead to long-term happiness is often wrong." 2. "For every hot person, there is someone out there tired of having sex with them." 3. "We can learn to swipe smarter by expanding our settings to see more people, being less judgmental when we swipe, dating fewer people at a time, and transitioning to the date faster." 4. "Decades of relationship science have revealed what matters for long-term relationship success: things like if the person is emotionally stable, kind, and loyal, and how that person makes us feel." 5. "The best way to spark conversation is to be specific." 6. "Order dessert at the end of the meal. Give the other person a meaningful compliment before you head your separate ways. Take advantage of the peak-end rule." 7. "By default, go for a second date (unless a dealbreaker is violated)." 8. "The things that matter more usually reveal themselves only when you're in a relationship or have gone on at least a few dates." 9. "Great relationships don't just appear in our lives—they're the culmination of a series of decisions, including whom to date, how to end it with the wrong person, and when to commit to the right one." OK the end No joke that this book was extremely helpful to me as I was thinking about getting serious in a relationship You can listen to it free on Spotify or as a bonus check out her interview on the "Diary of a CEO" podcast because it's a banger - thanks Zach Ware for the tip on that Good luck and I'm rooting for you! Did any of these resonate with you? Or other similar books you recommend?

Super proud of my friend @loganury for hosting her own Netflix show. "The Later Daters" is streaming now!

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