Marianne Gunderson

@vividvoid @BlondB00 @queenofharts33 We have some agency in terms of what thoughts we indulge and how. When a thought like the one above arises, we can either go with the revenge fantasy or examine its origin. There is a lot to benefit from treating that thought as an opportunity to do the latter.

@BlondB00 @queenofharts33 Sorry, I don't agree. It's perfectly natural to feel angry when you have been betrayed and to need to go through a process of grief that includes a lot of difficult feelings. What matters is what you do, not what thoughts or feelings arise

if you wish your ex to have a downward spiral after she leaves you, even if she cheated on you, know that that is ultimately a reflection of the purity of your own soul and only your soul. the most pure wish no one ill will, even a most vile enemy and wrongdoer. any time you feel hostility toward someone, even if it is “justified”, know that you still have work to do, then kiss them on the forehead for revealing that to you.

@SanNuvola x.com/deepfates/stat…

I think it urgent to evaluate and chart "slop" sociolinguistically because it has split in at least 3 positions on a continuum, with radically different meanings:

@AnthropicAI As a researcher, I beg you: Please give your papers a DOI and put a pdf version on arxiv.org, if you want actual human readers. I would love to not have to spend 20 minutes adding minute metadata details into Zotero to make this citable

These functional emotions have real consequences. To build AI systems we can trust, we may need to think carefully about the psychology of the characters they enact, and ensure they remain stable in difficult situations. Read the full paper: transformer-circuits.pub/2026/emotions/…

New Anthropic research: Emotion concepts and their function in a large language model. All LLMs sometimes act like they have emotions. But why? We found internal representations of emotion concepts that can drive Claude’s behavior, sometimes in surprising ways.

@selentelechia @Romy_Holland Predators pick victims based on vulnerability - who is an easier target, whose buttons are easier to push, less likely to tell someone, less likely to be believed, has no support system - so you probably had some beneficial defensive traits/circumstances

@Romy_Holland there have been several points in my life where I have been the only woman/girl in my social group who wasn't molested or otherwise sexually assaulted and you know it's not like I want to join the club but it does feel a bit odd

i have a friend whose priest and chess instructor both turned out to have been molesting kids, but neither one molested him. getting molested seems bad, but also imagine just getting passed up like that twice. you’d start to ask questions.

@eigenrobot In case you are interested: spir.aoir.org/ojs/index.php/…

haven't updated my prompt in a while. current settings as of 2025-06-19 to follow this post

@jessicamalonso ...and then what? once you have this knowledge, what do you do? (earnest question)

notice what you’re already practicing

new ALGOpod episode with Santtu Raisanen discussing "convenience content" and other absurdities of algorithmic culture open.spotify.com/episode/2AQ05G…

@deepfates Is there an epub version of this? Or would you mind if one was made? I need my e-ink tablet to get through book-length texts and would love to read this

Today I announce Cantrip: On summoning entities from language in circles. In this book I unify the paradigm behind base models, chatbots, coding agents, RLMs, and RL agents, through the metaphor of magic. Code is provided. deepfates.com/cantrip

@visakanv You might like Guy Debord's Society of the Spectacle.

there's a phenomenon that everyone here must be familiar with by now, but I feel like it hasn't yet been given a really good name. it's the relegation, demotion, debasement of in-person reality in service of media/content/feeds/socials. i'll start collecting examples here

@flowidealism @detmar_f11083 He is describing the Tao.

@detmar_f11083 People in earlier cultures didn’t have the same sense of individual consciousness. See here, ranprieur.com/readings/preco…

The psychologist Julian Jaynes wrote a controversial book arguing that human consciousness as we know it is relatively recent in evolutionary terms. He suggested that in ancient times, what we experience as our own thoughts were experienced as external voices, like the gods speaking. The bicameral mind, he called it. When cultures became complex enough that different authorities gave conflicting commands, people had to start reconciling the voices internally. The left brain and right brain had to communicate and negotiate. That's when something like modern individual consciousness emerged. Questioning authority created the self.

@lapislagoons fear.

I should have said: where does interpersonal tension come from when it’s not sexual?

new coauthored article from ALGOFOLK postdoc @mareinna on the mostrous agency of smart assistants csalateral.org/section/digita…

a better way to understand the reactions to this: imagine your favourite game/movie/novel would be deleted tomorrow. not just from stores, but from every shelf/harddrive/cloud everywhere. the media that helped you through the hardest days will just be gone. the grief is legitimate

this is the unhinged sci fi future I approve of

@MrinankSharma @AI_disruptor Your resignation letter is a great endorsement of these practices. Inspiring to see the path bearing fruit. Thank you for the motivation boost

@AI_disruptor current protocol: 20 minute lovingkindness meditation 10 minute do nothing

This guy needs to be more careful with his microdose protocol...

LLM-authored slop about

third part in @DnVglr @OuzhouAdi & me's deepfake study, this on risk perception and regulation support doi.org/10.5771/2192-4…

@ImogenLeewriter enjoy! fan studies is a super neat rabbit hole full of very clever people (often deeply involved in fandom themselves) doing very good work on this stuff

@mareinna These all look so great! I can't wait to read them all in full. Thank you again ❤️

The current "why do straight women engage with m/m relationships in media if not for fetishism?" conversation is so interesting to me because unless you have no reference to standard heterosexual relationships, at least one potential answer should be obvious. Sociological and psychological research, medical studies, relationship satisfaction stats, and even antcedotal reports and narratives, show that the emotional burden of heterosexual relationships is largely put on the woman. There is a gendered entitlement to care - men should receive it, women should provide it, with far less expectation of reciprocity. Having a relationship between two people of the same gender removes this specific issue. Why fictional m/m media, opposed to sapphic media, that could be argued to remove the same inherent gender imbalance? Straight women, by definition, are attracted to men. When a straight woman consumes heterosexual media the implicit expectation and interpretation is that she is attracted to the male protagonist, and is meant to live vicariously through the female protagonist. No one questions this. No one calls this 'fetishism'. No one suggests this is a moral failing. In fact, the underlying implication of this entire discussion rests on straight women being expected to only consume heterosexual media, not that they shouldn't consume any. Fictional m/m narratives, such as the ones this conversation has been largely centred on, offer love interests of the gender that straight women are attracted to, without the burden of societal expectations and power dynamics that come with a heterosexual relationship. They want to consume romance without the burden of expected subordination due to their gender. Of course there are many reasons women engage with m/m media, however from conversations I've had with straight women, this seems to be one of the most prevalent reasons. I do also think it is a conversation that should remain open. There are circumstances where gay relationships are fetishised. We, as an audience, shouldn't flatten gay mens voices or experiences. However, I'd argue rather than only asking, "why are women obsessed with m/m relationships in media?" we should start with, "why are women disengaging with heterosexual relationships and what does that say about society?"

@ImogenLeewriter and, for a more omegaverse-specific angle on the topic, my master thesis: researchgate.net/publication/34…

Np! You may also be interested in Lothian, Alexis, Kristina Busse, and Robin Anne Reid. 2007. “Yearning Void and Infinite Potential: Online Slash Fandom as Queer Female Space.” English Language Notes 45 (2). and Russ, Joanna. 2014. “Pornography by Women, For Women, With Love.” In The Fan Fiction Studies Reader., edited by Karen Hellekson and Kristina Busse, 1sted. University of Iowa Press.