@fightinbobbyl @AlyssaLogic women usually just leave in that situation. and any situation where there's friction, for any real or perceived reason.
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@AlyssaLogic it seems like a lot of this discourse (on both sides, and all over r/deadbedrooms) comes down to "I found you hot when we were dating and first married, now you're older and your looks have faded and I no longer am turned on by you, how do we deal with this issue?"
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Both sides of this convo are true
Sex is an important part of relationships and it’s ok for a person to require a healthy sex life
Desire also changes over time and women aren’t required to be anyone’s bangmaid
If there is a mismatch, couples can work on it or they can not work on it. If you’re completely rigid on your end, the other person might leave you. If you work it out you can stay together
It’s really not that complicated tbh
Diane Yap@RealDianeYap
"You are contractually obligated to sexually desire your husband at a given frequency" sounds completely unenforceable and furthermore, against human nature. People get used to things. Desire fades. Hormone levels change. Better to develop an anti-horniness pill for men.
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@dtia994 @_Aeon_X @DaughterOfEri I agree that there's no God, but we were talking about what religion expects of men. This presupposes that God exists, as part of the thought experiment. It's weird that you couldn't figure this out from the context.
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@_Aeon_X @DaughterOfEri There is no god. Oh you want the history of your own plagiarized religion?!
Sure..so there was rhis one dude called Abraham. He was born in Ur and raised on sumerian and akkadian myths
Edin - name of the garden of gods
Familiar?
How about Adamu - first man?
The woman of the rib
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@Warriorthev0l @JamesSantory not you specifically, but the top 8-10% of men have disproportionately high body counts. those women aren't being summoned with magic.
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@JamesSantory I’m not chasing “players” you don’t fucking know me bitch.
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What kind of woman would do that to herself? I could never marry someone that I would not have sex with. That would be more torturous to myself then it would be for him.
Ladies stop marrying dudes that you’re not sexually attracted to you look retarded!!!
DisabledCel2@DisabledCel2
The relationship that women want on this app.
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@ceruleannmist @Strawberry34513 my ex just pawns her kid off on her parents.
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@Strawberry34513 We also dont have villages and communities to raise children either. Now its all on one woman 😭
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Lower birth rates are largely driven by economic factors and better access to contraception, as raising children has become more expensive. Orgasmic births meanwhile, are extremely rare, mostly spontaneous and there is no proven method to induce them.
e ࿇🩶@ESPergers
more women would get pregnant if orgasmic births were less taboo.
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@Steelbonnie7 @ewennodds in which way are women not free from men?
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@ewennodds They think feminism is when men respect women and not women being free from men.
Also you can’t say anything about women being misogynistic to herself because that’s her choice. Mind you, person can choose to kill themselves but apparently that’s bad
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it sucks because nearly all the gen z girls/women you meet call themselves feminists but then it takes a five minutes long conversation to realise 90% of them are choice/liberal feminists we'll never be free
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@math41580 @dammitesme So it looks like 93% of people don’t marry people 10+ years older so this is still proving my point. More relevant for women to marry older but it’s still not that common.
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Men will sit up here and say dating app data is more accurate than data from the u.s. census bureau. When only 1 in 4 women even use dating lmao
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@thebradybutch why can't someone just want a romantic relationship? it's like a normal thing for humans to want that.
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At the end of the day, amatonormativity is the core tool of the patriarchy and- queer or not, “good man” or not- if finding a romantic partner is a priority of yours and something you want badly enough to take risks for it, you haven’t unpacked that patriarchal conditioning.
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The fact that you equate not having a male romantic partner to “dying alone” (completely disregarding platonic & familial relationships) and the fact that you see “dying alone” (read: manless) as something to be terrified of.. tells me you’re not as feminist as you think you are.
4🎼@1BrownEyedGirI
U don’t have to give up romantic companionship to be a feminist and pushing this kind of doomer we must die alone rhetoric is literally the same shit misogynistic men say to scare women into … not enforcing their standards… I’m sorry but I’m not falling for this trick.
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@periskepto no, they definitely are fear mongering to a fantastical extent.
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if straight women are being "robbed of romantic companionship", the "robbers" in question are the men. Feminists who advise you not to date men are not the "robbers", they are just the "messengers" telling you you're being robbed. The frustration is misdirected
4🎼@1BrownEyedGirI
U don’t have to give up romantic companionship to be a feminist and pushing this kind of doomer we must die alone rhetoric is literally the same shit misogynistic men say to scare women into … not enforcing their standards… I’m sorry but I’m not falling for this trick.
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@KatStev31801943 @MoffFrieren why are you saying he can't remember a thing, and then not saying what you think he actually forgot?
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@MoffFrieren Men and women cant be friends...your words kid read them...jesus christ do you have a memory disorder or something fool..
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another reason men will leave, and why men and women cannot be friends:
watching her get with another man is one of the most soul crushing experiences you will have to deal with, multiple multiple times over the course of your life.
men and women who have the chemistry to be friends, should just date. women, ironically, value sex too highly in a relationship. Or else hollywood has warped their minds around what intimate compatibility is really like.
U n i m a x x e r@unirespecter
The reason men leave after being rejected is because it’s the only way to preserve some shred of dignity. It’s uncomfortable for both parties when one side has feelings and the other does not. It doesn’t mean “they never cared about you”, on the contrary
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@phlox_clamantis @MoffFrieren wouldn't ignoring how he feels about it, and feeling entitled to his presence, make her also self-centered?
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@MoffFrieren If the sting of not getting who you want outweighs the joy of her company, then you're too self-centered to have ever deserved her.
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@pinkheretic @MoffFrieren what does "chemistry" mean?
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@MoffFrieren I have had plenty of male friends I would never date because there is simply no chemistry. On the other hand I have dated men where the chemistry was off the charts but they were an asshole. They didn’t last. Neither chemistry or friendship are ever sole factors.
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@LadyForProgress @MoffFrieren women aren't cautious about who gets close to them at all, though. they just date people they're attracted to, irrespective of what kind of person it is.
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@MoffFrieren Friends don't get soul crushed when friends get into dating relationships. Women over value sex and are warped by Hollywood because they don't sleep with you? Women are more cautious who gets close to them. That's being smart. Being friends and dating are completely different.
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@enhanced_vibes @MoffFrieren @JohnKeysKeys i genuinely can't figure out what you're struggling with here. attraction is a thing, yes. and?
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@MoffFrieren @JohnKeysKeys It is as though you do not understand your own premise if you are unable to understand the obvious reply I gave. That's a you problem lol.
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@MurrayHillGuy1 i had B, except she wasn't very attractive.
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Would you rather date…
A) The beautiful mid who genuinely loves you, brings you peace, and would do anything for you.
B) The absolute smoke show who’s insanely attractive… but every week there’s a new argument, a new headache, and you never know where you stand.
Choose one.
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@SassySouthBlond I've never asked a woman to be my nanny, my maid, or my mother, but they still don't date me.
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I don’t think these men live on the same planet we do. Maybe men are from mars and women are from Venus after all.
Misog Serio@Just_Serio
Marriage was always about binding a man to an extremely massive burden (a woman) in order to ensure survival of the children (child support). Everything else you've heard about marriage is trying to convince you it's not about that, because that truth has NEVER been appealing.
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@AlyssaLogic i'm a man, and every single one of my ex girlfriends have done this. it's pretty normal for women to do it. if i said it to any of them they would not have been happy.
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Imagine if a man you were dating said he didn’t care about your appearance because he loved you for who you are as a person?!?
I would rather die than hear those words
LIZZY💥@LizzyStarrrdust
This is why I refuse to date men. I don't want to end up years deep into an intimate relationship only to discover that he's there because he's physically attracted to me. Horrific and really, really disappointing.
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I’ll take a simp any day over an “alpha male” who confuses arrogance with confidence and emotional neglect with masculinity.
Nkeonyere@AdaAkokwa1
If you have never been loved by a SIMP as a woman,you have not felt love!
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@michellmybell1 It is work, but I've done it, and it's not that hard.
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@MargaretYanki1 how do you know he never respected her?
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A bitter baby daddy is just a man who lost control of a woman he never respected.
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