Michel

European morning feed is so slow that all I see are posts from two days ago.

Do Egalitarians Make Better Patriarchs? The gender roles written on our hearts I saw an argument between egalitarian momma bear Sheila Gregoire and patriarchy enthusiast Tim Little that really jumped the shark. Sheila argued that a husband should coax his wife toward sexual arousal. He needs to initiate (like a man) so that her body could respond. Tim rejected this idea, on the basis of some verse in Song of Solomon. The wife is equally responsible for arousing herself. What’s good for the goose, is good for the gander. I’m not crazy. Y’all are crazy. When the patriarchs want to pretend sexual differences between men and women during sex don’t exist, and the egalitarians are begging him to act like he’s in charge and take her like a man, then we’re in a rhetorical looney bin. Lasta contra mundum. Let me put my cards on the table. I’m a patriarch. I have four sons. I strive to take up the mantle as head of my household. I love the sexual differences between men and women. I love how masculine virility builds frame for feminine softness to inhabit. I want to see men be real men, and women be real women. Proving worthy of leadership is central to a man’s vocation. Women can be capable leaders, but we miss out on a lot of wholesome goodness if we pretend that most women don’t thrive relaxing into and enthusiastically following a man’s lead. Therefore, I’m all the more indignant about the sham patriarchy that I call “fratriarchy.” The idea that men are entitled to leadership positions just because they are men, and that women need to follow overgrown brats as they blunder off a cliff. Manhood is forged through hardship and extreme ownership. Any hint of entitlement is pure poison to masculinity. That’s why some egalitarian marriages are better patriarchies than some patriarchal ones. When you’ve got a bunch of fussy rigid rules and roles about what he’s allowed to do and what she has to do, that doesn’t foster strong reliable men or secure generous women. It fosters rule-following drones. She’s not submitting to him at all. She’s submitting to a rule. When Christians throw off this stifling rigidity and adopt the egalitarian creed, some of them (if they are pragmatic enough not to become idealogues) get to start from square one. Here is a man and here is a woman. Let’s try stuff and see what happens! And what happens? Our natures written on our hearts and bodies by our creator come out! He takes charge. She inhabits his frame, like a pearl in a shell. He solicits her input. She freely gives it without holding back. He’s protective of her. She’s loyal to him and follows him. He stands tall. She flourishes. He’s firm. She braces against him to push outward and finds herself strong. He sacrificially loves her like Christ. She adoringly relaxes into him like the Church. All without a hint of compulsion. Goodhart’s law famously warns against making metrics into targets. The moment you start teaching to the test, the test itself loses its value as a metric of your true capabilities. That’s the fallacy of “baptism or the sword” in Christian mission. Baptisms are important. We want to maximize baptisms. The number of baptisms are a metric of God’s blessing on the church. So let’s seize power and threaten people with death unless they get baptized! It increases baptisms, after all. But that poisoned the whole thing. Now the metric of baptisms in measuring the spread of true faith means absolutely nothing. That’s exactly what St. Paul says in Romans 8. The law didn’t have the power to produce the righteousness it affirms. Tests don’t have the power to produce the substance that they are testing for. It’s the spirit that does the magic, and the law confirms it. It’s great to have some guidelines, but the real work happens when you get your hands dirty solving the problems of life. You need curiosity, openness to truth, and room to work. When I hear some patriarchal leaders browbeat couples on all the rules they need to follow, I want to challenge him Daniel-style. Give me a year with a group of couples. You take the control group and guilt them to your heart’s content. Meanwhile, I’ll take just the men. I’ll train them in sexual self-mastery and intersexual dynamics. I’ll teach them how to lead, and how to engage their wives. I’ll leave the women alone entirely. And then after a year's time, judge the results. Which group of wives willingly and enthusiastically stand by their husbands? Which group of men are more sexually satisfied? The spirit group will be ten times better than the letter one. Do we overthrow the law of wives submitting to their husbands by this faith? By no means! Rather, this is how we uphold it.

Everyone is slowly coming to this realization, and I assure you, no one is running multitudes of agents overnight. No one that is doing anything of substance at least. There _are_ people pretending to be scientists, or fully caught up in their drug infused AI overdose, that think their slop machines are changing the world. They're not tho, and they're just wasting a bunch of money and compute to create a lot of LoC that will just get thrown away. The state of the art is still "can we even one shot a production quality patch that we wont regret later", and its rarer than you'd expect based on discourse.

oxfmt is 30x faster than prettier. most devs will stick with prettier because we're tired of switching tools every 3 months for nothing