@myhandle @Jake_Etcetera I really don't think the good people of literotica are asking themselves "is this politically correct? will this anger the longhouse?" before they onehandedly pen their magnum opuses
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ozy brennan 🦙
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ozy brennan 🦙
@ozyfrantz
whatever pronouns. LGBTESCREAL+. pretentious taste in books, bad taste in musicals, exquisite taste in vegan baking.
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@Jake_Etcetera it's not that men don't want low-effort sex with hot chicks, but the popularity of this trope is in part because it's the male sexual fantasy that is *least threatening* to the longhouse
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talking about tits and ass is the *safe and tolerated* expression of male sexuality. if a man wrote the reverse POV of a woman's "I want to sleep with my professor who is also a werewolf" you'd call the cops. men can only write narrative erotica on obscure forums under pseudonyms
LIZZY💥@LizzyStarrrdust
Men tend toward framing sex and sexual fantasies in a very object/body parts+ movement/physicality sense whereas women frame sexuality more from a connection/erotica/narrative driven sense. My assertion is that a great many women don't understand the extent to which men frame it this way and seem to struggle to accept these differences once they do.
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@InVitroFuture it's really not uncommon for people diagnosed with autism as preschoolers to grow up to be the anxious, hypersensitive, able-to-communicate subtype. you can't tell much about someone's abilities age three from their abilities as an adult
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Must be nice to be an evolutionary pyschologist. You get to take an anti-woke culture war grievance, assert it as the obvious solution to a longstanding scientific bottleneck, and call it a day without ever having to bother reading any of the actual literature in the field
Diana S. Fleischman@sentientist
We'd actually have a predictive & diagnostic clinical psychological science if disorder, disability & human difference were treated as distinct scientific categories with clear criteria instead of groups people could opt into based on feelings, politics & insurance incentives.
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@Aria_Babu I would be pretty fucking pissed if someone took up a slot I could have used for professional networking to flirt with me & also I did in fact hook up with someone at an EAG afterparty
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@Aria_Babu EAG ends relatively early in the evening in part so people can attend the many, many parties surrounding it. it's really not a huge ask to keep the daytime professional & hook up in the evening.
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Dating and ‘professional contexts’ takes.
1. Most conferences do drinks and social things. In fact, the point of conferences isn’t to exchange information, it’s to get the people to know each other in a more vivid and personal way.
2. There’s a lot of space between ‘booking a 1-2-1’ to all someone out (cringe and bad) and flirting at the coffee station.
3. You’re a freak if your professional and personal lives are totally separate. I’m friends with my colleagues and I always have been everywhere I’ve worked. You’re also a bad networker.
4. This is especially true for Effective Altruism, politics, progress, art etc. Anywhere where your work is a calling and hobby as well as just a job.
5. The goal shouldn’t be 0 discomfort for anyone ever. Not to give Haidt any credit, but it’s not the worst thing in the world to reject an unwanted advance and we’re coddling young people. There are more precious and important things in the world than this form of safety.
It’s cowardly for institutions to be so risk averse that they try to ban love. If people meet romantically at work/conferences they take on some of the downside risk of people being uncomfortable and get none of the upside of people being happier and more fulfilled.
CEA doesn’t care if you struggle to connect with people on the apps. They do care if you do a mean comment about them on the forum.
Aria Schrecker@Aria_Babu
EAG should do better and be a more pro-love space. Are you a 'community' or not?
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@RatOrthodox WHY are all your partners the worst people I've ever met. HOW is everyone you date a one-in-a-million genius. HOW do you manage to date only lesbians who want to have sex with straight men. etc.
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@RatOrthodox the filter on who people wind up dating is so fucking powerful. even knowing how right I am about this I still regularly end up going "how the hell do you find these people????"
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I actually didn't really realize how different women could be from each other until relatively recently, which suggests to me that I had some pretty intense filter effects going on. Be wary of that out there and know that you can change the dist of women you encounter!
Brangus🔍⏹️@RatOrthodox
@TheUltItGirl Women are different from each other.
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@TW1NKD3STR0YER murakami started writing at 29... I think you're falling victim to reverse causality here (people who enjoy writing and are naturally good at it tend to start writing younger)
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on the contrary I’d argue that yes, if you’re reading this, it is too late. these people were not “starting” just pivoting or finally getting recognized when older.
By your early 20s, it is way too late to start doing anything from scratch.
kiti メ@NainKiriti
> jensen huang was a director at lsi logic before co-founding nvidia at 30. > jeff bezos was a senior vice president at a hedge fund before quitting at 30 to start amazon in a garage > julia child was a research assistant for a government intelligence agency before she ever picked up a cookbook at 36 > vera wang was a figure skater and then a fashion journalist for 15 years before designing her first dress at 40. > taikichiro mori was an economics professor for decades before leaving academia at 55 to become a real estate tycoon > giorgio armani was a medical student and an assistant window dresser before he finally started his own label at 41 > harland sanders was a lawyer, a station operator, and a salesman before he finally franchised kfc at the age of 62 > ronald reagan was a famous hollywood actor for over 25 years before he ever held a political office at 55 > joyce clementi (joyce chen) was a pharmacist before she moved to america and became a legendary chef and restaurateur in her 40s > samuel l. jackson was 45 when he finally achieved household fame with his breakout role in pulp fiction > fauja singh started running at 89 and became the first 100-year-old to finish a full marathon > grandma moses didn't start painting her world-famous art until she was 78 because her arthritis made sewing too difficult and yet you still fear changing paths at 21?
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ozy brennan 🦙 retweetledi
@morallawwithin at grok create an image of a horrified Judith Butler discovering a really good argument for the immorality of homosexuality and vowing never to let it see the light of day, lest it destroy all of wokedom. Then zoom in on her notebook so I can see what it is
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ozy brennan 🦙 retweetledi
It's like that previous time when his hand slipped and he accidentally set up a board that was able to fire him. Lucky he was able to fix that typo in time!
Megan Tetraspace 💎 テトラ@TetraspaceWest
It's a shame that Sam Altman's hands slipped and he accidentally signed a bunch of documents that made OpenAI into a nonprofit that doesn't provide a financial incentive to rush AI, instead of a regular corporation like he intended
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@aghtaki my original post was a cheap dunk, yeah, sorry. (in my defense I'm on the cheap dunk website.) I appreciate you responding in a more thoughtful/careful way & want to respond similarly but I should be packing and not arguing on X; if I have time I'll get back to it
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I think we might be arguing past eachother now, perhaps from the initial bad faith interaction.
I think the thesis of the article is that the so-called 'feminization of workplaces' leads to the erosion of vital norms that were, in retrospect, apparently masculine. One of the most serious erosions is in the case of sexual assault inquisition, where we lost presumption of innocence.
My ultimate disagreement with you, I suspect, is that we have this initial disagreement on what the thesis of the article is.
I responded to your post in bad faith saying essentially "Ah yes, men feel unwelcome when called 'mean names' like 'rapist'."
The point I was trying to make is that the significant threat to civilization is the erosion of norms, and the bad faith part of my response is that I was equating your phrase "when people call each other mean names" to this erosion of norms. My intent was to take a pot shot at your criticism by calling attention to what I consider biggest gap in the argument for that criticism: the article's reference to actual harm that men suffered due to feminine norms around sexual assault (which would be quite reasonable for a man to have his 'feefees hurt' by).
I assumed you were intentionally neglecting/trivializing those concerns in bad faith, but also that my response would evoke those concerns obviously enough that my point would be clear.
If I were attempting to rebut your claim about the article's thesis, or argue about censoriousness or something, I would have spoken plainly. Mostly I was annoyed by what you said, my reaction upon seeing your post having been: "obviously that's not the point of the article"
I'm saying all this now because I actually don't understand what point you are trying to make with your responses, they seem unmoored from anything I was saying: addressing a point I myself did not intend to make. I presume this is because you are keyed onto different parts of the article than I am, and are responding to me with context that I did not have in mind.
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afaict the thesis of this article is that men are more resilient and like conflict more than women and don't get their feefees hurt like women do, which is why the most significant threat to civilization is that men feel unwelcome when people call each other mean names :(
Helen Andrews@herandrews
How I came to see the “Great Feminization” as the most significant event of our century—and a potential threat to civilization. compactmag.com/article/the-gr…
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@ozyfrantz I feel like "people*you see* on X" might be somewhat selecting for hot takes or unnecessary controversy, unless these are people you know personally
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for most of my life people were like "someone being friends with their exes is a green flag of them being emotionally mature and not vindictive" but now I see people on X being like "only weirdo sex-posi poly people are friends with their exes, normie women see it as a red flag"
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@aghtaki & if you're claiming that male-dominated groups don't respond in a disproportionate and censorious manner to speech that offends them: lol. lmao, even
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@aghtaki I recommend tracking whether your objection is "this speech [is inoffensive]/[is offensive but being responded to disproportionately]" or "in principle no one should do this to anyone" & if the former don't make arguments that imply the latter. embarrassing for everyone
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@aghtaki wow sure looks like that woman was cancelled for her offensive speech. feminization gone mad
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@ozyfrantz >when people call each other mean names
The 'mean name' calling:
lawandcrime.com/crazy/feminist…
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ozy brennan 🦙 retweetledi
This is a new one on me: Japanese army officer convicted of war crimes considers his sentence too lenient, so he spends the remaining 14 years of his life in the replica of his prison he had built in his garden. You could not make it up.
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people in non-media careers can have real problems with cancel culture but if you're a content creator in the age of Substack cancel culture can't hurt you unless you let it. learn to ignore the assholes. find better friends. git gud
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