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OldCoach
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Trabuco Hills Track - Asst Coach Sprinters (1 Peter 3:15) Christ Follower
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Our story: High school football coaching ‘legend’ Bob Johnson dies after fight with Alzheimer’s ocregister.com/2026/03/11/hig…
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@Tarek_Fattal Been OLu’s m.o. for a while now. 2013 track team won their ONLY CIF DIV 3 title and they canned the coach a week later. No explanation. Coach GONE, but now! OC’s most successful track field program for the last 10 years. Trabucotrack.com - look it up!
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NEWS: Orange Lutheran sends letter to football families informing them Rod Sherman is out as football coach.
The Trinity League job will garner top candidates and interest.
Sherman won D2 in 2021. Beat St. John Bosco in D1 playoffs this past season. si.com/high-school/ca…
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“Surrounded by people. Dying of loneliness. Calling it faithfulness.”
That line hit me like a brick.
Because it’s the most accurate description of modern church culture I’ve ever heard.
You serve on three committees.
You attend every Sunday.
You volunteer in the nursery.
You’re at small group on Wednesday.
And you’re completely, utterly alone.
But you can’t say that out loud.
Because saying “I’m lonely at church” sounds like a spiritual problem.
So you keep showing up. Keep serving. Keep smiling.
And die a little more inside every week.
Let me tell you what’s happening.
The modern church has replaced community with proximity.
You’re physically near people. That’s not the same as being WITH people.
You know their names. That’s not the same as knowing their struggles.
You see them every week. That’s not the same as them seeing YOU.
Proximity without intimacy is just organized loneliness.
And we’ve baptized it as “fellowship.”
Here’s the test: If you stopped showing up, how long would it take for someone to notice?
Not the pastor. Not the staff. An actual person who knows your story.
One week? Two weeks? A month?
For most of you, the honest answer is: They might never notice.
Because you’re not actually connected to anyone.
You’re just part of the crowd.
The early church didn’t have this problem.
Acts 2:44 - “All the believers were together and had everything in common.”
Not “all the believers attended the same service.”
Not “all the believers were in the same building once a week.”
“Together. Had everything in common.”
They knew each other’s financial struggles.
They knew each other’s kids.
They knew when someone was hurting.
Because they actually spent time together.
Meals. Homes. Daily life.
Not 90 minutes on Sunday with coffee and a handshake.
You can’t build real community in 90 minutes a week.
You can’t know someone from seeing them in church.
You can’t be vulnerable in a lobby conversation.
The format prevents the thing we’re claiming to provide.
So here’s what happens:
You show up faithfully for years. Serve diligently. Do everything right.
And you’re surrounded by people who couldn’t tell you the name of your biggest struggle.
That’s not faithfulness. That’s just loneliness with a religious veneer.
And the worst part?
The church tells you this is normal.
“It takes time to build community.”
“Just keep showing up.”
“Serve more. You’ll connect eventually.”
No. You won’t.
Because the system isn’t designed for connection.
It’s designed for consumption.
Show up. Sing. Listen. Leave.
Repeat next week.
That’s not church. That’s a weekly religious event you attend alone.
The solution isn’t to try harder within the system.
The solution is to build what the system can’t provide.
Stop waiting for the church to connect you to people.
Start inviting people to dinner.
Not a Bible study. Not a small group. A meal.
Tuesday nights. Your place. Same 4-6 people every week.
No curriculum. No agenda. Just food and conversation.
Ask real questions. Share real struggles. Show up consistently.
In 6 months, you’ll have actual community.
The kind where people notice when you’re gone.
The kind where you can say “I’m struggling” without someone spiritualizing it away.
The kind where you’re not surrounded by people while dying of loneliness.
Because here’s the truth:
You’re not failing at faithfulness.
You’re succeeding at showing up to a system that can’t give you what you need.
And it’s time to stop calling your loneliness faithfulness.
Repost if you’ve ever felt completely alone in a room full of Christians.
Follow @biblicalman for theology that doesn’t confuse proximity with community.
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You can’t connect with narcissists. Modern culture has created a bunch of narcissists. People who want to be the center of attention of a large group but only have a shallow connection. No real friendships. No real connection. No real loyalty. People that will throw you away over even minor disagreements and disputes. Over even constructive criticism. Friendships used to last. People would know each other well. They would care. Today everyone sees everyone else in their orbit as a disposable fan. Not as a valuable friend.
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@martinjdugard @CitiusMag @PrepCalTrack @SeanZeitler1 Awesome! When do you sleep, brother? Cranking out the books!
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Here's the new book! In stores everywhere April 14, 2026. @CitiusMag @PrepCalTrack @milesplitca @SeanZeitler1

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