Regretophobia

@shawtie_e This explains it well enough. A connection deeper than mere sentiment. A devotional level higher than any form of loyalty. It is a two-way street only the two involved understand how to navigate through.

Connection. Emotional depth just as much as physical closeness. Mental compatibility just as much as sexual chemistry. Soul to soul, skin to skin, unfiltered affection and devoted care. A language only the two involved understand.

@ma1ybe Absolutely. Visible, recognized, relevant: the most important top-tier ingredients of a great relationship.

to be loved is to be seen to be loved is to be known to be loved is to be considered

@BloodytoothG Most don't even know this

In a relationship, you can’t just do whatever you want. You have to consider how your actions affect your partner. That’s something this generation often doesn’t understand.

@ayanfenikky Loyalty that you need to test, was never there in the first place. You already know this, that's why you felt it necessary to stage a test. Just to find an excuse genuine enough for you to finally leave.

Loyalty tests don’t reveal character, they create problems that didn’t exist.

@educatedtug01 Who you are is who you are, no matter how hard love twists you silly with bizarre and heartbreaking emotional experiences. Just make sure those experiences don't turn the good in you bad. Stay true to your good nature and the worthy partner will someday find you. No doubt on that

I will shamelessly simp for the person I love. If they serve me breakfast, I will cry and move on. If I meet someone else, I will simp for them again.

@Numeratorjohn @educatedtug01 Amen

@educatedtug01 You would marry once and marry right

@rukky_nate Some valuable ladies can never be replaced. The level of value you got in them, you may never get again if you ever fumbled and lose it.

any woman can be replaced. but a woman who stood by you when you had nothing. a woman who supported and encouraged you at your lowest. a woman who chose you over other men. that’s probable the kind of woman you don’t want to replace.

@soigomaa So true. When you find yourself, someone who always make efforts to keep that child-like excitement fire in you burning, then you have found the one for you.

if he brings out the child in you, you're dating a man. if he brings out the mother in you, you're dating a boy. if he brings out the inner man in you, you're dating a loser

Don’t date an emotionally aware person if you’re not ready to face uncomfortable truths. They won’t call you out to hurt you, but they also won’t pretend everything is fine when it isn’t. They notice patterns, when you avoid conversations, when you make excuses, or when you project your frustrations onto them. And they’ll point it out, not to attack you, but because they believe relationships should grow, not just exist. For them, love isn’t about keeping things comfortable all the time. It’s about being honest, even when that honesty feels difficult. Emotionally aware people usually don’t play mind games, manipulate situations, or give silent treatments. They prefer clear communication, even if the conversation is uncomfortable. And if you’re not ready for that kind of honesty, it might feel less like love and more like being confronted. So it’s better not to be with someone emotionally aware if you still love your comfort zone.

@NessieLuxeHair Amen @Doyin_Magna

My success will not be not be epileptic In the name of Jesus Amen I move from glory to glory I won’t be up today and down tomorrow In the name of Jesus Amen #nlptestimonies

@blar51 @NessieLuxeHair Honest to God, she looks absolutely gorgeous. She looks literally in a league of her own, a lead role who will always effortlessly steal the show. I bet her presence will automatically be felt in any room she walks into, and all she has to do is be herself.

Another thing my wife at work functions absolutely steals the show. She is great in conversation , she knows how to connect with people. My secret weapon. Oh and she is absolutely stunning . Proof below🙌🏻

@Queeneth01olx Story of my life. 3am panic attacks.

Love will humble you in ways school never did. You'll apologize for things you were 100% right about. You'll miss someone who treated you poorly. You'll stay up at 2am overthinking a one-word reply. And somehow, you'll do it all again. Not because you're foolish. But because something in us knows that the risk of loving is still better than the safety of not trying. That's either beautiful or insane. Probably both.

@ThaBoyYom @oku_yungx I was also the smallest in age and stature back then. They call me Fela because of how skinny i was. And the torment from others was so demoralising. It has now been two decades after secondary school and i feel that shred of insecurity still. It is hard to completely break free.

How i’ve always been the smallest in almost every gathering(institution) I find myself… From sec school, to normal jamb lesson, computer lesson, Uni.. I was always the smallest I was even nicknamed “Obere nwa” in secondary school.. Some say “Nwa takiri” Yet, mio insecure ri

@Queeneth01olx @bambinojay_ I am the type of person that always want to sacrifice for someone i love. I want to drive miles to get you that french sausage you so much love. I want to make sure you get everything you want and need, even at my own expense. All i ever ask is reciprocal care and appreciation.

I spent 4 years paying my younger sister’s school fees. Every single kobo. The day she graduated, she gave the acknowledgement speech and thanked everyone except me. I sat in that hall and felt my soul leave my body 😭. When she got admission, things were tight at home. I had just started my first job. I told our parents, "Don't worry. I’ll handle it." And I did. Every semester. No breaks. There were months I was eating 0-1-0 so her account wouldn't run dry. I never told her. I didn't think I needed to. Graduation day, she looked beautiful. The first graduate in our family. I was prouder of her than I’ve ever been of myself. Then she got the mic. > She thanked God. (Fair). > She thanked our parents. (Expected). > She thanked her friends who kept her sane. > She even thanked her HOD. Then she sat down. My mother looked at me. I smiled and looked away, but the clapping felt like it was happening in a different room. I didn’t say anything that day. Or the week after. But something in how I moved changed. I stopped volunteering. Started waiting to be asked. Started noticing who actually noticed me. People say, "Don’t give to be recognized." I agree to an extent. But there is a thin line between not needing applause and being erased by the person you bled for. That's not humility. That's invisibility. We’re fine now. I brought it up six months later, calmly. She cried, and said she was nervous and blanked. Maybe. Maybe not 🤷 But I learned something either way. Sacrifice without communication creates invisible resentment. Tell people what you are carrying for them. Not to guilt trip them. But because silence makes martyrs, and martyrs make bitter people. This same dynamic shows up in dating every day. You’re playing the provider or the supporter in silence, while your partner thinks you're just an oil money that never runs dry. Stop accepting the bare minimum of gratitude. If they don't see the sacrifice, they won't value the person making it. Has someone ever made you feel invisible in a relationship after everything you did for them? Let’s talk below.👇

@Queeneth01olx @bambinojay_ I'm cloaked in invisibility. Always has been. Each relationship i've ever been in, i always end up wearing a mask that makes me forget the person i was before i got into the relationship and wore it. Which is why i stepped back from anything relationship to reflect on the "why".

@viktorbensonyt @Taiwo_junzi Okay. You already pointed out the problem. Kindly point out the solution as well.

If your confidence comes from money or what you possess, you will never have real confidence After buying the car, the next insecurity that comes in is the car is not expensive enough or other people have better cars than I do

@_mymsgs :Me to the next serious lady i meet. Now that i am wiser, i will make sure to never compromise that type of lady ever again. These days serious women are like mainline royal steam train. Once they are gone, they rarely come by. I am still trying to catch that moving train again.

i’m gonna date you, marry you, take care of you, grow old with you, and i'm gonna love you till the day i die.

@Mikeliberation In all you do, carry your partner along in the decision. Even if you won't take her opinion, ask for it. Make her aware of all you are about to do. Her prior knowledge will make issues like this never occur.

My ex-girlfriend is married, and I’m married too. We haven’t spoken for quite some time. Then last week, out of nowhere, my phone rang. I picked up, and it was her. She asked about my family, and I did the same. After that, she told me she needed help with ₦18,000 to fix her phone screen because it had fallen from a table in their sitting room. I asked about her husband, and she said he wasn’t doing well financially. I told her I would get back to her and ended the call. I then called one of my friends who knows them well and asked about her husband. He confirmed that the man had been struggling financially for over a year. Later, I called my ex-girlfriend back and asked her to send her account details. She did, and I sent her the ₦18,000 to fix her phone. She was very happy and thanked me. Yesterday evening, my wife was going through my banking app and saw the transaction. She noticed it was sent to a woman’s name, and that was how the problem started. I tried to explain that I have nothing going on with the woman, but she didn’t believe me. She doesn’t even know my ex, so it’s not like she recognized her. I’m a civil servant, so I don’t usually make transfers like that. Now she thinks I’m cheating on her. Since yesterday, I haven’t been myself. This single act of kindness has put me into serious trouble. 😥

@YKoluwaseun9 Restaurant as well.

Boutique is another clean way to wash money, 860k for jacket, you go just know say na only friends dey patronize am

@thatgirl26____ @threadreaderapp unroll

I have this acquaintance who always complains about men. One day I told her “you’re damaged.” She said she’s not. I told her again “you’re damaged, and I’m not even trying to be demeaning.” Again, she didn’t agree. One day we were talking on the phone and she started with her