Legit Lefty
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@SLScreencaps tbh Solo Leveling didn't do the best job of showing off the S-Ranks. Jinwoo grew so quickly that by the time we really get to see them in action, he makes them look weak by comparison.
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@LGBTQPrideUK @Mr_Pilchard @jan_murray @scope @ForWomenScot @biologyinmed @SexMattersOrg Because it's relevant in a way that so-called gender never will be.
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@Mr_Pilchard @jan_murray @scope @ForWomenScot @biologyinmed @SexMattersOrg TransGENDER people want to ask why TERFs keep banging on about sex?!
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A formal legal letter alleging discrimination under the Equality Act was sent to Scope this week on behalf of me and a number of singers.
This follows the disability charity’s decision to drop my choir from its official London Marathon cheer team last month - over concerns relating to my gender-critical beliefs.
While that decision was later reversed - at 6pm on the evening before the marathon - by that stage much harm had already been caused.
And this is not about one choir or one performance.
It’s about whether women who hold lawful beliefs about biological sex should be ‘punished’ for expressing them publicly. And whether other people should face discrimination simply for being associated with that woman.
Something I believe should concern everyone - whatever their views on this particular topic.
I want to make clear that this is not the whole choir bringing the legal challenge. It is myself and a number of singers.
The fact I feel the need to spell that out perhaps says something about the upset and division this situation has caused amongst people who simply wanted to sing - and never asked to find themselves caught up in a national news story. While the focus has remained on me - deliberately so - for some singers, even the feeling of being placed in the spotlight has been distressing.
And that matters.
Particularly because it was, I believe, entirely avoidable on the charity’s part.
People should also be able to enjoy their hobbies and friendships - without fear of others bringing politics into non-political communities - and causing unnecessary division and distress. Which I believe is what happened here.
Those who decided to join the action did so with considerable thought. One thing I know I considered carefully was the potential impact on an organisation that - if public commentary is anything to go by - has already lost donations due to what many see as a blind spot around the rights of women and girls.
But being a not-for-profit organisation does not remove accountability.
And as a large disability charity, responsible for thousands of staff and volunteers - and entrusted with millions of pounds a year in public donations - Scope is accountable for the consequences of its decisions, like any other organisation.
I personally believe public trust can now only be restored through a clear recognition of the organisation’s obligations under the Equality Act - particularly given Scope works with disabled women and girls, some of the most vulnerable people in society.
Legal support has been provided via @FreeSpeechUnion for which we are extremely grateful.
Link to story by @Craig_Simpson_ in comments below (gift link) 👇
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@DuncanHenry78 It also feels really ridiculous to have to add "biological" to woman, just to make it clear I'm talking about a female. These word games make the ideology somehow even more insufferable.
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No I’m saying that people shouldn’t need to label themselves “genuine” to differentiate themselves from fake.
Although if you start talking about “genuine women” as a differentiator from “trans women” it would certainly be an improvement over “c1s”.
But the main reason I object to “c1s” is the absurd notion that someone’s identity has any bearing on whether they are a man or a woman.
It doesn’t. And people “identifying” as what they objectively are is almost as stupid as identifying as what they are not. And the term only exists to give fake validity via some kind of equivalence to people pretending to be what they aren’t.
I don’t “identify” as a man. I am a man. I have absolutely no say in the matter and neither does anyone else.
Florian Sedivy@Flexperte
@DuncanHenry78 @CamBang3r @BDevereaux74 @thefempire50 @WillowMouseDoll So you are saying the word "genuine" should not exist? Would you ask someone who advertises their "Genuine Rolex" on eBay why they don’t just write "Rolex"? Would you get invested in whether they use the word "genuine" or not? Should "genuine" be considered a slur on X? 😜
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@SLScreencaps What I liked about the first season was that Jinwoo had his badass moments, but he also got his ass whooped a lot!
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@HistoryBoomer Or, more likely, her "new information" isn't as convincing as she thinks it is. And it's funny how that only ever goes in one direction. She also didn't adopt your position, so I guess she was unwilling to receive new info from you on the topic. 🤷♂️
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A former student—probably in her 30s now—unfollowed me on Facebook after a civil debate on trans women in sports. She was stridently for including all trans women, no compromises.
Her parting line, "I’m realizing that you’re unwilling to receive new information on this topic that may go against your preconceived notions."
Yes, that did seem to be the problem.
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@LizzieMarbach I think the people arguing that it's fine for the wife to prioritize her family over her husband's family are wrong, but I will at least give them credit for engaging honestly with what Taryn wrote. That's far better than fighting a strawman.
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@LizzieMarbach The discourse is strange because people keep trying to argue against something she goes out of her way to make clear she isn't saying. This isn't even just a lack of reading comprehension. It feels deliberate at this point.
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The entire discourse around this post is very strange.
No one should be purposely alienated. But a woman wanting to see her parents immediately after birth while simultaneously wanting to wait to see anyone else is not “alienating” anyone. That is just basic recovery from one of the hardest experiences of a woman’s life.
Post birth is a VERY vulnerable time, emotionally and physically, for the majority of women. VERY.
I’m sorry, but the needs & feelings of the mother & baby DO trump anyone else’s immediately after birth.
The husband’s parents should understand that their daughter-in-law needs her mom at that time AND she needs some time before seeing anyone else without taking it personally or feeling jaded.
Taryn@TarynA83
Ladies. I am telling you this right now. Your husband’s family matters when you have a baby. You can say they aren’t allowed in for delivery. You can ask for limited time visits. You can ask for your husband to entertain and introduce the baby if you want to stay in bed. BUT- asking his parents/grandparents to wait to meet them while you let your family in is cruel and selfish. EVEN IF they might annoy you, or his mom is an attention hog, your baby is just as much your husband’s. Your recovery needs matter, but alienating them is wrong.
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@HistoryBoomer I think both can model the other, in most cases. It's simply easier and more convenient if your political opponent is a bad person, so that's what they model instead.
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I’m a liberal who can model that pro-life conservatives think abortion is murder.
I agree that not all liberals can, but plenty of conservatives can’t model liberals for crap either.
Lacking a theory of mind for opponents is common across the entire political spectrum.
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@woofknight I'm slightly terrified that this wasn't immediately obvious to some of the people using that phrase.
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@naurpillled I also wouldn't think that appropriate. At lease we can agree on that much.
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@slayermode83 I’m encouraging him to take that up with his wife and come to a conclusion with her, there’s no other answer. That’s a him & her problem. I won’t be double teaming her with him when she’s freshly postpartum even if I disagree with her. In no world is that appropriate
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The point is it wouldn’t MATTER how I feel because the birth of my son’s baby is not about ME, it’s about HIM & his family. Bye
public emmany #1 🦬@theemmacasey
@NoblestCalling Yeah I mean what if you have all boys? Would you not be hurt about having to wait weeks to meet every grandbaby because your daughters-in-law just don't really care about you?
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@Momsplaining101 Remember that your family are also the in-laws to your husband. If he felt equally stressed about your family being around during that time, I hope he still made them feel welcome, if only so you'd show his family that same respect.
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I didn’t have to deal with this because of the distance. But I will say that them driving to stay & visit us, being in our space while I was trying to learn all the new things, & them wanting to go out & do things with everyone was EXTREMELY stressful even though we got along.
Taryn@TarynA83
Ladies. I am telling you this right now. Your husband’s family matters when you have a baby. You can say they aren’t allowed in for delivery. You can ask for limited time visits. You can ask for your husband to entertain and introduce the baby if you want to stay in bed. BUT- asking his parents/grandparents to wait to meet them while you let your family in is cruel and selfish. EVEN IF they might annoy you, or his mom is an attention hog, your baby is just as much your husband’s. Your recovery needs matter, but alienating them is wrong.
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@KaeleyT I feel like this applies to so many things. There seems to be some inability to declare "mission accomplished" once a group has made significant gains. Instead, they hold up ever more ridiculous examples as proof of their continued victimhood and marginalization.
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Patriarchy failed women.
Women turned to feminism.
Feminism overreached and failed everyone.
Now people are trying to fix the problem by returning to patriarchy.
Someone let me off this crazy train. No one thrives when one sex tries to run roughshod over the other.
Clare Anne Ath@clareanneath
Feminism failed women. Now we’re living through the masculinity crisis it created. Parents: Raise strong, competent sons and daughters who understand the beauty and power of motherhood. That’s how we rebuild the culture!
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@MLorenzoFS @ThomasWillett9 I'd go further, and say they should do their best to make them more comfortable with their sex. The less distress it causes them, the better. That way, even if they go on to transition, being clocked or misgendered will be less likely to trigger a suicidal impulse.
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@ThomasWillett9 Telling kids that there is absolutely nothing wrong with their bodies and they do not need highly damaging surgeries and medication is not conversion therapy.
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@rootedinthemess @MariaEyre1873 It makes way more sense for the brother to say at the sister's place w/ the kids than have everyone cram into a 2 bedroom apt. But that wasn't offered as a suggestion.
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@MariaEyre1873 I’m due with my 4th in June & my sil is staying at our house while I’m in the hospital to watch my 4,2, and 1 year old. She’s bringing my 5yo nephew. They’re all looking forward to it like it’s camp! When we asked, she didn’t even hesitate to say yes. We’re very fortunate.
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I'd totally do it. It's 2 days max. It's extremely hard to get a sitter bc you don't know exactly when the birth would be; paying for round clock care is astronomical. It might be comfy or fun, but get through it bc you're family. You can do uncomfy things for loved ones
Real Post Folder@RealPostFolder
Managing all the 5 kids is a tremendous challenge. Asking someone to watch 4 children overnight is a massive ask and it's inconsiderate when they've got their own kids
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@savoy_girl @MariaEyre1873 There are definitely sane options, but the sister didn't offer any.
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@MariaEyre1873 Extremely hard to get a sitter, due to the unpredictable timing, but perfectly acceptable to demand the brother take time off work (presumably at short notice) to help wrangle 6 kids in a 2 bed apartment?
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@MariaEyre1873 I'd say no too, if those were the only options. But I'd be okay staying at my sister's place with the kids. Or the grandparents could come and stay with them. Or everyone could help pay for a sitter. There are sane options, the sister just didn't offer any.
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@GlobeFarrah That's not what she said, though. She even included grandparents to make it clear that by "family" she meant people other than just her own mother. I would think it would be obvious that giving one family priority over the other in meeting the newest member is messed up.
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I agree with this. I don't have kids but surely most parents of sons realize their relationship with their DIL is different than the relationship she has with her own parents??
Vet Dad@VetDad25
@tanylake Taryn is flat out wrong. There’s a difference between mom’s family and dad’s family, especially if mom is close with her mom. All expectations should be addressed and managed ahead of time, and dad has to lead here.
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