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New Hampshire Katılım Temmuz 2015
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Mason
Mason@webdevMason·
By absolutely no stretch am I parent of the year over here, but I am generally happy with the broad strokes of my own slapshod approach: - Natural consequences are great when nobody ends up traumatized or disabled - Inconsistent punishment is both ineffective and unkind; I only punish behavior when I know I can follow through and feel good about it. Hurting somebody, bullying or cruel behavior, that sort of thing - Rewards are great. Training positive behavior is great, and I'm not shying away from calling it coercive. It's great to coerce my child into doing things that make all of our lives better!
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Mason@webdevMason·
Gentle parenting -- avoiding all imposed rewards and punishments and relying on "natural consequences" to reinforce social learning in a non-hierarchical way -- is quite the misnomer. It's possible to be a very cruel "gentle parent"! For example, losing your dog is a textbook example of a natural consequence for leaving the front door open, but few parents would simply sit and validate the "big feelings" of a child whose beloved pet is gone because of a momentary lapse in judgment. In many cases, following through with the gentle parenting approach to the letter would constitute criminal negligence! CHH recounts a devotee to the approach chasing desperately after a young child whilst shouting "I am not going to chase you! Please stop your body!" because of course you can't let a child *get hit by a car* as a natural consequence to running around unsafely.
Cartoons Hate Her!@CartoonsHateHer

Gentle parenting isn't just about validating emotions--it's also about never providing any rewards or punishments, any relying solely on "natural consequences." But this often fails with spirited kids, and gentle parenting experts won't tell you what to do next. Link in replies.

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Mason@webdevMason·
Well, if your position is that consent is required to create a person, but not to intentionally prevent the events that would naturally result in the creation of a person, obviously the only morally permissible endgame is sterilization and extinction within one generation. I find this quite silly because even the happiest person on earth can't consent to their creation before it has happened, but you do you.
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Tcho@Tcho76521726·
@webdevMason It's not the relevant question, this is like the simplest David benatar tier mortal distinction. Life being on balance worth living doesn't make creating lives permissible, on its own.
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Mason@webdevMason·
Ultimately I really believe the keystone of all faith benefits is talking to God, something that most people are just going to be completely unable to do without immersing themselves in a faith community and gaining a "seed kernel" of faith Closing your eyes and feeling stupid because you're talking to yourself is an okay starting place, but you do need to get to the next rung. After that, very little explicit belief is required to be on a personal trajectory that you do not need to betray yourself to stay on
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@webdevMason I’m super interested in your conversion! I’d like to go for the deep reflection and community and tradition and focus on morals, but I can’t get over all the untrue parts that lie at the heart of it, and UU churches just seem way too woke
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Mason@webdevMason·
@Tcho76521726 If you don't think "are most lives worth living or not?" is the relevant question, I don't know what to tell you. Obviously consent is not the crucial element, as a person who may exist cannot consent either to being created or to being prevented.
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Tcho@Tcho76521726·
@webdevMason No one said this was true, it is not a corollary of the claim made by OP.
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Mason@webdevMason·
@Tcho76521726 Then I think I've failed to explain properly, and I'm sorry for that. Ultimately, I do not believe most people are going through life truly feeling that the world would be a happier place if most or all people decided to kill themselves, and then did so peacefully.
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Mason@webdevMason·
@goblinodds For what it's worth, I did three retrievals at two different clinics and all of my results were quite disappointing, so I know how it feels. In my case the retrievals were in line with my hormonal panels over more than a year, so it was not unexpected and not clinician error.
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Mason@webdevMason·
18 follicles is great at 37! It would have been reasonable to expect 12-16 mature. I think it's likely that the protocol undermined the quality of the eggs that *did* mature as well as those that did not, and with only 7 available at that point even a little damage could yield zero 5-day blasts. I think if you go with a top-notch clinic you will probably have a great result even at your age. I recommend this book for your egg bootcamp!
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2HP goblin advisor@goblinodds·
hello i am very sad/mad we got ZERO embryos and they tried to tell us that probably it was bc my eggs are busted (conveniently unfalsifiable) and i should try a "low inflammation diet or acupuncture" w/o reflecting at all on their own process (lots of reason to think that couldve been improved on) i understand now why ppl keep their cards close to their chest about this stuff bc when i was Real Sad it was very annoying having to remember everyone i needed to update on this front and then be like "oh no theyre going to feel bad for us this is going to be SO UNCOMFORTABLE" anyway i do not want to deal with other people being sad for me so i prob will only like and not respond to any sad reacts although if you have ideas or then pls spill recovery was honestly so shit i was initially like "idc if we get zero embryos i dont want babies this badly" but apparently if they'd managed to navigate things better (likely partly but not entirely their fault, u cant entirely know in advance how ppl will respond to the drugs) then the cohort of eggs wouldve been clustered and we'd have gotten FEWER TOTAL EGGS (so: likely much less disastrous recovery) but more mature ones + likely even higher quality this place was enough of a mess that we're gonna dip as soon as we can get as much data as possible out of them but now we have to work out whether we should proceed w my sinus surgery (like 15 years overdue, polyps likely a huge part of the reason i've been basically nonfunctional and not had any adulthood to speak of) or try to eggmax ASAP (prob want 3 months to load up on vitamins and find a new place and time it all right) since there is in fact a bit of a cliff at 38 and i'll be 38 in january very !! annoying !! this feels like it was so avoidable but our fault i guess for turning a blind eye to how disorganized they were ofc the eggs could still be busted, these things arent mutually exclusive, and prob we wouldnt know w/o putting me through the torture fest a couple times more o7
2HP goblin advisor@goblinodds

ty for all the 🥚 wishes, we got 18 eggs!! lots of attrition expected ofc. recovery has been uh hellish though it could ofc be much worse, dont seem to be in any danger but im sure i'll bitch about this a bunch when im feeling well enough to look at my phone more

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Mason@webdevMason·
@jeremykauffman I'm not expressing this super cleanly, but what I see is people who are tolerant to a fault of wildly disparate goals insofar as they're compatible with higher level cooperation, but the moment they feel remotely imposed upon in the interest of immediate cooperation they lose it
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Mason@webdevMason·
@jeremykauffman Libertarians are some of my favorite people in the world, alternatingly because of and spite of the fact that they organize on meta values despite not necessarily sharing terminal values/goals. Unfortunately, as soon as someone even dogwhistles a terminal goal you're herding cats
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Jeremy Kauffman 🦔🌲🌕
Jeremy Kauffman 🦔🌲🌕@jeremykauffman·
Why and how did so many libertarians start to believe winning is bad? James Wiley is a libertarian who just won this NHGOP nomination for secretary of state. This is good, yet the replies are so negative. How did so many libertarians get like this?
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James Wiley for Secretary of State@redflameliberty

The rise of Libertarian Nationalism is different from the Mises takeovers for two reasons. It isn’t personality driven and it doesn’t depend on economic education. Libertarian Nationalism is a political ideology not a comedy skit educational non profit. This is why Libertarian Nationalism will succeed.

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Mason@webdevMason·
@Tcho76521726 Well, certainly. Obviously so does killing them, whether they want it or not. That's not really the crux of the issue here.
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Tcho@Tcho76521726·
@webdevMason I think that violating someone's consent is causing them harm, personally.
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Mason@webdevMason·
@Tcho76521726 If from your perspective the suffering of life by default outweighs any plausible positive experiences, it's very easy to argue that killing someone is violating their consent, but it is causing them less harm than not killing them. This is ridiculous because life is on net good.
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Tcho@Tcho76521726·
@webdevMason There are obvious differences between killing and not having a child, in that the former is harming someone while the latter is quite literally harming no one.
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Mason@webdevMason·
If we run with the assumption that everything OP has said is plainly true and that her interpretations are reasonable, the checklist is the least of anybody's problems and was a very strange point of contention to start with. The mother is medically, emotionally and possibly sexually abusing her children. In that case, the absolute last thing you would want is some extended family member coming to X to go viral airing this stuff before the court's appointed expert has concluded an evaluation. This is an insane thing to do
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Mason@webdevMason·
@avygal @AmericanGidget @DisaffectedPod The only person who could *possibly* gain from OP sharing a bunch of intimate hearsay about these kids to a mass audience is the mother, who can argue that there is a smear campaign against her orchestrated by the father and his friends. For all I know, she *is* abusive
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Mason@webdevMason·
Per the internet, the two options: - She's an insufferable, controlling mother keeping her power trip going through her non-custodial time via checklists - He's a useless father who won't do any of this stuff and probably doesn't even know what his children's routines look like
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Mason@webdevMason·
I'm definitely not dying on any hill for this, lol. The custody evaluator/guardian ad litem will sort this out, and the family will learn to tolerate each other in whatever arrangement is best for the kids. I just don't reflexively trust the singular perspective of a person who is clearly saying anything she can think of to an audience of strangers in order to smear someone none of us know!
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Mason@webdevMason·
@torreydawley To be blunt, any time a guy posts anything like this I just hope there isn't a lady out there he's trying to pressure to do something she'll regret
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Torrey Dawley
Torrey Dawley@torreydawley·
@webdevMason I cannot accept that the people who post garbage like this are anything other than complete psyop agents or outright attention whores. There is no other logical option for me. Maybe insanity and delusion on my gracious days. But, good Lord.
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Mason@webdevMason·
@jeremykauffman I think it's pretty bad to leave the TV on all the time insofar as it causes you to do dramatically fewer other things in the family time you have, and for us the kid tablets were short-lived because they prompted behavioral issues, but we're so obviously doing a moral panic rn
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Mason@webdevMason·
@jeremykauffman If this is the same research doing the rounds a few months ago, the entire framing around "brain changes" and "brain matter loss" is criminally misleading -- it wasn't even a longitudinal study, nor did they bother much at all with statistical controls x.com/webdevmason/st…
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@astupple Oh wow, they didn't even collect two data points to demonstrate an effect over time, nor did they control for anything other than age and household income. Lucky that those three variables are the only things that could possibly explain variations in white matter, I guess!

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