Patrick Ssemwogerere

Last year alone I attended in total 15 weddings and I was over the moon about it because well, my friends had chosen commitment over lejaleja. However that happiness didn’t last because as of today, only 4 of them are still married while the rest are back on the streets. That statistic alone is heartbreaking. 15 weddings and only 4 still standing says a lot about the times we’re in. We celebrate the wedding day louder than we prepare for the marriage life. Lately, People invest in Venues, Photos, Hashtags, Matching outfits and forget to invest in Emotional maturity, Conflict resolution, Financial discipline, Forgiveness and Patience which are marriages most important pillars. I’m not an expert in Relationship or Marriage but one thing I know is they aren’t sustained by vibes, chemistry, or even love alone. They survive on character. And sometimes what breaks homes isn’t cheating or abuse, it’s Ego, Constant disrespect, Social media comparisons, Unhealed childhood trauma and Refusing to grow The scary part is Most couples don’t separate because they fell out of love. No. They separate because they never built the tools to handle pressure. Someone will ask, after seeing 11 marriages collapse, what did it teach you? Because sometimes God lets us witness patterns so we don’t repeat them. Well, I decided to pay attention to the 4 standing ones and I realized that there was communication, parental guidance, prayerful and willingness towards making the marriage work. End of tweet.