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You don’t have to respond to every ignorant, derisive, or unpleasant thing someone says, and in fact it’s much better for your soul if you don’t.
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RebeccaSusan
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RebeccaSusan
@GroundedWhimsy
Wife, mom, ER RN, DNP student, Montanan, incidental political heretic. Unsettlingly jaunty.
Montana เข้าร่วม Eylül 2009
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RebeccaSusan รีทวีตแล้ว
My wife and I got married while we were both young and in college. We intended to finish schooling but the honeymoon was a success and boom! our eldest son arrived 9 months later.
I dropped out, she stayed home. I worked multiple jobs. When our son was 1 she started taking classes again. Then our oldest daughter came! I felt strongly that I too needed to resume my education. So I did, while working 40-50 hours a week. We trudged through undergrad this way, me working insane hours, her taking care of the kids and both of us doing our courses.
As we approached graduation, we found out our second daughter was on the way. We were both also on track to apply for graduate programs. We prayed earnestly about what to do, and didn’t get a clear answer, but both our programs were tough to get into so we figured we would apply and let God determine our path. We were flabbergasted when we were both accepted! But had faith that the Lord knew what the plan was.
My doctoral program was intensive, M-F classes all day for two years prior to clinical rotations for a year, and my wife’s program was Friday nights and all day Saturdays. We had no external family support, it was us and the Lord. But we buckled down, had our second son the final year of our programs, and graduated back to back weekends.
My wife is now the school counselor at our kids elementary school. It’s awesome. With the big kids all day and summers off. I have a successful therapy practice and lots of flexibility. We just welcomed our fifth child.
All this to say, it’s possible to do both. My wife and I have both been blessed with intelligence and a capacity to help many of Gods children, our own and the ones we see professionally. We both serve faithfully in our church callings. I hope the fellow in this post and his wife experience the same joy we’ve found!
The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints@Ch_JesusChrist
“I grew up in Arizona, served a mission in Mexico, and went to college thinking I had a pretty clear path for my life. Then I met my now wife Victoria, and everything changed in the best way. “She always knew she wanted to be a doctor. Pediatric neurology isn’t an easy road, but it’s who she is, compassionate, steady, brilliant, and drawn to help kids and families through the hardest things life hands them. When she got into med school in California, we packed up and moved. “Stepping into her dream together was an easy choice. I wanted to support her the way she has always supported me. And honestly, watching her work and sacrifice and love people like she does has strengthened my faith more than anything else. “My path hasn’t been as clear. I’ve tried different directions, learned a lot, prayed a lot. Some days I still feel like I’m figuring it out. But I do know that God doesn’t measure timelines. He measures love, humility, and the way we show up for each other. “Supporting her doesn’t shrink my purpose—it expands it. Our callings from God can look different, and that’s beautiful. I’m building my future too, but I’m grateful that right now, part of my purpose is cheering for the person I love most as she steps into hers. “There’s not one 'right way' to build a family or a future. For us, this is ours. And it’s sacred.” — Nate
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First feet-in-the-creek day of spring. I live a mile high, spitting distance from the 49th parallel, so it’s a big deal when it’s warm enough to traipse in the creek a bit 😂
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@HelamansArmyYT @MissRed_Roses For sure. A lot of men struggle to really be happy/fulfilled in the home-based role even if they choose it. We have tendencies in our innate wiring for sure, and for good reason, I just think people are too panicky/reactionary
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@GroundedWhimsy @MissRed_Roses That's possible.
What I'm pointing out is that men have psychological needs to fulfill when it comes to families and providing for one. I know from experience that an encouraging wife can make all the difference in the world.
I just hope it all works out for them.
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My guys take a step back from the bread winner idea for a sec.
Think about the future income earning potential for this family. When schooling and training are done, she can earn good income while being a great mom.
He can grow into the career he wants as well. I so wanted to go into medicine and didn't because I thought it was too many hours. I now know so many women in specialty medical fields who have great income and a ton of time with their kids because they work part time. What a blessing I wish I had the foresight to see when I was younger. Oh and they have great husbands who work full time who aren't completely stressed about income.
The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints@Ch_JesusChrist
“I grew up in Arizona, served a mission in Mexico, and went to college thinking I had a pretty clear path for my life. Then I met my now wife Victoria, and everything changed in the best way. “She always knew she wanted to be a doctor. Pediatric neurology isn’t an easy road, but it’s who she is, compassionate, steady, brilliant, and drawn to help kids and families through the hardest things life hands them. When she got into med school in California, we packed up and moved. “Stepping into her dream together was an easy choice. I wanted to support her the way she has always supported me. And honestly, watching her work and sacrifice and love people like she does has strengthened my faith more than anything else. “My path hasn’t been as clear. I’ve tried different directions, learned a lot, prayed a lot. Some days I still feel like I’m figuring it out. But I do know that God doesn’t measure timelines. He measures love, humility, and the way we show up for each other. “Supporting her doesn’t shrink my purpose—it expands it. Our callings from God can look different, and that’s beautiful. I’m building my future too, but I’m grateful that right now, part of my purpose is cheering for the person I love most as she steps into hers. “There’s not one 'right way' to build a family or a future. For us, this is ours. And it’s sacred.” — Nate
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Hot take: if you’re freaking out about the church sharing the story of a family where the wife is pursuing a high-demand career, you probably would’ve declared Rebekah a covenant-destroying apostate when she secured the birthright for her younger son—by subterfuge no less.
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@YouSpooneeBard This post does not imply there is no ideal in family *formation*. At most, it implies there may be exceptions to usual family *logistics*
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I’m not sure if the negative reactions to this post come mainly from objections to stay at home dads in principle, or merely the post’s implication that there is no ideal when it comes to family formation.
The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints@Ch_JesusChrist
“I grew up in Arizona, served a mission in Mexico, and went to college thinking I had a pretty clear path for my life. Then I met my now wife Victoria, and everything changed in the best way. “She always knew she wanted to be a doctor. Pediatric neurology isn’t an easy road, but it’s who she is, compassionate, steady, brilliant, and drawn to help kids and families through the hardest things life hands them. When she got into med school in California, we packed up and moved. “Stepping into her dream together was an easy choice. I wanted to support her the way she has always supported me. And honestly, watching her work and sacrifice and love people like she does has strengthened my faith more than anything else. “My path hasn’t been as clear. I’ve tried different directions, learned a lot, prayed a lot. Some days I still feel like I’m figuring it out. But I do know that God doesn’t measure timelines. He measures love, humility, and the way we show up for each other. “Supporting her doesn’t shrink my purpose—it expands it. Our callings from God can look different, and that’s beautiful. I’m building my future too, but I’m grateful that right now, part of my purpose is cheering for the person I love most as she steps into hers. “There’s not one 'right way' to build a family or a future. For us, this is ours. And it’s sacred.” — Nate
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JUST IN: First Lady Melania Trump denies allegations that she met her husband through Jeffrey Epstein.
The first lady ripped those accusing her of being friends with Epstein.
"I reject their mean-spirited attempts to defame my reputation. I have never been friends with Epstein."
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@HelamansArmyYT @MissRed_Roses He said he had what he thought was a good plan. I suspect that—given the life transportability that the years of medical training usually demands—her training was not compatible with -that-plan, and it’s taking time to figure out the details of a different plan. 🤷🏻♀️
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@MissRed_Roses My wife supported our family while I floundered around in life. She finally told me to find a way to be the breadwinner because she was going to be a SAHM. It was a kick in the pants. He sounds like I did back then. Men thrive on earning and providing. It's just who we are.
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5 years ago, a friend was responding to something in a bit of an unhinged way, and I said, “I am more of Ben Sasse than of [politician’s name redacted], and I won’t apologize for that.” I was def right in my judgment of Sasse, but probably giving myself way too much credit. 🙏
Rod Dreher@roddreher
Ben Sasse has the face of Christ. His bloodied visage is the result of treatment for his pancreatic cancer; the new treatment might give him a few more months. Read or listen to the interview. It's staggering, this man's hope and faith. nytimes.com/2026/04/09/opi…
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Those who eschew NATO and Pax Americana are often the same people who eschew vaccines, largely for the same reasons: they’ve been so well protected by the success of these things, they have no idea just how much worse the world will likely be without them.
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@nihilists4jesus Yeah. I told my daughter I find most of his policies and philosophies somewhere between insane and grotesque, and I am incredibly impressed at his charm and retail politicking. That preschooler press conference was brilliant.
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@LeighofLondon @bendreyfuss I am very aware. The scene I’m referencing for the joke is from the American version, which is why I specified.
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@GroundedWhimsy @bendreyfuss That show is a UK sitcom that went to USA.
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I didn’t have a baby shower with family and friends til my 3rd baby. We had managed to scrape together most necessities by then. But I think it’s great to celebrate -every- baby, even if it’s a no-gifts or diapers-only party or some such
mtn girl@LostKattt
Every child is a joy and a blessing but expecting people to throw a huge baby shower at their expense for your 3rd or 4th baby? Are you okay?
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@LDS_Dems Yes. And a northern Montana hospital included an RV park in its expansion, specifically for Canadians who obtain cardiac, orthopedic, and neurological care there that is years delayed or not even an option for them. We need change, rationed socialized care ain’t it.
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Canada, for example, spends less than half per capita on healthcare than the US despite having a significantly longer average life span.
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Gonna let you in on a secret...
Europe isn't able to afford universal healthcare because they spend less on their military
They are able to afford universal healthcare because it is cheaper per capita than the idiotic American system
They can afford it because it is cheaper.
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I repeat that it’s inconsistent to worship a God called the Word, covenant to be His witness in any & all circumstances, & then to flippantly dismiss coarseness, profanity, & malicious insults as unimportant “mean tweets”. I try to remember that when tempted to respond *in kind*
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This is unreal:
"As tensions escalated, one U.S. official went so far as to invoke the Avignon Papacy, the period in the 1300s when the French Crown leveraged its military power to dominate the papal authority. The Department of Defense and the Nunciature did not respond to requests for comment."
Mattia Ferraresi@mattiaferraresi
The Trump administration summoned a Vatican diplomat to the Pentagon, and during the tense meeting a U.S. official invoked the Avignon Papacy. On July 4, the American pope will be in Lampedusa -- he didn't pick that date by accident. @TheFP thefp.com/p/why-the-vati…
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@jkimballcook I’ve said this a lot this year, but where the heck is Congress? What are those guys doing?
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It's like if Jefferson agreed to leave the Barbary pirates alone in return for a cut of the booty.
Jonathan Karl@jonkarl
This morning, I asked President Trump if he’s okay with the Iranians charging a toll for all ships that go through the Strait of Hormuz, he told me there may be a Joint US-Iran venture to charge tolls: “We’re thinking of doing it as a joint venture. It’s a way of securing it — also securing it from lots of other people.” “It’s a beautiful thing”
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For once I largely agree with Megyn Kelly, though I take exception to the Genghis Khan comparison: if you read the history, the Khanates were successful partly because—for their time—they were fairly tolerant and pluralistic with conquered peoples 😂
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RebeccaSusan รีทวีตแล้ว
If we take it seriously, "Love one another" is the least sentimental of all sentences. It is not a Hallmark card. It is not a feel-good social media post. It is work. It is the hardest poetry and the fiercest grace. It sees the raw horror and the blinding beauty and the crushing complexity of this world, and it says, tremblingly, "Yes."
Those who preach or practice hate are the most sentimental of all. Their vision of love is narrow, reductive, infantile. They weep for their own children but not the children of others. They ponder a flower by the roadside but justify a genocide. They sing holiday carols while the poor freeze outside. They preach victory but refuse to admit, or even to see, that they are pawns in a game that no one can win.
Cynicism is the cheap way out for the wounded heart. The bitter soul remains unchanged. The proud defense refuses to fall.
Pasternak once wrote, "Life is not a walk across a field." Love is for the ones who love the work—not just love for our "kin" and "kind," but love for the "other," every other, the Great Other. And maybe, just maybe, we're here to do the hardest—and most transformative—thing of all.
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Just a reminder that death, destruction, and disorder in the pursuit of power, pride, and profit is Luciferian. No other position or policy justifies that. None.
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