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@ayojoestar Both. It's not that they cannot control their actions, it's just that the mechanism that regulates our behaviour becomes so tolerant that it acts as a inefficient filter.
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Andrew Ahmed
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Andrew Ahmed
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🦠 "A piece of bad news, wrapped in protein." (Medawar and Medawar, 1984) #AODAcertified ☣️ #TeamBRUNT
Toronto, ON เข้าร่วม Kasım 2020
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@GretchenPSmith I barely eat out at restaurants anymore, like this is getting beyond ridiculous.
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I’m sorry I just do not agree with…it is just expecting way too much.
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@kirawontmiss I think they use their tits as the fourth hole?
I don't know.
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@ClownWorld SEE EVEN ANCIENT PREHISTORIC WOMEN LIKE PINK, WE STUDIED IT.
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Scientists in 2023 published a study claiming prehistoric women were better hunters than men. The same scientists who can’t define what a woman is are now experts on what women were doing 12,000 years ago 😂💀
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@newsom_maryann @Moff_AM Im fine with that, nice to talk to you.
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@therealandeluuu @Moff_AM You asked for sources to support my views.
It appears you’re not interested in an exchange of ideas about this topic.
You seem to want to keep holding onto the narrative that physical attraction isn’t significantly correlated with sexual attraction.
Have a good day!
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@newsom_maryann @Moff_AM Yeah well, there are a lot of reasons why marriage fails, I don't have to tell you that.
There can be other reasons why women or men withhold sex from their partner that are outside attraction.
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Briana (a woman) is saying: Some men have let themselves go physically, just like some men say that their wives have let themselves go physically.
She points out that this is one of the causes of the lack of sex in some marriages.
This anecdotal post is a small piece of evidence that physical attractiveness remains linked to sexual attraction, even in long-term marriage.
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@newsom_maryann @Moff_AM It's not a conspiracy, there are very few rules in psychology.
I'm not reading these articles, organise your thoughts and arguments.
This is disrespectful, to say the least. The ones shouldnt be on me to see the truth in your argument.
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The truth is out there.
Here are a few sources to help you get started.
1. David Buss – The Evolution of Desire: fertility/health cues- strong driver of sexual desire.
2. Psychology today- Visual/physical cues (symmetry, body shape, health & youth) trigger ongoing sexual desire as fertility/genetic signals — a “gatekeeper” even in marriage.
3. Researchgate- In marriages, higher mate physical attractiveness correlates with greater sexual valuation, frequency & satisfaction - better relationship quality.
4. Paul Eastwick - Robust sustained link shown in 4 longitudinal newlywed studies with objective ratings. mate physical attractiveness and marital satisfaction.
5. Pyschology today - physical attraction supports sexual frequency, which mediates satisfaction for both.
6. Andrea L. Meltzer & James K. McNulty - physical attractiveness and marital satisfaction.
7. Steven W. Gangestad - Symmetry, averageness & dimorphism signal good gene, drive sexual selection & desire.
8. Helen Fisher- Physical cues trigger dopamine -lust & desire that evolves in long-term bonds.
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@newsom_maryann @Moff_AM Im getting that men are learning that there are other things that are better worth their effort 👌
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x.com/brianatheroux/…
What do you think about this part of her statement ?
"A lot of men let themselves go too. People love to talk about women letting themselves go after kids, and I agree that it happens, but I see just as many men doing it. Desire is not owed because you have a marriage certificate. It has to be maintained by remaining desirable and making sure the other person actually enjoys having sex with you."
Briana Theroux@brianatheroux
I don’t think a lot of men really want to know why women’s desire fades. Every time women try to explain it, a lot of men get defensive instead of listening. But the truth is, if a woman consistently does not want sex with her husband, there is a very good chance she is not actually enjoying the sex they are having. Obviously, medical issues are a different conversation, but a lot of the time desire disappears because the sex was never that good for her, or because he became complacent and stopped making sure she was enjoying it too. Then, instead of addressing that honestly, he starts begging, pleading, sulking, or acting wounded over sex that is objectively terrible for her. And nothing makes a man less desirable faster than turning sex into another chore she has to manage emotionally. A lot of men let themselves go too. People love to talk about women letting themselves go after kids, and I agree that it happens, but I see just as many men doing it. Desire is not owed because you have a marriage certificate. It has to be maintained by remaining desirable and making sure the other person actually enjoys having sex with you. That said, most people don’t enter marriage assuming it will become sexless. So if you have completely opted out of the sexual relationship and see no repair, you have to be honest with yourself. You cannot expect a man or a woman to remain sexually faithful forever when you have decided the sexual part of the relationship is over. If you love them, care enough to figure out where the desire went if you actually value the relationship. And if you don’t love them, and you are just comfortable, then let them go find love. Or be honest enough to allow them to have a sexual relationship outside of you. Don’t let your selfishness and inability to work on things be the cause of their pain. Remember, no one signs up for marriage with the intention of becoming a monk.
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@newsom_maryann @Moff_AM They weren't cited, would you just accept that?
Youre obviously just arguing for the sake of arguing.
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I was giving you stats, which you did not accept.
Yes, people are more complex than stats; however, stats have value when looking at patterns.
Couples in therapy are married or LTR, so how is that data not about married people?
The data from couples therapy and in research correlate more physical attraction to higher sexual attraction to sexual satisfaction to marital satisfaction.
Why don't you ask Grok since you are the one who is having an issue with all the data points I presented you with?
Do you have any evidence to refute my claims?
I would be interested in seeing that evidence.
Also, if you want to discuss the history of marital relationships, we should talk about cheating, cuckoldry, and sexless marriages as these are not modern issues.
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@ravvokk It's just what people want, why can't they at least try?
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You're just spitting out numbers, divorce, just like attraction, marriage difficulties and relationship satisfaction are too broad to pinpoint.
Do you see what you are doing though? You are treating people as singular entities. I think if you were to read literature, you should start with statistics.
You also have to understand that when you are talking about people that there are generational differences, and differences in relationship satisfaction and wants. Your data set is only including the people that are divorced, what about the people that are married?
Talk to grok about this. AI definitely knows more than me. I don't doubt that you know more than me either, I just think that you're not really getting your point across, because you are biasing the evidence to your claim.
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So what literature or evidence should I be basing my opinion on then?
How about that about 20% of marriages are sexless, meaning less than 10 times per year?
Or that many couples go to therapy complaining about lack of sex/sexual satisfaction and/or complain about how they feel less physically attracted to, or are no longer physically attracted to, their spouse?
How about that lack of sexual satisfaction contributes to a significant number of divorces?
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You are taking media, and making that equal to life.
Correlation studies are not causative, that goes to show you that humans aren't all the same. Human psychology is very different from what kinda of rules and principles that govern hard sciences.
If you know statistics, then you'd understand that you are taking a small sample of men, who are subject to the media industry and the rules that govern that, and trying to apply it to all men.
So for that you are wrong, and if you are going to use that as evidence to back your claim, it makes that claim already stand on shaky foundation. I will agree that physical attraction is a huge component of sexual attraction, in some settings, but to use celebrities with their fake muscles, or books with their MADE UP characters to say this is what women desire.
You're retarded!
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What literature do you suggest I read?
You can look up the studies showing that physical attraction is correlated with sexual attraction.
Tell me, in the majority of the romance and erotica books women read, is the male character physically attractive?
What about in romance movies?
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@BlueWestlo Lol OH NO.
It's not that you may not be bad at the job, or the company is going belly up.
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Getting laid off from my job a day after D2 died. Maybe I really am nothing without Destiny. 🥸
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@newsom_maryann @Moff_AM You can't say you can't either.
So I don't understand your argument. You most definitely can remove physical attraction from sexual attraction.
Read some literature.
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There are other elements to attraction, but you cannot remove physical attraction from sexual attraction.
Some people are married to people they are not physically or sexually attracted to, so we cannot use marriage itself as a metric of how physically or sexually attracted people are to each other.
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@NefflynB Lol, you accidentally had sex with another man while married to me?
It's like you telling me that the baby is black because you have some African geneology.
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HOMBRES: tu esposa quedó embarazada de otro hombre por error, como buen esposo, ¿qué harías?
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@vzzeo You just do? Like you imagined it, maybe stop being a little girl and next time make something happen.
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@newsom_maryann @Moff_AM I am saying there are other elements to attraction and sexual attraction than just physical attraction.
If sexual attraction and satisfaction were really important, there would be more people married to strippers and porn stars.
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What do you mean by "only in terms of physical attraction"?
I'm not saying physical attraction is the only thing that matters.
However, just as a cake needs some type of flour, sexual desire requires at least some level of physical attraction.
The more physically appealing they find each other, the easier it is for sexual attraction to be maintained.
Do you see marriage or LTR's as sexual relationships?
In other words, do you believe sexual attraction and sexual satisfaction are important components of why people choose each other?
Or do you think people get married to be celibate or sexually unfulfilled?
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I'd need to see the data before I conclude anything, but you do pose a good point.
I may be saying this because I want to believe that there are people out there that actually don't only think in terms of physical attraction, or maybe because I don't think only about physical attraction that I want to believe there are more people like me.
It's an interesting point.
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Sexual attraction is correlated with physical attraction. A lot of bedrooms suffer because this is a hard thing to accept.
We are wired to be attracted to physically fit people.
Now, in an LTR, we also have attachment, and that leaves some wiggle room.
But spouses who are lovingly attached to each other still feel stronger sexual desire for one another when they are physically fit.
Some also loose their sexual desire for each other when they are not.
Sexual desire and sexual satisfaction are both positively correlated with marital satisfaction.
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@newsom_maryann @Moff_AM I am talking about physical attraction only, I am not including things like psychological attraction or LTR.
Maybe as we mature we start to value things other than physical attraction. That's just my thoughts.
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Why would you say physical attraction gets old quickly?
Do you mean that physical attraction alone gets old if there isn't anything beneath it, such as psychological attraction?
Or do you think that, at some point in an LTR people stop caring whether the other person continues to put effort into staying physcially attractive?
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