Amber

Personal testimony time! Since I stopped practicing complementarianism (patriarchy), two things have happened: I’ve stopped enabling my husband, and I’ve stopped enabling the church.

@HowRYouBud @aakashgupta It’s such a nice thing, yes. So nice, that we should take steps to ensure it’s true, rather than assuming it is without even asking.

@Amberlitz1 @aakashgupta I think shared happiness is beautiful. Could use more of it today.

This study is real. It started in 1938. 87 years later, it's still running. And the actual findings are wilder than the tweet makes them sound. The Harvard Study of Adult Development tracked 724 men from two completely different worlds. 268 Harvard sophomores from the classes of 1939-1944, including a young John F. Kennedy. And 456 boys from the poorest neighborhoods in Boston. Researchers followed both groups for their entire lives. Questionnaires every two years. Physician reports. Brain scans. Blood draws. Personal interviews. Most of them are dead now. Only 19 of the original Harvard cohort are still alive, all in their mid-90s. The finding that went viral was "good relationships predict happiness." True, but that's the sanitized version. The unsanitized version: men who scored highest on "warm relationships" earned $141,000 more per year at peak salary than men who scored lowest. IQ made almost no difference. Men with IQs between 110 and 115 earned statistically the same as men with IQs above 150. Relationships didn't just predict happiness. They predicted the money too. The study also found that the single greatest destroyer of health, marriage, and career was alcoholism. And that the warmth of your relationship with your mother predicted your work effectiveness decades later, but had zero correlation with life satisfaction at age 75. Your relationship with your father predicted your adult anxiety levels. The current director, Robert Waldinger, put it simply: loneliness is as powerful a killer as smoking. 87 years of data on what makes a life work. Wealth, IQ, and social class barely moved the needle. Whether anyone actually knew you moved everything.

@HowRYouBud @aakashgupta That assumption is depressing, and I’m glad things are changing, but we have missed out on a lot until now.

@Amberlitz1 @aakashgupta I think it was assumed that adult men and women had similar aspirations and measures of happiness, because when each reached adulthood they were likely paired with the other. That they shared happiness. There are definitely plenty of measurements of women’s happiness now.

@0ldmanGlen @ABmrJutt You’ll figure it out.

@Amberlitz1 @ABmrJutt Reading comprehension problem? If the mess is cleaned up before the child can get to it, how can I teach the child to clean up the mess?

Nana , age 101: Why aren’t you married? Me, age 27: Because I don’t want to spend my life picking up a man’s dirty socks. Nana: Then don’t pick them up.

@tylerlacovara @agirlnamedMary Would he tell me? Or would he need a man to tell me?

@Amberlitz1 @agirlnamedMary Ask Him.

Getting an MDiv and getting ordained are NOT the same thing. Achieving academic qualifications from a non-church entity and being called by a church as a pastor are NOT the same thing. This is true for women AND men. Why are we still putting extra-biblical restrictions on women?

@0ldmanGlen @ABmrJutt Why don’t you train your child? Training the child is a bigger job than cleaning up after the child. My husband has done a great job of training our kids to clean—kids push back pretty hard, it needed his energy!

@ABmrJutt Definitely a woman thing. I keep telling my wife to quit cleaning up after the kid, make her clean up her own mess. Wife gets up, cleans it up before anyone else is awake then fusses about the mess. I can't teach the kid to clean up after herself if it's already done.

@HowRYouBud @aakashgupta It’s sad that it didn’t matter to them to find out whether women were happy and why. At least I think that’s changing now.

@Amberlitz1 @aakashgupta Yes. I don’t think they anticipated the Sex Wars in the 1930s.

@tylerlacovara @agirlnamedMary How sad! Why doesn’t God want 100% of the human race teaching about him instead of just 49%?

@Amberlitz1 @agirlnamedMary As women cannot teach the word of God publicly, she doesn’t belong in a program designed to educate pastors on how to do that.

@gooby_scotus @agirlnamedMary What if she’s infertile?

@tylerlacovara @agirlnamedMary Are these programs exclusive? Universities are so desperate for money, I’m sure they’re not turning away qualified men. She’s not taking anyone’s spot.

@agirlnamedMary The MDiv is the primary path to ordination. Women cannot be ordained, so there is no reason for them to take up a man’s slot in the program.

Attending the Installation of Sarah Mullally as the Archbishop of Canterbury at Canterbury Cathedral.

I am Sarah, a servant of Jesus Christ, and I come as one seeking the grace of God, to travel with you in his service together. I am sent as archbishop to serve you to proclaim the love a Christ and with you to worship and love him with heart and soul, mind and strength.

@BarackObama I’m sorry, but it also practically put my husband’s small business under. It doubled the cost of providing health insurance to his employees.

The day the Affordable Care Act passed was one of my proudest moments as president, because it meant that millions of Americans would have access to health care, some for the first time. The ACA also prevented insurance companies from denying people with pre-existing conditions coverage, allowed young people under the age of 26 to remain on their parents’ plan, expanded Medicaid, and so much more. But the ACA was always meant to be a first step. We still have to do more to expand access and make health care more affordable for everyone.

Can we please present all the news of the day with appropriately adapted Oscar Wilde quotes, please and thank you

@_OKJ__ This is one instance where miracles would do wonders. For the right person called to go there, if God wanted that culture to believe the message, miracles would be the way.

This reminds me of a fascinating story I read,of when in the 1970s Daniel Everett,a linguist and Christian went to the Amazon jungle to convert a tribe called the piraha people to Christianity and completely failed for one crazy reason 😂😂 When Daniel Everett arrived with his wife and kids at the remote Pirahã village in the Amazon, His mission was clear…learn their language,translate the New Testament,and convert this isolated hunter gatherer group to Christianity. What he encountered instead was one of the most radical cultural and linguistic worldviews ever documented 😂. From his experience,Everett eventually formalized what he called the “Immediacy of Experience Principle”. What this means in essence is the Pirahã culture and grammar strongly constrain what can be meaningfully discussed or believed…to them,knowledge must be anchored in direct,personal observation or at most in the recent testimony of living people you know. Things that happened long ago,that no one alive has seen,or that exist only in abstract or supernatural realms fall into the category of what they called xibipío (“gone out of experience”). They don’t deny it outrightly.. to them, such things simply carry no weight and are not worth serious talk. This principle shapes everything for them… and is why they have No creation myths or origin storis , No numbers beyond rough quantities like “a few” or “many.” , No recursive embedding in grammar (you can’t easily say “kelvin’s brother’s house” … you say two separate sentences). Their Stories and discourse stay tethered to the here and now. Now Christian theology, by contrast, is built on precisely the kind of claims the Pirahã worldview filters out…A distant creation,Miracles and events from thousands of years ago, A savior no living person has met, Salvation and afterlife described in ancient texts. Everett tried …He told them the story of Jesus..his birth,teachings,death,and resurrection. The Pirahã listened politely,then asked the questions their language and culture demanded… “Have you met this man?” “Did you see him?” “Did your father see him?” When Everett admitted he had not , that these events happened 2,000 years earlier and were known only through a book,the conversation effectively ended 😂. “That’s interesting,” some of them would say, treating the Gospel the same way they treated any other distant tale…as something outside lived experience, therefore irrelevant to how they live and what they believe. Notice It wasn’t hostile rejection(like the one you’d get from the people of the sentinel islands in India). It was epistemological incompatibility. The theology couldn’t even gain traction because their entire system of knowledge validation rejected second hand ancient testimony. Everett kept trying for years. He failed to produce a usable Bible translation. Meanwhile, living among people who were profoundly content, generous, and empirically grounded …with no concept of sin, eternal punishment, or a distant deity. By 1982 he himself started havinv serious doubts about his beliefs and by 1985 he had quietly become an atheist. The man who had come to convert the Pirahã had instead been “converted” by their way of seeing reality.😅 As Everett later wrote and said in interviews, the deepest challenge wasn’t an argument against Christianity. It was living inside a culture where the very criteria for what counts as real knowledge made supernatural historical claims feel as weightless as yesterday’s dream. The Pirahã didn’t need to debate theology. Their language and worldview simply had no slot for it and, in the process, they helped a missionary lose his faith without ever raising their voices.😂 Makes you wonder, what would a Christian say the fate of these people is? Eternal torment? We can all see how that would be problematic. Would they somehow make heaven and get judged by how they live their lives? But That would make the whole Christian message irrelevant. 🙂

Legend

I have many, many, many complaints about social media, but the flip side is this: A reader enjoys a book published more than 40 years ago and shares how much he enjoyed it. Expressed a desire to talk about it with others and laments he's the only person he knows who has read it. And now he's received a personal thanks from the author and received an outpouring of kindness as other fans have stepped forward, eager to talk. It's a beautiful thing to witness, and something that would have been as good as impossible even 20 years ago.

@andrea_wulf It changed me!

The Desert Garden at Huntington Botanical Gardens always blows my mind. Every single time.

christian men: “biblical women should be quiet and submissive” women in the bible:

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