Post Separation Abuse Is A Silent Killer

“The legal system is designed to protect men from the superior power of the state but not to protect women or children from the superior power of men,” U.S. feminist psychiatrist Judith Herman, Trauma and Recovery, The Aftermath of Violence-From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror

@TheFestiveOwl @RufusDuSol @RoseBowlStadium @PasadenaPD The way this video brought out the misogynists. Hideous stuff 😐

This isn’t my usual kind of content, but this behavior is abhorrent anywhere — much less at a show. A longtime follower was brutally attacked over an accidentally spilled drink this weekend during Rüfüs Du Sol at the Rose Bowl and needs help identifying this person. If you recognize this man or have any information, please contact Shelby at: ShelbyElston0530@gmail.com Below is a brief explanation of this awful situation from Shelby herself: ——————————————————— I need your help to find THIS MAN WHO ASSAULTED ME. This happened on 8/16/25 at the Rüfüs Du Sol concert at the Rose Bowl Stadium in Pasadena, CA. Section 12-H, row 20, seats 107 and 108 (attacker and his companion). We were at the concert to see our favorite artist, but the night turned traumatic. When we first got to our seats, a drink was accidentally spilled, lightly splashing the man in front of us. We apologized immediately, but he yelled that it was intentional and ran off, leaving his companion behind. We apologized to her and thought it was over. About 30 minutes later, he returned, screamed us, and threatened violence. I tried to calm the situation and apologized again — and the next thing I remember, I woke up in the medical tent an hour later and missed the entire show. This man PUNCHED ME IN THE FACE, knocking me out and causing significant bleeding, while he continued attacking our group. Another friend tried to protect us, but the attacker fled into the crowd and hasn’t been found. A police report was filed. We are traumatized. If anyone knows this man or his companion , PLEASE reach out. He should be held accountable for this assault.

@toomuchshade_ @SilentPrune @starrdlux @TheFestiveOwl @RufusDuSol @RoseBowlStadium @PasadenaPD 🤨

@SilentPrune @starrdlux @TheFestiveOwl @RufusDuSol @RoseBowlStadium @PasadenaPD Irrelevant. Women are equal to men and vice versa. No need to promote any gender inequalities.

@TheDFreshmaker @FilipponeSal @TheFestiveOwl @RufusDuSol @RoseBowlStadium @PasadenaPD Tells you everything you need to know about them.

@FilipponeSal @TheFestiveOwl @RufusDuSol @RoseBowlStadium @PasadenaPD are you sticking up for a guy who abused a woman? Interesting stance.

@vwbug74 @verneymitc @KimWrites4U The difference, goofy, is that more cops were tried than at any other time for the murdering of unarmed people. They were being held accountable despite qualified immunity. But I get it, you’re one of 60% who can’t read and comprehend beyond sixth grade.

@verneymitc @KimWrites4U So when democrats was in office no black person got unalive by the police

My mood… Except what she said about Black men. I don’t believe it was all of yall but to those who it applies…what she said. #Election2024 #LatinosForTrump #AmericaDecides2024 #BlackConversations

@Richelicious83 @KimWrites4U Are always advocating, marching, and fighting for Black men because we give birth to them. The Black women in your life don’t support your no-account, low-vibration, uneducated existence because you clearly embody all the less than desirable things.

@Richelicious83 @KimWrites4U While I know it’s not worth responding to you I am solely for the fact that non-Black people will see this stupid post and run with it. Black women formed BLM in response to Michael Brown’s murder in Ferguson. Ida B Wells reported on and advocated against lynching. Black women…

@SoulChild868 @black_she_devil @keatingssixth You’re not a critical thinker, you’re contrarian because you are the “uneducated” that he’s bolstered by. Not one single Black American votes for Democrats because we believe they’re going to save us. We vote to be less harmed because anti-Blackness exists in policy.

A conservative president A conservative Congress A conservative Supreme Court Do y’all know wtf that means????

I don’t think most people know how hard it is to fight in a world that seeks to undermine you at every turn - while trying to not question God. If you are able to see all of this unfolding and still maintain inveterate faith, please teach me your ways.

Sadly… This.

@JP_Quixote @BeckyChill @intentionally Yes, you are right. White people who are overwhelmingly his base feel abandoned by the browning of America because if a Black woman can become president in the US, what does that say about their progress in this patriarchal, misogynistic, racist society. White supremacy won.

@BeckyChill @intentionally Trump’s base feels abandoned & betrayed by a system they thought they understood, and feel they are fighting back against people and systems that have wronged them. If you oversimplify it to “racism” or “nastiness” this spiral only worsens from here.

I voted for her. I think he’s a bad guy. But if you lose the senate, house, electoral college AND popular vote, and you think the lesson is half the country is racist, sexist, homophobic, transphobic, and stupid… wrong lesson. And the same thing will likely happen in 2028.

@JuwonTheTechie @kbyrd2_ You are seeing thru your lens and solely your lens. People have been talking about white women since 2016, but if you’re feeling put upon because you voted for tRump, then a hit dog will holler.

@kbyrd2_ Black men are the only demographic in America who get bullied, shamed and vilified for their electoral decisions.

@slickmike1230 @XingFrog @Ichiryu212998 @xDimplesxx @JuwonTheTechie @kbyrd2_ Actually JD VANCE as a VP nominee usurped that role from Harris in many polls.

@XingFrog @Ichiryu212998 @xDimplesxx @JuwonTheTechie @kbyrd2_ You were given the VP with the lowest approval ratings in modern history, including her own party, and somehow, you loved her. BIIIIIIG cult vibes my friend

@kbyrd2_ Black men are a problem in this capacity, but they did vote Democrat in the majority. Trump won 20% of male Black voters nationally against Harris, similar figures that the Republican nominee got in the 2020 election against President Joe Biden. BLACK MEN are not the problem.

@bblackgoldd I believe that he was emotionally neglected by the women in his life. And I’m being serious. He is not emotionally well, and I haven’t watched this.

@SouthDallasFood @TinekeYounger01 Ma’am I do this, onions, and bread crumbs, thank you very much! 😏😆

This is the only way to Mac n cheese.

@KarenUlrich_DID @DrJessTaylor And don’t look back. That’s the problem w/the laws that were enacted before we really understood the concept of CC. It should be established that the abusers actions are designed to maintain control over their victims long after the relationship is terminated.

In America they are creating coercive control "laws" that seem innocent but are extremely dangerous (fine print). It is on the VICTIM to prove CC and if they cannot (they never can), the ABUSER can turn around and order a psych eval for paranoia, delusions, bipolar or whatever DSM codes they want to throw at a victim to victimize further.

I’ve been thinking about this whole ‘coercive control’ thing for years now, and honestly, I don’t see the point in the term. I promise I’m not trying to be disrespectful here as I know lots of great work has gone into validating experiences of abuse where coercion was central. BUT we now have long lists of acts considered CC, and really, they are all domestic abuse. I would like someone to find a difference between CC and DA, because as it stands, I can’t see one. I wouldn’t, for example, say ‘you’re a victim of CC but not of DA!’ as that wouldn’t make sense theoretically or conceptually. Why did we create a second term, when it is describing already defined and legislated DA? CC at its core, is the use of coercion to control and includes emotional abuse where violence isn’t required at all - so if we add everything else back into it, including violence, then what we are talking about is DA. DA is CC. CC is DA. We did this with CSE and CSA in 2012, and it got us nowhere. CSE is CSA. CSA is CSE. The misconception (if it is one) that Jane is speaking of here comes from the original narrative that DA was violence, and CC was emotional coercion and control. As CC has broadened (which for me, is evidence of poor definitions and boundaries, which is what happened in CSE & CSA), it has now started being defined as all forms of coercion, control, abuse, AND violence - which we already have a name for - domestic abuse. I think we need to be clear that CC isn’t a standalone issue that’s different from DA, it’s just the coercive actions and tactics of a DA perp. I don’t think we have done ourselves any favours by letting this grow into something separate to DA where we now have professionals defining it as something different from DA. It’s unclear - and when definitions of abuse are unclear; all the interventions, approaches, prosecution, disruption, responses and legislation become unclear too.

@KarenUlrich_DID @DrJessTaylor I agree that the laws as written are undermining victims, but I agree w/both @DrJessTaylor that they are inextricable, but I like the way @JMoncktonSmith defines it as behavior designed to keep victims enmeshed and trapped in the relationship. Some abusers do move onto the next…

@bandholz @KevinNegandhi He looks to me like he has Down’s syndrome and that would explain everything on his part. It doesn’t explain the full grown child next to him.

@KevinNegandhi I wonder if this guy is cognitively impaired, which might explain a little?

The fact that these two Yankee fans acted like they didn’t do anything wrong… one held Mookie’s glove.. other one grabs Mookie’s hand and won’t let go. If this was done in Philly, social media would’ve melted down.

@The_OtherET @NickKristof So if it isn’t true then if she isn’t a poster child for who shouldn’t be a mother I don’t know who is! Forcing women to have babies that they either can’t care for or don’t want to secure men’s access to women is really what you maladapted losers want or else you’re a lonely lot

@NickKristof The amount of people telling me these things aren't true, when these are explicitly outlined in the article, is honestly concerning. I'm not even saying she should have been convicted for manslaughter. Just pointing out calling it a simple "miscarriage" is dishonest.

A struggling Nevada mom suffers a miscarriage. Then the police show up and arrest her for manslaughter, and she's sentenced to 2.5-8 years in prison. Only when a pro bono lawyer steps up and appeals does a judge reverse the conviction and set her free to return to her children. This is family values? Think about that as you vote. washingtonpost.com/investigations…

@Carina_Amyth @ask_aubry 100%

@ask_aubry "Hold it in." Why are men.🤷‍♀️

Omg why didn't I think about just holding my period in. 😒