Mr Sergio@samson_samsen
Women are not weird. They are simply less behaviorally conditioned, adulterated than men.
The most seemingly "animalistic" thing a woman does is what a man would do without layers of education, religion, or ethics.
The problem of the male is in the brain.
He absorbs conditioning and ideologies better than the female. He is, therefore, more prone to think and behave in conformity to standards - moral and ethical - than the female.
So a woman does what feels good in the moment. A man does what is, by established standards, good.
The problem, then, is that men go into relationships with women expecting them to operate by that same standard.
So a religious brother goes into a relationship with a religious sister and expects her to be fully absorbed in the doctrines of their religion, just as he is, in his inclination to think and rationalize, fully absorbed in it. He assumes his church-going girlfriend cannot cheat while he is gone on a two-year business trip. He assumes his “good girl” girlfriend does not yearn for rough sex, so he f*cks her slowly - in the “holy” boring way - or he remains celibate with her, as their faith commands. And he is later heartbroken by the realization that, all the while, his girl was getting the d*ck from youth pastor, the reverend, a neighbor’s husband, her boss, or a married colleague - roughly and unholy.
The religious brother expects consistency because he himself is governed by it. But for her, belief may coexist with impulse, emotion, and circumstance. Not necessarily out of malice, but because her orientation is not anchored in rigid adherence the way his is.
The same painful fate is met by the “woke” man who marries a “woke” woman with the 50/50 concept in view. While he is, by reason, a believer in such a concept and is thus strongly bonded to it, his wife, being a woman, does not share the same level of conviction and adherence to the concept and is, therefore, likely to break its foundational and functional rules.
Hence the woke man ends up learning, painfully, that no woman can practice the 50/50 concept faultlessly, because women do not have the reasoning discipline to stick to order.
Women relates to idea situationally, not doctrinally. Accepting it when it feels right, bending it when it does not. Again, the man learns the hard way.
So while the male thinks in concepts and systems, the female thinks in moments. And this disparity, unknown to men, makes them expect order from women, and with that expectation, asymmetrical investment.
You see, women exist predominantly in the base state of the human species: animalistic, instinctive, whimsical. Conversely, men exist primarily in the evolved state: thinking, discerning, stable. Thus, out of touch with the emotional vagaries their female contemporaries embody, they consequently expect order from the female - a gender not designed for order.
The whole point is: Men tend to operate more on abstract systems and ideals, while women tend to respond more to immediate emotional and situational factors. And this mismatch creates relationship friction.