Gina@FlorioGina
The common response to this news is that Alex Cooper is somehow leading her audience down a path that she herself is not choosing. But what’s happening here is actually the exact feminist dream.
A woman participates in hookup culture as much as she wants when she’s in her prime. She sleeps around, has casual sex, gets the ick, dumps men, gets dumped, has summer flings, gets abortions if needed. She’s hot. She has pretty privilege and isn’t afraid to use it.
But when she feels like the time is right, she settles down with a high value man — only because it’s her choice, not because she feels pressured by societal standards or a ticking biological clock. This man does not care about her past because he wouldn’t dare judge a woman for expressing herself sexually. They have a beautiful wedding and her dress is stunning. She gets pregnant when she feels like she’s ready to take on motherhood.
She trades in her promiscuous days only when she wants to, on her own terms. And the perfect man she finds is more than happy to go along with her timeline because he respects her and her desires. And he doesn’t want to lose her.
Alex has quite literally lived out the perfect feminist blueprint thus far.
You see, the only problem is, this modern feminist blueprint usually only works for exceptionally successful, gorgeous women with influence (with exception of course, but we’re talking about the rule here). Models, actresses, wealthy bachelorettes and entrepreneurs.
It doesn’t quite translate for the everyday mid who works a boring corporate job. By the time she’s well into her 30s, the everyday mid with the promiscuous past generally doesn’t have the same allure and magnetism as a famous rich blonde who regularly rubs shoulders with elite celebrities. The men that she wants to try and settle down with have far less interest in her and would much rather marry a woman much younger, much less seasoned, and much more fertile.
This is why we are seeing such high rates of childless unmarried women. They followed the early years of the blueprint, spending their 20s and even most of their 30s dating casually, believing that they too could find a high value man when they’re older and eventually sick of the dating scene—why wouldn’t they be able to? They look at famous, rich celebs and influencers and think, hey I can do that too. If they can postpone marriage and kids until they are “ready,” so can I!
But everyday women simply aren’t on the same playing field as women like Alex Cooper. Few will fully understand this. Many will try to make excuses as to why this isn’t true (brace yourself for the outliers’ stories).
Even if you don’t see anything morally wrong with the hookup culture that Alex Cooper praises on her show, young women would be smart to understand the real world, and that you have a much greater chance at locking down a high value man when you’re younger and a bit more austere. Sorry I don’t make the rules.
