Jenn S

Don’t be a doomer. Don’t talk like a doomer. Don’t think like a doomer. Don’t spread doom. Spread hope. You can. Keep trying. Keep looking. Keep praying. Keep waiting. You can receive good things from God. Housing market is nothing to Him.

@luinalaska Maybe you could pop the S off or hide it somehow, and then just say you named your fridge Meg. 👀

I desperately want one of these but the word smeg makes me uncomfortable so it’s a hard pass. Smeg? Absolutely not.

@wife2sirhusband …. Do people not sleep in hours anymore??? 😭 Oh! Maybe that’s why they’re delusional!!!!

"hours" This is delusional. I go hours without talking to MY HUSBAND relatively frequently bc he has a JOB.

@AniseNot Huzzah!!!!! 🙌 Way to go, lady!!! 💪

I GOT SO MUCH DONE TODAY I GOT A MAJOR RESPONSIBILITY OFF MY PLATE OMG IT FEELS SO GOOD

I must be hard to get to know. All these “five things to get to know me” and I … can’t come up with five things 😂

@emilykmay @AniseNot I wrote a whole thread about this last night. You seem reasonable enough to not dismiss it out of hand, if you care to take a look. x.com/jlsfiction/sta…

an assumption that women should take on these jobs isn't ideal when it can be crushing to manage all of those tasks. the tired and the oil changes are seasonal/occasional tasks that don't have to be done immediately. we have to eat every day. we have to wear clothes every day. And I would say there is a moral obligation to know what goes into the daily living of your children. It's just paying attention. It's also being the one who gets the glass of milk. To love people is to pay attention to them.

Losing all my mom friends by agreeing with the mental load lady

@emilykmay @AniseNot The assumption is not that women SHOULD take on these jobs. The assumption is that the job has already been taken up by someone, and the family unit is better by served by not making two people carry the same mental load.

@emilykmay @AniseNot I know you would say it. But to say it means that all the happy people with perfectly satisfying marriages who didn’t were somehow failing a moral obligation, and that’s not only absurd on it’s face and condemning whole generations of good people, it also has no Biblical backing.

@emilykmay @AniseNot 1. Okay. 2. Why? I don’t pay attention to whether or not the family car had it’s tires rotated or when the oil was last changed. I didn’t discuss not caring about those jobs that are integral to our life. There is no moral obligation to either of your points.

we can't all have the same jobs, but 1. the job of knowing family life minutia tends to fall to women without any discussion. 2. paying attention to what your kids eat/drink/like should just be part of being a parent. I don't do much of the grocery shopping, but I know what milk we drink.

@JeremyDBoreing But you ARE aspirational. 👀😁

The Jeremy Exciting Show seemed a bit aspirational...

@emilykmay @AniseNot Because we can’t all have the same jobs.

@JLSFiction @AniseNot but why isn't that their job

@Augieblue01 @AniseNot And thank goodness he married a delightful woman.

@JLSFiction @AniseNot Thank goodness my husband isn’t dumb enough to not know what milk we drink.

@wrowclif That’s a lot of hydrated carbs in one week. 😂

Learned that I've gained ten pounds in the past week, so that's something.

@VanillaFuryYT It’s always good to try to learn from past mishaps, so asking clarifying questions seems a fair idea. But generally, yes, you just keep trying to be positive and kind, and trust God to use your words how you meant them: for the good of others.

I am so tired of hurting people unintentionally. Oftentimes it's with simple advice or well wishes. I may not even know I hurt them until much later. Do I just stop? Do I ask first if it's a public deal? Do I just continue regardless because I knew my intentions were good?

There are things you can do. He wants to help. Put in a little bit more effort now to help him help you. It’s worth it.

It was rocky at the beginning. I was not patient. I was panicky. I expected to run out of clean dishes and I nagged. But he did dishes every day for years. To the point where I stopped SEEING them, they were so far off my mental load.

I have many long thoughts on this phenomenon, why it happens, and how to fix it. Fair warning; it’s a thread. 🧵