




Job Lazarus Okello
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@JoblazarusO
African Union Scholar | Pan-Africanist | Author | Poet | TEDx Speaker | Global Peace Ambassador | Recipient of The Most Inspiring Man of the Earth Award 2022


































There’s been an attempt to label me an abuser and an irresponsible father. On being accused of being an abuser: I normally choose silence, but there are narratives that must be corrected. So allow me say this; I am part of the unreported statistics of men who experience domestic violence from partners with uncontrolled anger issues. But because ‘we are men in a corporate world,’ we stay silent, show up every day. I restrained myself immensely despite all provocations and assaults. But society will, of course, believe the female gender. I have evidence of myself bleeding after being assaulted. All my closest friends, family know this. On being accused of being an irresponsible father: Despite having only seen my children ONCE in the last ten months, I have never stopped sending money monthly, a figure that wasn’t decided by me, but by my accuser. There is evidence of this: messages saying “thank you” and receipts of the transactions. I have gone to court, fought, and been granted custody of my children, custody that authorities deliberately failed to enforce (that is a story for another day). Custody was granted on grounds of desertion: the mother had deserted them in a locked apartment with a maid while she was traveling overseas. Since January, I have been denied access to my children, despite numerous requests to seem and third parties intervening. To men: speak up against violence from your wives when you still have the chance. I suffered in silence for too long. It didn’t help. This is the last time I am addressing this issue, please give me space to heal.


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