NoobLapras

I can’t fathom how you will be so wicked and heartless to blur out parts of our messages and omit screenshots that clearly justify me and paint me what i am not, claiming you were unconscious and calling me another person’s name during sex,

I think what this position misses is: 1) Kids are gonna have a surname 2) Having the whole household share a surname really is useful for a whole lot of purposes and parents who don't share surnames with their kids often face administrative challenges 3) Making up a new surname for the whole household breaks ties with *both* sides of the family and also most people see it as kinda cringe 4) So it's either his or hers or hyphens 5) Hyphens are fine, many countries do that, but they do make it literally impossible to write your full surname on many documents for many name combos, so you're back at having a name that creates recurrent administrative problems 6) So the lowest-friction solution really is his or hers 7) There's no fundamental reason it has to be his, but either way somebody is gonna give. You can argue it should be the man, but the only argument for that is matriarchy, which is no more compelling than patriarchy. 8) On the other hand the argument for "this is just the convention, don't sweat it too much" is fairly strong