RTthinks

750 of you here. Thank you genuinely! You have no idea how much this means to me:) Now here's what's coming. A full letter on love. Not the romantic clichés The actual psychology of it. Lust, attraction, platonic love, parental love. A complete model of how love actually works, in typical RT contrarian style. I'll drop a snippet at 1k. 250 away. It's in your hands:)

@ObiDivineTweets yup

@RTthinks True connection is never a prize you win for performing, and that is a painful lesson to learn after paying for it with your youth.

Merit doesn't get you love. It gets you praise. I was at the school my entire schooling life. Grade one through graduation. And when I first walked in as a six year old, I felt completely unfit for the place. Prestigious school, pretentious kids, families with more money than mine would ever see. I was a nobody there. Not academically sharp, not athletic, nothing obvious I could bring to the table. Under qualified in every sense of the word, and treated exactly like it. The answer to solve all of this, that I thought at the time was merit. So I spent the next twelve years chasing it. Went from failing grades and my parents quietly losing hope, to the best academic record the school had ever produced. Went from a kid nobody looked twice at, to the first student in the school's history to get flown out by Cambridge for an interview. Went from being invisible to forcing an entire graduating class to acknowledge me as valedictorian. Teachers who used to yell at me unfairly were now telling other people "he was my student," like it was something they'd earned. And on graduation, I genuinely felt proud of where I was. Until I heard laughter... (This is a snippet of my latest newsletter on the limitations of merit. The letter is live rn.)

Full letter: lifeyouwant.substack.com/p/the-day-i-ha…

@Kelvincreates This is why now all I do is post. I rarely reply. this is one of my rare ones lol

𝕏 is boring when you don't earn from it. i don't know how people build a business and still post for fun. every day: → post 2+ times → engage with 200+ accounts → pay for 𝕏 Premium that was me months ago. chasing vanity metrics thinking i was making progress. then i started cold outreach. it showed me if my content got attention. it showed me if people would pay for my offer. getting rejected in the dm game taught me more than months of posting. that's when 𝕏 stopped being social media and started becoming a business.

@TheBookNewb Yup

@RTthinks I've been thinking about this a lot lately. Real friendship isn't just built around shared good moments. It's also built through showing up when it's inconvenient, because that's often when people need us most.

A lot of people say they want deeper friendships. Then a friend calls while they’re having a bad week and it feels like an imposition. You wanted closeness. You just didn’t want it to require anything from you. That is a fairly common definition of friendship now.

@miracleadishi Thanks

@RTthinks You captured this so well. We ask for something we can't quite maintain that's ironic

@kt_mastery never heard of that quote. nice!

@RTthinks Well said "You cannot be a powerful and life-changing presence to some people without being a joke or an embarrassment to others." - Mark Manson

The courage to be disliked is the courage to be loved. You can’t access one without accepting the other.

@ObiDivineTweets yup

@RTthinks Authenticity creates room for the right people to appreciate you.

more depth: lifeyouwant.substack.com

The story usually comes first. The evidence shows up later. Once you’ve decided you’re awkward… Every pause becomes proof. Every good conversation becomes luck. It’s amazing what your mind will edit out to protect a conclusion.

@Rocket_AP I'm glad:)

I agree, to a point

@ylolyfe It feels very nice man. think like volunteering or something like that. If you've done it, you know how it feels. Just use the same mindset for other times you help people and stuff.

@RTthinks it feels like a ego death for you? genuinely curious. how is it to escape your own mind.

A friend asked me why helping people always seemed to improve my mood. I don’t think it’s because helping feels good. For an hour or two, you stop being the main character in your own head. There’s more relief in that than people realise.

@EmailCopyJames 💜

@RTthinks You have mature mindset bro. Keep winning

@MaximilianHa4 💜

@RTthinks Thats a great perspective thanks for sharing this RT

@Starboyyy7777 It makes you realize that there is nothing wrong with disappointing people

@RTthinks I don't get it brother

Something changes the first time you disappoint someone on purpose. Not out of spite. Just because saying yes would’ve meant lying. You expect the world to fall apart. Usually it’s just your old role that does.

@sheshn94 yup it does

@RTthinks It feels so good honestly. Uncomfortable at first but once you do it a few times it feels like you unlocked some sort of cheat code for life hahaha

I used to think I procrastinated because I lacked discipline. Then I noticed something embarrassing. The things I kept postponing all had one thing in common. Someone else would finally know what I was capable of. Turns out unfinished work can be surprisingly comfortable.