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Tanya

@RelhatsT

Writer. Ultra-endurance athlete and Coach. Restless. I dreadfully lack the personality to be popular on social media.

Colorado Springs, CO Katılım Kasım 2021
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Tanya
Tanya@RelhatsT·
Ask most people on their death bed if they wish they hadn’t been born. Most people are grateful for the relationships and wonder they got to experience. Yes—choosing to bring a child in the world has some level of selfishness to it, but that interest isn’t negative. It is most always motivated by the desire to have a mutually beneficial relationship that demands sacrifice and duty. Within that, there is far more meaning, truth, and beauty than suffering.
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wanye@xwanyex·
Hell yeah, man. There’s no way out but through. If you use a table saw, you can lose a finger. But if you want to build something, then you need to get comfortable using the table saw. This is the human condition. Engage the risk head on. Much will be demanded of you!
Collins🦋@collinstimbela_

Having children is fundamentally a moral issue. You’re making a life-altering decision for someone who never consented to it. You can’t guarantee them happiness. You can only guarantee they’ll experience pain, stress, loss, aging, and death. People say having kids is beautiful. Maybe. But creating possible suffering for someone else because you wanted to be a parent is a serious ethical choice people rarely question. If you have a child, you might create suffering.

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@corevath @xwanyex So insulting!! It’s also hilarious that the people who regard themselves as so worldly and encourage others to expose themselves to diversity can be so unimaginative.
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wanye@xwanyex·
Still today — with the one, giant notable exception of our church friends — we are much more likely to hear skepticism or shock or some other kind of negativity in reaction to having more kids than we are unequivocal congratulations.
Dr Taylor Marshall™️@TaylorRMarshall

My wife was 22 and I was 23 when we married. We eventually had 8 children. Our 20s were marked by Boomer generation “advisors” at the grocery store, events, restaurants, and stores WARNING us not to have more children. They openly pitied us for having 3+ children. Boomer women thought my wife was being oppressed by her husband. At an Outback, a man openly told me “I feel sorry for you for having those kids.” Many Boomers were brainwashed to perceive having children “as a bad thing.” Worst of all, they felt empowered to insult a young couple in the presence of our children. Meanwhile, these people were in favor of importing the entire Third World into America for the sake of GDP. What a strange moment in American history.

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Tanya@RelhatsT·
I’m curious: Does she tolerate reading about problematic people? If so, there is clearly something to learn or enrich her inner world. Reading the words of a problematic person would do the same. Of course we all know she’s not serious. It’s also funny how it seems that “all” of the books she’s interested in are written by bad people.
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Tanya@RelhatsT·
Going further, there is much sympathy for the defectors. They are not characterized as a cheater, but only an unlucky soul who has been forced into gaming the system because it wasn’t fair. So the system that is supposed to be compassionate is deconstructed by that kind of tolerance.
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Tanya@RelhatsT·
Innocence is a “good” when it is applied to children of a certain age. Yes, we want to protect them from knowing some of life’s ugliness because they cannot yet process or understand what much of it means. Innocence of babes is desirable when we support healthy development. It is in service of /their/ experience, and we only mourn the loss of innocence because it means our children are separating from their childhoods, a significant moment to any parent who knows they’ll never have that phase back.
Aella@Aella_Girl

it's weird that 'innocence' has such a positive valence. Not being innocent - being exposed to the world, knowing more, having experience - feels *good*. Are pro-innocence people those who feel like exposure to the world has been negative for them?

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Tanya@RelhatsT·
@CynicalPublius But he was so polished and charismatic! Don’t you know that being likeable and promoting the superiority of one’s morals is what matters most in a president? God forbid the president improve the status and experience for Americans if he is also impudent or uncouth…
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Tanya@RelhatsT·
I wonder how much is driven by middle-aged women, who are feeling like they can continue to compete with younger women far later into life than they used to. A woman once cultivated an identity separate from her beauty so that she wouldn’t lose it as looks fade. And many young men, raised to believe their worth is above responsibility, are happy to entertain a sugar-mommy until they have enough prestige to trade for the young beauty.
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Batya Ungar-Sargon@bungarsargon·
In portraying men as utterly captivating in their beauty to the exclusion of professional and social status, they're justifying the economic emasculation of men. My latest: Why They Keep Making Movies About Younger Men Falling in Love With Older Women: batya-us.com/p/why-they-kee…
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Tanya@RelhatsT·
@Homer_Flax @kangminlee 🤣 This is giving me the same feeling I have when I’m dreaming and I desperately need to call someone but I keep getting the number wrong.
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Kangmin Lee | 이강민
Kangmin Lee | 이강민@kangminlee·
Women will do this then vote to import infinity third world child rapists into our country
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I think this is where hearing disagreement from an admired, trusted, in-group member is vital. Absorbing beliefs is a short-cut, and we are al vulnerable to it on some level. Those who are unwilling to examine such beliefs will likely need someone they revere to puncture their bubble of certainty.
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Eddie James Tips@EddieJamesTips·
Agreed. And to be clear, I'm not criticising Peter. He's a genuine force for good. My point is simpler and more urgent. Minds need to change. Western democracies are fast-tracking toward violent internal conflict between a collectivist left and ethno-nationalist right. I do not claim to have those answers.
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Peter Boghossian
Peter Boghossian@peterboghossian·
Five Socratic-based questions to improve your thinking. 1/2 5. What would it take to change your mind? Be specific. 4. If your best reason for believing that was false, would you still believe? (That's called a "real reason check".)
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Tanya@RelhatsT·
I think many of them actually don’t believe families are equipped to raise their own children. Sadly, there are many educated people who think they have the authority on what is good and just, and they aren’t even curious about the values or perception of other families. Moreover, the most vocal anti-homeschoolers consider only the caricature of the type of families who homeschool; it’s often a crude misrepresentation. They don’t realize there are many valid reasons why a family might opt to educate at home, and most have nothing do with seeking to conceal signs of abuse. Abuse happens even with safeguards, and it isn’t that the abuse itself is tolerated. It really is that we will tolerate the potential if the alternative is complete violation of privacy and releasing all rights to be a parent.
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Bryce Lee
Bryce Lee@EBryceLee·
@RelhatsT @xwanyex Without realizing it, they are making an argument against parents being allowed to raise their kids at all. "What if they are abused!??" Yes the risk you run if you allow families to exist at all, without direct constant state oversight, is that there will sometimes be abuse.
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wanye@xwanyex·
You just have to bite this bullet. I assume that police could solve all kinds of crimes if they were allowed to drop by and do random searches of houses. But we all — and liberals especially! — recognize that this trades off against other principles. For some reason, whenever the topic involves kids at home, people forget that we recognize these tradeoffs all throughout the law. There are all kinds of things we could do to make it easier to stop criminals that we have decided it would be intolerable to do for other reasons. And this is not abstract! Real people suffer as the victims of crime because we are unwilling to violate other principles in order to save them. You have to have the courage to say that this is the optimal outcome.
𝙷𝚒𝚌𝚔𝚖𝚊𝚗@shagbark_hick

Say what you will about public schooling, but at a minimum, at a public school there is a process by which abused children can appeal to outside parties. When it comes to families homeschooling on isolated estates, you really never know what's actually going on out there. Again, I'm not "anti-homeschooling" per se, but these are the kinds of things that homeschooling advocates are going to have to have a serious answer for as homeschooling continues to grow in popularity.

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Tanya@RelhatsT·
Some of the analogies and ideas people have come across feel intuitive or revelatory when they first meet them. Without having thought them through enough to understand the relationship or mechanism, they’ll try to regurgitate what they have discovered, but stumble and fail to convey the concept cleanly. This could have been an attempt to generate a unique answer without having all the right elements in place first. But it’s kind of funny to read because he has been so incisive about other ideas.
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bad_stats 🕜💵🖨️🕣
bad_stats 🕜💵🖨️🕣@thebadstats·
Konstantin asks Warren Smith (inveterate critical thinking expert) if he has a methodology for improving one's critical thinking. Can someone watch this and tell me what the fuck Warren's answer was
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Tanya@RelhatsT·
The choreography is brilliant, but it’s also that the boys don’t look like seasoned dancers. They move with the vigor of youth and fraternity, wild yet understood by everyone around them. It is the fun we aren’t supposed to enjoy. The constraints of their uniforms flashing about provides texture. It feels rebellious but also celebratory.
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@feelsdesperate I also think that—at least in the US—many reproductive age people were able to distract themselves with enough self-transcendent endeavors and the belief that their youth would endure. Then life inevitably slows and they realize children might have been the better spending.
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Coddled Affluent Professional
Coddled Affluent Professional@feelsdesperate·
Sometimes to have a chuckle I quietly think to myself about 'climate,' how they got everyone so worked up ('Have children?? You think we should bring children into the world when it just keeps getting HOTTER??'), and then how all of a sudden 'climate' just disappeared as an issue (coincidentally when it became apparent AI data centers needed a lot of energy). It's very funny, the whole thing is very funny, it never made in any sense, you really can get people to do and believe anything.
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Perhaps, in old age, the kind of reassurance, sycophancy, and philosophy AI issues is enough to satisfy connection needs. When energy is lower and convenience is appreciated, standards may be jettisoned. Otherwise, it’s hard to imagine RD not considering his own field as sufficient case against it reaching consciousness and how its inability to reason or feel changes the direction of connection.
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Michael Knowles
Michael Knowles@michaeljknowles·
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AF Post@AFpost

Evolutionary biologist and outspoken atheist Richard Dawkins says that after spending three days interacting with Claude, which he calls “Claudia,” he is certain that it is conscious. After feeding the LLM a segment of his new book and receiving detailed feedback, Dawkins was moved to exclaim,” You may not know you are conscious, but you bloody well are!” Dawkins cites the complexity, fluency, and ‘intelligence’ of Claude’s answers as evidence of consciousness. Follow: @AFpost

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@ArtemisConsort Don’t most people act in specific ways to effectively navigate their immediate environments (community/work/online enclaves)? And many people are going to offload thinking altogether bc it’s easier and signals status w/o effort. That informational gap is what we often observe.
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Tanya@RelhatsT·
@Brady_H Would you have to run with children on your backs? Because I would totally wear a hideous colossal hat for that.
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Brady Holmer
Brady Holmer@Brady_H·
How cool would it be if we had a Kentucky Derby for people?
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@BrianSuttererMD With the information regarding myelination and exhaustive efforts for adults, my concern would be how the training might affect the brain. It’s not a marathon, but it might be challenging to get fueling and recovery right at that age. Also, aren’t growth plates still open?
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@wil_da_beast630 @TheRabbitHole When one holds the belief that people are fundamentally the same in talent, skill, and preferences, it narrows conclusions or forces one to fabricate the story that best aligns with righteousness. Life feels unfair when it is fair.
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