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dearreader
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dearreader
@corevath
the fakest person in this house
Planet Earth Katılım Şubat 2011
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When I was pregnant with my 4th (of 5), people would recoil when I told them how many I already had. Friends spoke behind my back that it was irresponsible and selfish. There were the accusations of being brainwashed by “unacceptable” forms of Christianity. Maybe worst of all was the assumption that my hands were too full for me to be able to adequately parent my kids.
Once I had my 5th, I proudly disclosed I was a mom of 5. I offered how much I love being a mother, so no amount of admonition would have been effective.
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Still today — with the one, giant notable exception of our church friends — we are much more likely to hear skepticism or shock or some other kind of negativity in reaction to having more kids than we are unequivocal congratulations.
Dr Taylor Marshall™️@TaylorRMarshall
My wife was 22 and I was 23 when we married. We eventually had 8 children. Our 20s were marked by Boomer generation “advisors” at the grocery store, events, restaurants, and stores WARNING us not to have more children. They openly pitied us for having 3+ children. Boomer women thought my wife was being oppressed by her husband. At an Outback, a man openly told me “I feel sorry for you for having those kids.” Many Boomers were brainwashed to perceive having children “as a bad thing.” Worst of all, they felt empowered to insult a young couple in the presence of our children. Meanwhile, these people were in favor of importing the entire Third World into America for the sake of GDP. What a strange moment in American history.
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@Neely711 @FrannyTrip Yessss this is literally one of my favorite movie looks ever!!
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No! This is the dress that changed a generation! 💗
Blonde Musings 🇺🇸@musings_blonde
Disagree. THIS is the dress that changed a generation
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Told a grumpy gym employee who never smiles that i liked his shaved head. He said “thanks, I shave it every year to honor my son who died of cancer”
Normally this would throw me off and I would awkwardly apologize for bringing it up, but I thought of the grieving parents on here who have said over and over that they enjoy talking about their kids, so I asked about his son.
He absolutely lit up and told me all about what a wonderful man he grew into, obviously just happy to share his memory. So thanks, everyone, for sharing. It makes a difference irl
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Warm Vanilla Sugar what are we even taking about
Z⚾️E@Zo_bo_fo_sho
Millennial women were you cucumber melon or sweet pea
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hmm maybe this time I’d like one of those nice waterproof changing paaa…. uhhh nevermind
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@BalsalmGonzales @MamanLunettes I just heard this from someone else! Apparently she is absolutely unreal IRL
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@MamanLunettes Live in NYC so also see many stunning people; also have only seen one “10.” Standing outside my office in ~2011 and this woman so attractive I actually couldn’t look away walked by. Like a beauty different in kind not degree. Anyway, as she got closer I realized it was Lucy Liu…
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I've met a lot of beautiful women - statistically inevitable when you're a college prof - but only one probable 10. She was the kind of gorgeous where every man crossing her path went briefly stupid, guys meeting her for the first time went mute. She was my roommate and best friend for about a year living abroad, until distance did its thing
It was a humbling and formative experience in my early 20s, being her friend - I learned her aura was at least equal part from her being a smart, kind, loving, pure of heart person (besides crazy perfect face genetics)
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@IterIntellectus I’ve had 4 pregnancies, eat whatever I want, and not a minute of nausea. It’s unfortunately just genetics but I feel this superiority hitting the gym early in the morning on a Saturday so I get it
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one reason why the wife and i spent so much time preparing a birth plan is that after she got pregnant, we wanted to avoid the first trimester nausea, so we started researching and reading the literature
turns out first trimester nausea is driven by hormones the placenta produces (mainly GDF15 and hCG), but what makes it worse for most women is blood sugar instability.
pregnancy lowers maternal fasting glucose, so if the stomach gets empty overnight or in the morning, nausea gets significantly worse
which means eating crackers or cookies in the morning doesn’t help, you’re spiking and crashing blood sugar when you need stability
what the research shows is that protein reduce nausea better than carbs.
what worked for us was a protein and fat rich meal before bed (to sustain blood sugar overnight), then good carbs and fats as soon as she wakes up before the crash hits
it may have been luck, but it helped a lot and the wife almost never suffered from first trimester nausea
when we went to the gynecologist and asked about nausea prevention, she said “it’s normal, you just have to deal with it”, and that’s how we realized we had to do most on our own
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My 5 year old creating the 90s mall Disney store from first principles
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@castlehillmom @emilykmay Yep, have done this and natural birth, unfortunately cannot in good conscience recommend either one 🤣
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@emilykmay This rationale right here is why I chose to have my wisdom teeth taken out with just a local. Do not recommend.
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@svayamusic @megha_lilly I’ve been trying YouTube but haven’t found a creator or channel I love. Can you recommend one?
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@megha_lilly I started learning to sew last year and learned everything from youtube. I am already on my way to sew my full wardrobe made with 100% natural fabrics by the end of the year. The speed I learned it through youtube is insane.
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@Flyboy3520w @Rust33Cohle @RRR0BYN I’m fairly rural and couldn’t even get one. Wanted one for when power/wifi is out but literally impossible. Kinda wild
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@Rust33Cohle @RRR0BYN everyone provides voip phones, no one provides copper unless you're rural and or have business/specialty needs.
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My husband just installed a landline in our house and my kids are having the absolute time of their lives calling their grandma 😂😂😂 the children yearn for analog tech. My kids also have access to instant cameras, a cassette radio, dvd player etc. Giving your kids touch screen technology is so unthinkably stupid and unnecessary.
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@Chesedgirl Just keep going, there are lots of factors and it’s hard to time perfectly. My first was at 32, then 34, 36, due with 4th I’ll be 37. It all works out but you can’t stop to think about it too hard or you’ll either collapse or waver 😂
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Until a few months ago I thought this was Bad Bunny
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Mum popped in to collect something yesterday.
When I got home from work she’d done this. I called her to thank her she said she didn’t know anything about and it must have been my husband.
When he got home I told him what she said.
We laughed uncontrollably for hours.
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I haven't seen a single person diagnose the actual problem and it took me a while to grasp this lesson myself - the issue is not that she's not getting enough "help", it's the fact that she feels like she has no control over her life or her interior experience. You make the world that you exist in, and you can determine whether you'll meet those challenges you experience with determination or a sense of hopelessness. Getting a babysitter or a maid or having a night out isn't going to fix that problem. She doesn't have to be crying on camera while her child is playing in the background. That's a choice she's making. She could be playing with him instead, or taking him outside to a park, or going for a stroller walk, or any myriad of things. Life does not get any better by bemoaning the state of things. It becomes better by getting up and doing something about it.
And the wonderful thing is you can choose to do something different at any moment. Cry if you need to get it out. But then dry your tears, get up, and make your life something enjoyable.
𝗱𝗮𝗻𝗻𝘆🫧💚@beyoncegarden
this is actually so devastating😭
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@Amanda_Jodeh @AniseNot This is WILD. I have taken my own kids to OB appts (4th pregnancy with same practice) and for a place you’d think they’d be welcome, they seem shocked that the babies actually exist out in the world post delivery.
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@AniseNot I was kicked out of my 6 week postpartum checkup because I had a six week old with me. The other three were at home! I thought they were joking at first when they said I can’t come back with a baby. Still haven’t been to my checkup… it’s been almost a year now.
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Fyi i have found the workaround to this for medical appointments is simply showing up with the baby strapped to you in a carrier. Or sit your older kid down in the waiting room with an ipad
Just try showing up, they have never kicked me out
Liz Wolfe@LizWolfeReason
Example of society not built for mothers who take (daytime) care of their kids: Children's hospital tells me I cannot bring my (medically fragile) baby to my 3-year-old's cardiologist appointment, nor can I bring my 3-year-old to my baby's ortho appointment there. So I need...a babysitter (3ish hour chunks) for both, so 6 hours x $25/hr. $150 of care, all for what reason exactly? I can manage my kids at drs appointments! And it is safer for my baby to stay with me vs. someone who doesn't know his medical specifics. My toddler went with me to every OB appointment when I was pregnant with his brother. We managed. Another example: climbing gym kicked out my husband and 3-year-old yesterday because he didn't fit their min age requirement (even though he was well-supervised and has been to climbing gyms in TX, Costa Rica, Guatemala). Said gym also requires 1:1 chaperone to climber ratio for kids ages 5-7; so what do you do if you have multiple kids? Stupid rules.
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@maiab Love how no one is very clear on the plot of Frozen 2 though
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ok i know the Frozen universe pretty well im pretty sure Anna was never queen of anything
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