Kate Riley

When someone criticises you ask yourself these 3 questions: Is it solicited? Is it constructive/coming from a good place? Are they receptive to criticism themselves? If the answer to any of the above is no, disengage. Protect your peace. Your mental health is too precious.

increasingly convinced the body is like this insane fractal database for storing emotions and particularly emotional pain. I’ve had a great life, am generally quite happy, and releasing the pain doesn’t cause suffering, but the raw amount I’ve found in there is absurd

replacing “i don’t know” with “unfortunately the answer would drive you to madness” in all work emails going forward

money shame is funny bc you can experience both "it's shameful because the numbers are too high" and "it's shameful because the numbers are too low," possibly about the exact same numbers, or at the same time, or in the same context

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wow that’s a great question I wasn’t expecting that question

This guy compiled two years of DIY-mattress research into a two hour non-monetized video, the whole time shitting on the corrupt sell-out admin of a big mattress forum. Saved me a lot of time researching. Look at the comments. Divine Internet.

remembering a conversation with an ex, years ago we were talking about the concept of "believing you deserve to be loved". i said i don't believe anyone *deserves* anything a priori. she said, "it doesn't mean deserve as in be entitled to. it means deserve as in be worthy of." i said, "but what does it mean to believe you're worthy of something?" she said, "it means that when it happens to you, you let it :)" at that moment, i was enlightened

Your body chooses your soulmate before your brain knows why. That's what Dr. Stephen Porges discovered after 45 years of studying trauma and human psychology. His message? Love starts in your nervous system. Here's his full protocol:🧵

How strange to find that your mistakes have been adding up to exactly who you needed to become.

every year i send her flowers from ryan gosling and pretend to be angry and vow to track him down

“I cannot remember any of the things that were on my list of things to do. I will just have to sit here and do nothing,” said Toad.

Somatic Therapy is the best way to release stored trauma, regulate emotions, and heal chronic stress. Here's everything you need to know about it (backed by science): 🧵

Noticed myself compulsively checking my phone this morning. Traced it back to an inner sense of deadness I was trying to escape. When I finally let myself feel the deadness fully, I cried a little. And then found more aliveness than all that checking ever gave me.

How r people so productive on train journeys i literally just experience 4 hrs of Big Thought

have you tried not reaching for your phone as soon as you feel a difficult emotion and instead just letting the emotion flow through you for a few seconds and set you free about the problem

idk who needs to hear this but you can just treat your kid like an adult straight out of the womb, it's your parenthood- my dad turned every chicken dinner into a lecture on diapsid evolution & you can just start telling your kid about napoleon & atomic bombs when they're like 4

new behavioral short circuit that’s working for the toddler this week *toddler is vaguely upset* “Are you (animal?) do you need some (food that little animal would eat??)” *light switches on in toddler brain, sniffling stops, pretends to eat animal food from your hand*