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you only get: 1 summer with them as a baby 3 as a toddler 5 as a child 3 as a preteen 6 as a teen so let them run barefoot, turn on the sprinkler, cut up the watermelon, chase fireflies under fading golden skies because the summers of sticky hands, sun tired kids, and slow evenings filled with the sounds of childhood do not last forever 🤍

@FU_joehudson Is this the fun criterion, right, @reasonisfun ?

The older I get, the more I'm convinced that enjoyment is one of the most underrated skills. If it costs a gallon of energy to move a mile, it doesn't matter how fast you go. You're not efficient. The person who finishes the day energized will always outpace the one finishing depleted.

See it once, and you never forget it. 📽️ H. Joachim Schlichting

El test de Warren Buffett para determinar si vives una vida afortunada: “Warren Buffett suele proponer el siguiente experimento mental: imagina que cada ser humano vivo actualmente —los ocho mil millones de almas en la Tierra— es una canica colocada en un enorme frasco. Si te dieran la oportunidad, ¿meterías tu canica junto con las demás, agitarías el frasco, sacarías otra canica al azar y vivirías esa vida en su lugar? Si la respuesta es no, entonces sabes que tienes una vida afortunada.”

@elonmusk What is true (or better: what our best explanations are) depends not on: 1. The expertise of physicists 2. What anyone “thinks” 3. Probability 4. Consensus It depends on reality (or our *hard to vary* accounts of it). The “simulation hypothesis” is *exceedingly* easy to vary.

This is a 1000-gram iron bar. In its raw form, it’s worth around $100. If it’s turned into horseshoes, its value rises to about $250. If it’s made into sewing needles, its value jumps to roughly $70,000. If it’s crafted into watch springs and gears, it can be worth around $6 million. And if it’s transformed into precision laser components, like those used in lithography, its value can reach $15 million. Your value is not defined only by what you are made of, but by how well you shape your potential into something extraordinary.

everyone told me having a kid would slow me down but my son is 9 months old now and i feel like my life just started this is my first time reflecting on it publicly. here's everything i've learned so far: 1. everything before feels like a prequel of a movie. like i was living in a draft version of my own life and didn't know it 2. my bullshit detector went through the roof. if something doesn't get me closer to where i want to be or it cuts into time with my son, i just don't do it. zero hesitation 3. i used to spend so much time circling around my own thoughts. overthinking, optimizing, generally self-obsessed. having a kid quietly turns that off. people say you lose yourself when you have a kid. i think that's actually the point 4. being present becomes easy. with a kid you have to be. you can't get sucked into your phone. just sitting on the floor playing and laughing is honestly like a spiritual practice 5. your relationship with your parents changes overnight. you see them as equals for the first time. you realize they were your age or younger doing the exact same thing. suddenly you understand how much they sacrificed and any bad blood just gets a new reference point 6. watching my girlfriend become a mother is one of the most beautiful things i've seen. she wanted this earlier than me. now i feel like a complete idiot for ever doubting it 7. birth and postpartum were scary. she dealt with hormonal depression and it took a while to recover. she's the most upbeat person i know so seeing her like that was rough. my respect for what women go through changed completely 8. i miss one-on-one time with my girlfriend. that's been the hardest part. i sometimes miss the old life. but i wouldn't go back. i would have just kept living the same way forever 9. some friendships just stop working. having a kid makes lifestyle mismatches obvious fast. you only see it once you're in it 10. having a child completely changed why i use AI. it's way more about having time to live and be with my son than about maxing productivity so i can do more. the whole equation flipped 11. building my life the way i did is paying off now. working from home, being self-employed, being able to afford help with cleaning and meals. all of that eats your time like crazy once you have a kid. and i get to see my son multiple times during my workday. just pick him up, play a little, eat together. those moments make a huge difference 12. every time i step into more responsibility it gives me more purpose. running a company, employing people, being a parent. your capacity for what you think you can handle just grows 13. nobody prepares you for how 24/7 it is. it just doesn't stop. it trains your mental capacity in a way nothing else does 14. your motivation for everything shifts. health, fitness, work. stuff that used to annoy me i just do now because i know who i'm doing it for 15. one fear i carry: that i'm spending too much time working on something that won't matter and trading away time with my son. he doesn't care how much money i make 16. everyone suddenly has an opinion on how you should raise your kid. you have to know your values and hold them 17. you start understanding what's actually good for humans. clean food, nature, less screens. for a child you really want all of that to be true. it changes how you think about where and how to live 18. the love is 10 orders of magnitude more than anything i've ever felt. some biological switch flips and you can't understand it until it happens to you. i'd heard people talk about it my whole life but nothing prepares you 19. sometimes in the evening when he's asleep i look at pictures from that day and just feel so happy. and every time i realize how much is still ahead. he can't even talk yet. someone said it's the reverse of losing someone. when someone dies you think about all the things you can't do anymore. with a child every day you realize all the things you're about to experience together 20. a child heals you. i don't need to use the word trauma but something shifted on a nervous system level. 100x'd my appreciation for life even with the sleep deprivation 21. i want my son to look up to me for the values i represent. you can't teach a child anything if you're not the example yourself

El ejercicio no te quita tiempo con la familia. Te da muchos años extra con ella.

Miguel Anxo Bastos sobre el tiempo como capital financiero.

Así es como las familias judías entrenan a sus hijos:

Hot take as a woman who actually has really wholesome female friendships: male friendships are kind of… insane. two men can hang out for 4 hours, say maybe 17 total words, share a bag of chips, send each other one stupid reel, and go home like “great catching up bro.” no emotional recap. no post-hangout analysis. no “did I say something weird when I laughed?” they can go 6 months without talking, then meet again and immediately pick up the exact same joke from 2017. women meanwhile will do a full psychological autopsy on a slightly delayed reply. I’m not even judging. I’m just observing a level of emotional minimalism that feels both deeply confusing and… kind of powerful.

Not a phrase, but a practice. > It's called 'Staylistening' > The practice of sitting with your child through their big emotions without trying to distract, fix, or stop them. > I thought I was doing it for them. > But I realized quickly that any emotion I couldn't welcome in my kids, I also couldn't welcome in myself. > And by learning to welcome them in my kids, I learned to welcome them in myself. > It was a transformative discovery. And it made my daughters some of the the greatest teachers I ever had. > Before they were in my life, I could sit on a meditation pillow and fool myself that I was at peace with all things. They pointed me to everything I still resisted.

@nntaleb Ido Portal

Now I am curious: which well-known people (currently alive) you think are close to 0.

@nntaleb David Deutsch

@elonmusk @Rainmaker1973 It may or may not be discrete. But there is no reason to suppose that it is discrete at the scale of the Planck distance, any more than at the scale of the Planck mass.

This is what economic suicide looks like;

@FinFreedom414 With option A you can start a family at 40

Imagine you had to choose your life at age 40: Option A: Single. No kids. $10M net worth. Travel anywhere. Total freedom. Quiet house. Quiet holidays. Option B: Married. 3 kids. $1M net worth. Drive a Toyota. Chaos every morning. Loud house. Full dinner table. Be honest, which life are you choosing?

I refuse to shop at stores with this kind of obnoxious anti-competitive virtue signaling. Being bad at scaling your business isn't a virtue. Run a small business because you love the smallness, not because you hate the business people who choose to serve more customers.

One of my favorite quotes: “Time is a game only children play well.” - David Berman

@inklight22 @astupple @chrisman Yes! Time is absolutely a key factor here. The distraction should come not too early

@astupple @chrisman I'm not crazy about introspection, but some experiences should be metabolized (not ruminated over).

Raising our fourth toddler has made it incredibly obvious the way to deal with negative emotions is distraction. Oh you're crying because you hit your head? Is that a bird outside? Problem solved.